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There are plenty of good German restaurants in the midwest in the US. Heavy German populations. :) There's one here that does a good hasenpfeffer & makes their own sausages in house. by rowan in New Members
Wed Mar 29 4:27 AM

Immersive theatre

Darlings! I have just been part of an amazing experience. I was part of a team for an immersive performance installation. ... nav_search

It was beautiful. It was ugly. It was intense. It was relaxing. It was philosophical and it provided a unique insight in the human psyche.

The premise was that we were a cult under the leadership of a charismatic leader we called Papa who taught us lessons in quite a sadistic way and we were inviting guests into our world to find more members.
by Nachos in Mixed Media
Tue Mar 28 6:04 PM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Mar 28 3:00 PM

Why are men so ready to complain...

I’m sorry to say, but I don’t think that putting only a urinal is a good idea. Doing number 1s and 2s should be a natural right, regardless of one's sex. Having a urinal, on the other hand, is counterproductive. In my view, it was simply poorly planned….and if guys have to do number 2s, I think they ought to be allowed to actual female facilities at his point (given that the space is conceived for only one person to be in that toilet, which I suppose it is) and otherwise suffer an excruciating pain we all may have encountered in our lifetime... by sadsmile123 in Feminism
Tue Mar 28 11:46 AM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Mar 28 3:00 AM

what would you do with a wildebeest?

I'd ask it "Do most people call you wildebeest, or gnu? And which would you rather go by? Because, to be honest, I don;t think I've ever used the word 'wildebeest'" And, of course, the wildebeest responds 'cause this is my fantasy. by DarkOne in Random
Mon Mar 27 6:32 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Mar 27 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Mar 27 3:00 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Mar 26 3:00 AM

How do you pass time at boring parties?

I second the playing with pets thing (if no pets, kids may sometimes suffice). I'll also try to strike up a one on one conversation (which I'm much better at than groups) or ask if I can help out with whatever's going on in the kitchen. If all else fails, hang out by the snacks. by Eravial in Random
Sat Mar 25 7:47 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Mar 25 3:00 AM

Happy birthday DarkOne!

Hope it feels better!
Thanks. It does. The spasms have subsided, but the muscle relaxants turned me useless for a day.
OK, so I'd heard of Arnica, but had never really looked into it. The interwebz accounts are fascinating!: "It works, we're not sure why, in theory it shouldn't, I understand this, but seriously it works!" Reminds me of Vicks Vapor Rub on foot soles for coughs: I don't understand the science behind it, but it seems to help. Now I'm intrigued... Home experiments are in order. :D by DarkOne in Random
Fri Mar 24 2:09 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Mar 24 3:00 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Mar 23 3:00 AM

Total Solar Eclipse 2017

*sad European in Europe with no eclipse*
Geez, Europe doesn't get a total solar eclipse util 2026 (and then only Spain/Portugal) and then not another until 2081... damn. by DarkOne in Science & Technology
Wed Mar 22 2:01 PM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Mar 22 3:00 AM

what's the last movie you saw?

I watched the Thai film Ong Bak: The Beginning*. Not the deepest of plots but lots of great martial arts action :) :4houses:

*Click link to read my full review on the IMDb. by Tweek in Mixed Media
Mon Mar 20 4:52 PM

Gender and racial biases in professor's newsvideo

I came across the video from a link unrelated to this post and it took me a few moments after seeing it to make the connection to this post. I did not think "nanny". I thought Mom. And I did not think "fear"; I thought, amused, "I know you're trying to be inconspicuous, but I can still see you". And I'm sure it's because I'm projecting my own experience: I'm a mom. My dad's a professor, my mom a SAHM. I dont think we could have afforded a nanny. I've never really been around people who have nannies -- nannies only show up on TV, along with butlers, awesome treehouses, and people dancing at house parties. And I grew up pretty sheltered from domestic violence or emotional abuse, so my brain did not see "fear" either. I saw what I'm used to seeing (i.e. a mom dealing with kids, people unnecessarily leaning in on pictures when there's a good 2 feet of space between the people and the picture frame). Almost every post I've seen here seems to fill in the gaps in the video with our own experiences, at least as a knee-jerk reaction.
by DarkOne in Feminism
Mon Mar 20 2:11 PM

Women's consent in bed?

