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What would some of the chapters be called in the book about your life?

"I swear I'm really good with Animals."
"A list of animals I've been bitten by."
"Why am I still not in school?"
"Becoming a Barista."
"I won't say I'm in love."
"This friendship is definitely toxic... right?"
"Becoming an Gelato Maker."
"Oh god, I don't want to be a Gelato Maker."
"Okay, I'm in a love."
"First year at University. Yay!"
"Second Year at University. Yay!"
by Taurwen in Random
Fri Jul 29 4:35 PM

Ghostbusters is a terrible film.

Yeah, trolls be crazy. I was laughing hysterically 90% of the time watching it. It was one of the funniest movies I've seen in a long time.

I had a moment on the way home on the train after watching this fucking hilarious movie with like maaybe 20 people in the audience, with one cheek off the seat due to the massive manspreader on one side listening to the dude on the other side of me wake up the woman he was with for no apparent reason and then make fun of her, when I just wanted to office style stare at the camera. I'm 100% done today. Sexism doesn't happen. Sure. Okay. by Enigma in Feminism
Fri Jul 29 3:00 AM

Manic Pixie Dream Girl and other tropes

The trope that annoys me the most is the one (and there can only be one) woman in the action movie group who in the end steps back (or falls back) to make room for the action hero's glory. Also maybe they make out.

Yeah, the Trinity syndrome. For the life of me, I'll never understand why Neo and Trinity didn't double team Agent Smith in Matrix 1.

In matrix 2, how come Morpheus can hold his own against an agent yet Trinity gets curbstomped. She can't take an agent's punches, but can apparently survive being hit by Neo at Mach 8.
by Pikachu in Feminism
Thu Jul 28 3:27 PM

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Thu Jul 28 3:00 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Jul 28 3:00 AM

tell us about you testicles?

Not much to say about me testicles, they just sorta hang there.

Do your balls hang low?
Do they wobble to and fro?
Can you tie 'em in a knot?
Can you tie 'em in a bow?
Can you throw 'em o'er your shoulder
Like a continental soldier
Do your balls hang low?
I'm upper, upper class high society
God's gift to ballroom notoriety
by monk in Random
Thu Jul 28 12:09 AM

Happy 12th spacefemmiversary Storage and Disposal!

Does it really count as remembering if Spacebot posted a thread?

Also, how do we really know this is actually your 'femmiversary? There have been some inaccuracies regarding certain dates in the past, and I just don't know if I can trust this. by Bork in Random
Wed Jul 27 11:21 PM


Welcome to the board! I used to know a lot of French. Now I'm barely conversant.

I know that such a thing as good cake exists. That said, if we're talking about easy to acquire or make well desserts, I humbly submit chocolate truffles, or really anything that's dense and with chocolate. I guess you could call it Flavored sugar with dairy product and cocoa. by Sonic# in New Members
Wed Jul 27 9:48 PM

Gotcha Question : Are you a Feminist?

It should be of their own accord though. They shouldn't be put on the spot like that by media outlets who are only doing it in the hope that the celebrity will put their foot in their mouth. These outlets don't really deserve any more than a stock reply that denies them the sensationalism they're after. by Pikachu in Feminism
Wed Jul 27 7:30 PM

Pokémon GO!

Only? I'm still level 8.
Hah. I meant only level 14 after my last post where I was level 11... quite some time had passed.

I've had more time to play now (and used a lucky egg and mass evolved things for 30 minutes), and now I'm level 18, so... yeah.

I also hatched a 10km egg today and it was a goddamn Snorlax. 1597 CP. I took on a few gyms successfully for the first time today. Previously my best Pokemon was a Vaporeon (got it using the naming Easter Egg) that I evolved from a pretty solid (400+) Eevee. That one is at 1099 CP.
by cwbyrvr in Random
Wed Jul 27 5:28 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Jul 27 3:00 AM

Dietary Claims

It really helps you be a more discerning consumer to know about these FDA labelling "loopholes." For example, if something has cocoa solids but no cocoa butter (they use some lower quality fat) they cannot technically label it chocolate, but they can use words like "chocolatey" or "chocolate flavored". If there is less than 1 gram of trans fat per serving in a food item, they are allowed to list it as 0 grams- but they can't put the words "no trans fats" on the package. So, if it has "0 grams trans fat!" splashed across the front, look at the ingredients and I guarantee it contains partially hydrogenated oils. All they have to do is crank down the recommended serving size until it's .9 grams of trans fats or less. Honestly, don't even look at anything but the ingredients- that nutrition facts panel is only moderately useful, and don't even bother reading the front label- they can put almost anything on there. by Rainbow Dolphins in Ranting
Wed Jul 27 12:34 AM

Hello Everyone!

