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Women at the top

It would be great if it was true, however the reality is not that bright.
In reality only 5% of female billionaires have made their wealth, and 95% female billionaires have inherited their wealth from a MAN.
On the other hand 90% of men billionaires made their wealth.
It is very sad, but women are still very far from attaining the top. ... yface.html
by FemiWoolf in Feminism
Tue Dec 1 2:35 PM

Feminists on whisper app. Also, backgrounds!

Actually, the stats are biased my darling, because it study only the relationship and exclude all the murders in wich the victim was unrelated to the murderer. In fact, males are 3x times more likely to be murdered than females
Whisper is an entertaining application and it shouldn't use for such serious topics especially when the informations are biased and mislead to sexism by FemiWoolf in Feminism
Tue Dec 1 2:08 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

^ I don't know if you'd call it girly or not but I found it violent and bombarding. All of them were violent but the last one was like... holy crap, can you pause for 5 minutes so I can catch my breath?

The only argument the person haf who said it was 'girly' was the audiences for these were mostly women. by Unvoiced_Apollo in Mixed Media
Tue Dec 1 12:14 PM

What movies are you looking forward to for 2016?

Is Moana based on something else? I thought that one was gonna be an original story.

I'm looking forward to that one and I might check out the new Ghostbusters even though I really didn't care for the original.

Not that I'm aware of, beyond Disney borrowing taking Mauai from Polynesian mythology. Beyond that, I think it'll be their first Disney Princess movie that's an original property (unless you want to count Frozen due to all the changes from Snow Queen).
by Unvoiced_Apollo in Mixed Media
Tue Dec 1 12:10 PM

Hello :)

Hello, My name is Niko, I am 17 in USA and got here by wanting to learn more about Feminism after watching a video on YouTube that kind of weird me out so I thought to find a place where I can get better answers.

So just wanted to say hi :D by lilOlympi in New Members
Tue Dec 1 4:10 AM

Interviewing protocol

So I wanted to let you all know your advice helped. The first place offered me the job to start immediately. I went back to the second one to ask when they'd make a decision and they told me they hadn't even advertised it yet so I was the only candidate and they were still interested in me (which explains why they actually interviewed me for a different job than I'd applied for - not to self: ask for a job description before the interview). They didn't get back to me again for another week though, by which time I'd already started at the other place. The strange thing is the woman left me a voicemail asking me to "feel free to call me", with still no hint what about. It was the end of the week so I called on the following Monday only to be told she was out of the country all week! I left a message and haven't heard back. I'm thinking that maybe I had a lucky escape and I'm glad I took the other job, which has been working out well. So thanks everyone! by antfancier in Careers & Education
Mon Nov 30 10:31 PM

What should I do if people are too loud in the theatre for Star Wars?

Or, and this is my favorite, lose it completely and stand up at some point and shout "will you people just shut the fuck up!?". Nothing I like better than a little dose of public outrage.

If you're afraid of what might happen if you lose it, you could save up all your rage until the end. When I saw Return of the King, there were a couple of teenagers being really obnoxious, talking and using their cellphones. Even their friends were telling them to shut up. Once credits started rolling, the guy behind me got up and grabbed one of them in a headlock and poured cola all over him whilst asking if he thought he was being funny by acting like such a little shit. by antfancier in Random
Mon Nov 30 10:20 PM

Will Star Wars disappoint?

I find your lack of faith disturbing.

I'd argue that George Lucas more than anyone sanitized his own creation. Disney has done wonders with the MCU, including the street level heroes on netflix. And it's clear to me Disney could very well know what it's doing:

That said, my expectations are probably too high. But I'm still looking forward to it. by Unvoiced_Apollo in Polls
Mon Nov 30 7:08 PM

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Mon Nov 30 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Nov 30 3:00 AM

How to build a human

I just thought this was a really cool animated infographic, except I don't know how to link to it directly (using an iPad here and things are confusing) so you'll have to follow this link: by antfancier in Science & Technology
Sun Nov 29 4:01 PM

Do you have a loud voice?