Reverse image search! If you use Google's image search (, look for a camera in the right side of the search bar. Click on it, and you can upload/link to an image that you want to find. You'll usually get different places that the image has been used, and sometimes images like the one you posted. One time I was able to find where a JRPG had recycled an actual image of a stained glass window in a church in that game using a high-contrast screenshot. by Sonic# in Feminism
Fri Mar 17 6:40 PM

what are you reading?

I finished Testosterone Rex. Great book!

I'm reading The Only Woman in the Room: Why Science Is Still a Boys' Club by Eileen Pollack. The first half (which I'm still in) is a memoir reflecting on Pollack's early educational experiences, which culminated in her being one of the first two women to earn a bachelor of science degree in physics from Yale, only to leave science entirely to become a creative writer. Why did she do this? That's the big question, and her adept writing so far has revealed how difficult it was to even get pursue science in the first place, and how many ways she had been made to feel insecure of herself in that pursuit. The second half of the book promises to engage with many other examples: "six years of interviewing dozens of teachers and students and reviewing studies on gender bias," the back cover promises. I'll let you know how that goes, but I'd recommend it for the first half of the book alone. by Sonic# in Mixed Media
Thu Mar 16 11:02 PM

26 Multicultural Picture Books about Inspiring Women & Girls

Oh, I especially like this one:

Wilma Unlimited: How Wilma Rudolph Became the World’s Fastest Woman by Kathleen Krull. Wilma Rudolph was a local hero, the fastest woman alive in the 1960 Olympics, and my mom liked using her book in the classroom. It's a really good book, and the paperback's only $6. by Sonic# in Mixed Media
Wed Mar 15 2:40 AM

Nerdy bachelorette party ideas?

I'm still jealous of my brother's bachelor party where his friends each gave him a board game. Sounded way more fun than any of these types of shindigs that I've attended.

Ever since a friend of mine made me some agar agar dessert, I've wanted to make something similar and serve it in petri dishes. by melsbells in Science & Technology
Tue Mar 14 8:55 PM

Women's self defense

The model mugging class which Galen talks about has the important advantage of overcoming inhibitions, which was also referred in some other posts. Most likely, the victim is not a violent person and will be inhibited of actually hitting the attacker because it is not in her nature to do that. by Ana in Random
Sun Mar 12 7:27 PM

What is your favorite number?

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by Unvoiced_Apollo in Random
Sat Mar 11 5:02 AM

Lack of women in music lists

Thanks for these tips. Coeur de Pirate, Metric and Renaissance seem worth exploring. Some other recent artists that I like: Lana Del Rey, Grimes, Amy Macdonald, Marina & the Diamonds, Florence + The Machine, Chvrches, Beyoncé, Solange, Janelle Monáe, Lindi Ortega, Jessie Ware, Norah Jones, Anoushka Shankar, Aziza Brahim... In the age of the Internet you're not limited to radio formats. by Medea in Mixed Media
Fri Mar 10 8:48 PM

Women only companies. A disaster!

I just read the second blog post. Switch the genders and you have my work experience with men. I think if she's having so much trouble with women I suggest she start telling them they are acting unprofessional. I've never had a working relationship with a woman I didn't like that wasn't just a working relationship. If a man disliked me however if was a constant battle.
Just because I have several experiences with man-babies doesn't tell me that all men are man-babies though. People are just people after all. by Taurwen in Feminism
Fri Mar 10 3:26 PM

Is beauty a cultural fabrication?

Do they? That implies that the present cultural shaming would inspire people to no longer be overweight if this messaging were absent, or that the only thing holding people back from reducing their weight is whether they feel satisfied with their current body. I don't think there's evidence to support that. What I've seen suggests that poor body image or self-esteem makes one more likely to be unhealthy. One article shows that higher self-compassion helps women with higher BMI resist falling into eating disorders. Another connects greater body appreciation among adolescent girls to avoiding smoking and alcohol use. Many people are unsatisfied with their bodily self-image; such dissatisfaction alone doesn't help them change their bodies.
by space_guy in Random
Thu Mar 9 8:10 PM