Welcome ares2444!

Just a couple of points of advice:
1. Read the FAQ (link at the top) and start your own thread introducing yourself. That helps distinguish yourself from the person whose introduction thread you've taken over. (The other new people who posted here before you should have done the same thing.)
2. A tip on having a successful discussion about your own material - just speaking for myself, I don't have that much reason to read a post from someone I don't know. I need more information to entice me. As for forum policy, the rules make this point:
by Sonic# in New Members
Tue Jul 26 3:21 PM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Jul 26 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Jul 26 3:00 AM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Jul 25 3:00 PM

I just wanted to inform you about our project.

I wouldn't normally indulge advertisements, but...what arr you doing differently other groups already aren't that have already been covering these or similar topics? Why market the magazine to just women gamers? I can assure you there are make feminist/feminist supporting gamers out there and I'd be willing to bet they'd love to know how to speak up better against what's been going on as well. If that's not what you foresee your path being, I understand, I just think you might be missing out on a demographic that would only be a boon to you. by Unvoiced_Apollo in New Members
Mon Jul 25 1:03 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Jul 25 3:00 AM

what are you reading?

@iamthegate, I suppose that depends on what you're getting out of it. One of the things I like about the denseness of Dostoyevsky and other Russian lit that I've read is that I can't breeze though a book. I have to make reading much more intentional compared to when I was recently reading books from Discworld where I just picked up the book any chance I got. Here I only get through one or two chapters a day while the kid is sleeping and if my mind wanders, I have to reread a bit. I'm getting a lot more out of this book than the last time I read it just because I feel like I can make more connections to other things I've encountered, like other Russian lit, philosopohical texts by existentialists and other phenomenologists, Chinese communist writers from before and during the revolution, A catcher in the Rye, and past experiences with mental health.
by iamthegate in Mixed Media
Sun Jul 24 8:49 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

Star Trek: Beyond. I enjoyed it despite its being another one of those films where I didn't really like the first trailer. I think it's the most thoughtful of the new Trek films. :4houses: by Sonic# in Mixed Media
Sun Jul 24 1:55 PM

"Life: The Leading Edge" of demonstrating the profound sexism in science

Academia sucks a lot that way. :( Hope she finds something awesome to do with her life afterward that is better than academia. by rowan in Science & Technology
Sun Jul 24 4:29 AM

Sexism in preference

It's one thing to have a preference, but it's another thing to openly decry equal representation.

Kind of reminds me of people who write in their dating profiles "no Asians" and then try to justify it as being a preference.

But if it's a preference, then you state your preference, you don't oppose other kinds of representation and preferences wholesale. That has -isms all over it.

So yeah... I think your friend is wrong for telling you that you have internalized sexism because you tend to relate to male characters in video games. It would be more sexist for you to openly bash the existence of female leads, like some gamers do. by Aum in Feminism
Sun Jul 24 3:34 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Jul 24 3:00 AM

What do you obsess over?


When I know I'm going to a place, I'll look up the map and directions. Many times I'll draw my own map to get a sense of where I'm going mentally. I'll pull up GPS on my phone, but manly keep it as a backup to tell me about traffic. I try to figure out mentally what direction I'm going in. I'm pretty good, but sometimes get turned around on windy roads.

When I'm not driving, I'll pull out an atlas or a map and figure out where we are. I like mapping out my own routes and seeing how they compare to routing.
by Sonic# in Random
Sun Jul 24 2:29 AM

annoyed by perverts

I'd look at it this way. If you were able to walk down the street totally naked, you still wouldn't be "asking for it". So if you post pics of yourself of any type on social media (akin to walking down the virtual street naked) you still should not be degraded by others. That's just human indecency shining through, which hopefully would get weeded out through reports/bans/blocking users of whatever site you use. Hopefully the social media you post on has a block/report function.
by geldofc in Ranting
Sat Jul 23 5:28 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Jul 23 3:00 AM

How NOT to help parents with a newborn

oh, lord, i am so tired of people telling me to "enjoy it!" regarding my newborn. and asking me if she is a "good baby." how could a baby be bad? and how does it make me enjoy her more to be reminded to do so? i imagine that if i was depressed and had a colicky baby these questions would be even more obnoxious. by missmay in Pregnancy & Parenting
Fri Jul 22 6:11 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Jul 22 3:00 AM

Denial Trends?