I can speak loud, but my ordinary talking voice (when not teaching) is not too loud.

One of my colleagues practically sounds like he's yelling in a two-person conversation. The volume is almost entirely unintentional. by Sonic# in Random
Sun Nov 29 2:59 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Nov 29 3:00 AM

What hurt your feelings?

I used to deliberately keep my mug at work quite badly tea-stained so that it was really unappealing for anyone else to use. I actually once went to use it and found it already had a spoonful of coffee and of sugar in it. Evidently someone had grabbed it and started to make themselves a coffee before actually looking at the condition of the inside of the mug, so my tactic worked! On the other hand, I thought putting the mug back with coffee and sugar still in it was rather audacious (although what else can you expect from a mug thief?). by Gnarlbanya in Random
Sat Nov 28 11:38 PM

What's something you actually like about Thanksgiving?

^ I spent mine with my in-laws as well. It was different. I missed my family a lot, partly because we didn't eat until after 7 and we were the only ones to bring food to munch on in the meantime.

We did play games though. Ultimately that's what I love the most - hanging out and being with others. Given that most days I'd rather curl up alone with a book, it's a pleasant occasional variation to visit people I like. :) by Sonic# in Random
Sat Nov 28 7:19 PM

Disney's Naming Convention

When I was a kid girly actually meant shitty story line. A lot of "feminine" titles or movies were (and in the case of rom-coms still are) girls meets boy, girls falls for boy, boy fucks up, boy wins back girl. The feel good part of it doesn't hold up if it's the 15th time you see someone go running across New York to catch someone before they get on a plane/train/automobile and leave the city forever.

Funny enough, I've never thought of the Princess Bride or Princess Mononoke as "girly". It's funny how differently people perceive even something as simple as a word or movie title. Go diversity! :D by Nech in Feminism
Sat Nov 28 4:20 PM

holiday shopping lists - kids/babies edition!

My 3 yo nephew wants a pink (or pink and black) watch for Christmas. My sister also threw in a requirement that it not have a character he didn't know on it and he's not a terribly pop cultured kid. It was ridiculous even finding one that met those criteria for his age range and then to try and find a pink watch which won't result in mocking on the playground and at preschool?? OMG difficult. Eventually I found a pink ninja turtles one which I think works. Hopefully he likes it! It really bought home for me the gender divide with kids things. There are so few neutral things in that age range. It's weird how it's actually worse than adults or even older kids.
by Enigma in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Nov 28 4:01 PM

Racist Christmas songs

This is a very interesting discussion. I won't deny that playing the original song with awareness of historical context is perfectly fine. And the original spirit of the xmas song wasn't racist by any means. But I'm less sure I'm ok with it being playing constantly on mainstream radio stations blasting away in malls. I highly doubt many people are thinking about historical context in that kind of situation. And I those words are giving me an ick feeling I'd really like to ask a native person or an Asian person how they feel when they hear it. I will admit I didn't even know it was John Lennon and he certainly does hold a large place in the public imagination. Mind you I think here they play the John Lennon version about 2/3s of the time and a cover Celine Dion did about 1/3 of the time. There is no reason her version couldn't have rearranged that little bit of the song (it didn't).
by Enigma in Ranting
Sat Nov 28 3:40 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Nov 28 3:00 AM

Bad Feminist

I read some of the essays. Some of them I really enjoyed, but I didn't finish the book because I wasn't really interested in most of them. Literary criticism about books I haven't read is hard for me, even if the overall thesis of the essay is something I find interesting.
Was it the sweet valley twins one? I have to admit I read a ton of those as a kid and found that part extremely interesting. by Enigma in Mixed Media
Fri Nov 27 10:45 PM

medicated vs. unmedicated birth

^ How did you get your baby to be a model for an online organic baby care store? (URL in spoilers below) by Sonic# in Pregnancy & Parenting
Fri Nov 27 2:13 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Nov 27 3:00 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Nov 26 3:00 AM

Looking for Christian feminist friends

Sorry for double-posting, but it seems that the Baptist is the right denomination for me, as their doctrine is Biblically feminist. I'm planning to attend a Baptist church sometime soon.
Has anyone attended one? by Alex Hofstadter in Random
Wed Nov 25 3:17 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Nov 25 3:00 AM

post mindlessly amusing links here

My husband wrote this (I think) hilarious screed against most/many children's toys...

This is a slightly self promoting post, but seriously... Most kids toys are THE WORST ... ay_18.html by Metcodon1 in Mixed Media
Tue Nov 24 6:26 PM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Nov 24 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Nov 24 3:00 AM

cats & cucumbers

My sister posted this big rant on facebook about how it's terrible to intentionally scare your animals for amusement because they rely on us for love and protection.

And this was right after (literally, like a day) she excused her husband's behavior when he fired off a cap gun in the presence of my husband, who he knows to have PTSD, with no warning, for the sake of a joke, then acted like my husband was an asshole for not finding the humor in it.

Seriously, sister, fuck your cat. by ladyhawk in Random
Mon Nov 23 1:04 PM

We're wrong on the history of political correctness

(My biggest challenge is removing ableist language from my speech.)

here ya there... especially in the last year I've tried to drop this nasty habit I had of asking people if they were crazy, off their meds, mentally ill etc in a way that was meant to be funny. by spacefem in Feminism
Mon Nov 23 1:52 AM

Feminism 001

But I take it you don't have any issues with my points then, which is nice.

I have lots of issues with your points. I've just reached a point where I'm exhausted with the snark and the tone, including this quoted bit here, which implies that I have no issue with what I don't expressly speak up about. Silence as consent? No, thank you. Projecting? Not getting analogies? Being homophobic? No, no, and no. Those were personal attacks, I hate how those make me feel, and I don't like the kind of person I am when I respond in kind. So I'm stepping away, because that's not worth the effort.
by Cicero in Feminism
Sun Nov 22 1:48 AM

Intro, orig. in Feminism 001

We ask that people read and respond to some threads before starting new ones, that's why you couldn't find a button to start a thread.

Patriarchy is a society where men tend to have power over women. They get this power from privilege. See: viewtopic.php?f=40&t=43735

Cis refers to "living as the gender you were assigned at birth", in other words not transgendered. I was born with a vagina, I identify as female, life's been easy for me that way, I'm cis-gendered. by spacefem in New Members
Sat Nov 21 8:20 PM

Mockingjay Pt. 2

I would rather that is had been a trilogy, because y'know there were 3 books and 3 is kinda a better number than 4, for a series of films, but I guess the filmmakers felt they couldn't put all of book 3 into one film. Honestly I have a hard time picking a favourite from the 4 films. They all left me feeling about equally satisfied. Bearing in mind that I haven't read the books and generally don't read fiction at all these days. I never really wanted to see the first Hunger Games film, but a friend invited me and I liked it so much that I wanted continue watching the series. I think I'd be inclined to view the films a little differently to one who was used to watching or reading sci-fi. I was pleasantly surprised that the filmmakers could hold it up, so to speak, for as long as they did. I told my friend that I'm inclined to put up there with the Star Wars trilogy(IV-VI). Certainly I liked it better than the Lord of the Rings trilogy. I suppose that's blasphemy to some, but whatever, that's how I feel. by AndrewZealand in Mixed Media
Fri Nov 20 5:12 AM

What leads to aggression in men as a whole?

I can't understand how everyone is so down with rippin on men when it seems like over half the frequent posters here are men.

Internalised oppression? ;D by Cicero in Feminism
Tue Nov 17 3:59 AM

Feminism - not a hate movement?

billy, you're giving sanction to harassment by suggesting that other people should be as cool with harassment as you are. That's not cool, especially since you also suggest with your advice to not have consistent usernames that avoiding harassment is important. If you didn't feel unsafe, why do all of those things? Why haven't you shut down your computer? You obviously have some standard for safety. Let other people have their standard.
by Cicero in Feminism
Tue Nov 17 1:24 AM