Sorry, if I was not able to mention other details. Actually, I have a (US) medicare insurance. And I am particularly referring to this denial management software which help clients with their claims. Thanks for your reply. :) by SameMom in Pregnancy & Parenting
Thu Jul 21 7:24 PM


When downhill skiing, I was gawking at somebody that had biffed it on the slope thinking of how embarrassing it must be for them, so I didn't take a curve as sharply as I should have. I went off the side of the trail which was a straight drop and ended up with my skis caught in a tree with me dangling upside down for everyone that passed to see. One guy biffed it at the end of the curve for gawking which made me feel slightly better, but it took me awhile to get both boots unclipped and then I had to climb up the tree in heavy boots to retrieve my skis. Took at least 15 or 20 minutes.
by geldofc in Ranting
Thu Jul 21 9:31 AM

Halloween costume ideas!?

re: the pajama idea..... that's a good idea. I really want the onesie now. Haha I've gone enough as sexy *raggedy ann, witch, cat.....* time to switch it up..:D

I like to try and make costumes out of items I'd wear anyway or easy to put together. I'm thinking of going as Prince Naveen or Dr. Facilier from "The Princess & the Frog" this year.
by geldofc in Random
Thu Jul 21 6:12 AM

>.< random misogyny encounter

I just encountered this horrible sexist advertisement while reading the news. I'am a little overweight and have tried different diets and bought books on amazon so I get all the adds for weight loss stuff and how to bake chocolate cakes. :p Anyway today I went on Gawker and found this: It just really made me feel like crap. Why would they have this kind of sexist crap on there!
by Annika in Ranting
Wed Jul 20 4:26 PM

Why Equal?

Arrow watch the double posting.

Brain size has no relation to intelligence fyi.

...Watch the double posting? Are you guys tight on bandwidth or something? No. Your Nazi tactics are invalid.

Of course brain size is deeply correlated to intelligence because otherwise, where does the intelligence come from? Dimension X? Klingon Space? It comes from the physical brain. The larger it is, the more brain cells (neurons?) there are. I'm sorry, there's just no way to get around basic physics and biology.
by Pikachu in Feminism
Wed Jul 20 3:04 AM

Where do you keep spare change?

In my wallet.

I actually spend my spare change. It's real money :P by Nachos in Random
Tue Jul 19 1:21 PM

What are you binge watching right now?

Netflix just got both star trek Voyager and ds9 so...

Yeah I saw that too...I just took a break from binging Supernatural to binge the new season of Marco Polo. Then the last two seasons of Game of Thrones. So when I finish off the Supernatural on Netflix it's going to be the Star Treks -.- by Nech in Mixed Media
Mon Jul 18 4:25 AM

Bladeless fan DIY and explanation

This is pretty cool. Now if only I had all the equipment needed to make one.... mind you, the heatwave in my city seems to have stopped for now. by Nachos in Science & Technology
Sun Jul 17 1:13 PM

do you check out butts?

I tried to but the library didn't have any

You just made me laugh out loud :P by Nachos in Random
Sun Jul 17 12:57 PM

Art supplies?

I don't know about their markers, but I have a set of dick blick colored pencils for casual use that I really like. Like you, I didn't feel justified in springing for prismacolors... it was a really good value for a good quality product, so their pens might be worth looking into. by Rainbow Dolphins in Mixed Media
Sun Jul 17 2:43 AM

Hey hi yes hello

The biggest picture of a pangolin I've seen was about the length of a man's forearms, though a giant pangolin would certainly be a sight to behold!

And sure here's the list...
our username, nicknames, how to pronounce it: pangolin, like mango with a "p" and a soft "a", and lin with a soft "i". You can also call me pango
Occupation/Potential Occupation: no idea
Educational Status: I'm still in high school
Notable Hobbies: I draw a lot, I'm also in choir and theatre
by pangolin in New Members
Sat Jul 16 9:58 PM


The unemployment office was really pushing self-employment when I first talked to them, I suppose because it makes their job easier. I initially shot it down because I don't think I'm agressive enough to be an entrepreneur. Maybe it's the lack of jobs available that makes me want to create my own, because I've been hearing a lot of other un(der)-employed people in my life talking about plans to start a business as well.

The start up costs shouldn't be too bad, seeing that I don't have aspirations to make enough to put me over the business tax threshold.
by melsbells in Careers & Education
Fri Jul 15 8:05 PM