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Fri Aug 26 3:00 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Aug 26 3:00 AM

what's the last movie you saw?

I saw Knights of Badassdom.

It's - intentionally - a bad horror film involving LARPing that gets a little too live action. Good cast. It's got very funny moments. I couldn't really get over the exclusive eroticization of female characters like that played by Summer Glau. Maybe it's because I'm worn thin on plots about guys trying to get over exes and finding new awesome girlfriends along the way. (For reference, my partner loves it in the same way she loves Mega Shark Versus Giant Octopus, and she wasn't bothered by the same thing.) :2houses: by Sonic# in Mixed Media
Thu Aug 25 10:16 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Aug 25 3:00 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Aug 24 3:00 AM

Pokémon GO!

A nest is where a certain type of Pokemon will often spawn. My local parks has 3 spots where the same Pokemon spawns couple times an hour (today with the nest rotation it changed from Mankeys to Growlithes, so I'm excited). You can often do "laps" and get 3-4 of a certain type an hour depending on how big the nest is and how close the spawns are from each other. If you have a dog it's great to hit a local park and just walk circles around the spawns. Dogh will love and you'll catch Mons.
by Nech in Random
Tue Aug 23 7:11 PM

Looking for someone to join our chat group on skype.

Dear SarahZ, are you even interested in joining our forum?
Yes, of course, otherwise I wouldn't have joined :) by SarahZ in New Members
Tue Aug 23 3:14 PM

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Tue Aug 23 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Aug 23 3:00 AM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Aug 22 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Aug 22 3:00 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Aug 21 3:00 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Aug 20 3:00 AM

Cry it out vs. Attachment

Everything I remember reading about this seemed fairly contradictory. As far as I could tell, there aren't actually any good studies available, which I suppose is expected when the subject matter is infant behavior. We ended up leaning toward attachment parenting because it fit our personalities better and then the kid's personality seemed to pull us decidedly in that direction. I was even convinced by doctors and nurses in the hospital to bed share, even though I was opposed to it from what I now see as fear mongering in the U.S. about safety. by melsbells in Pregnancy & Parenting
Thu Aug 18 9:39 PM

Why Equal?

Didn't read the whole thread, just replying to the OP: As humans the ideal is that we treat each other as equals no matter our individual differences and abilities. There are many more differences within sex than between such as cognitive abilities and personality. Much of the difference in psychological profile between men and women is socialization. As in maladaptive socialization. by Nerd1987 in Feminism
Tue Aug 16 1:57 AM

Manic Pixie Dream Girl and other tropes

Wow this thread was really interesting to me. I don't like the crazy bitch one either. Men can be pretty crazy and as I work with the public I have been made uneasy by many more men than women. Women are implicitly expected (still in 2016 I know) to be accommodating and play by the rules while men often times do not act this way and it's not surprising. by Nerd1987 in Feminism
Tue Aug 16 1:53 AM

Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?

I use to assume that those in helping professions or fighting for good causes would somehow be "progressive". As in they would think ahead of the curve. Sometimes I see that in practice people from any circle get caught up in their conventions and beliefs. I like to challenge everything. by Nerd1987 in Feminism
Tue Aug 16 1:44 AM

The cancer of radical sjws ruining feminism

There is this page called "everyday feminism" which is anything but everyday-feminism. I think they are what you are referring to. They have an opinion on everything and often suggest that you (especially if you are a white-male) erase your opinion from your mind and especially never utter a word of it. by Nerd1987 in Feminism
Tue Aug 16 1:41 AM

My feminist dilemma: I like being sexually dominated

I think it's ok as much as anything is ok. I have a habit of looking deeper into things so I'd say that some studies (sorry no reference) show that psychologically bdsm is healthy for the dom and not so much for the sub. However we like what we like and if I like pizza I'm going to eat pizza, not a salad. by Nerd1987 in Feminism
Tue Aug 16 1:38 AM

How More Female Police Officers Would Help Stop Police Brutality

Reshaping how the profession looks will attract different personality types. As it is now it attracts controlling men and women alike. I have personally had two sketchy encounters with female officers who in one case turned a routine stop into investigating what I purchased at the junk yard and another where the officer was confrontational with me. by Nerd1987 in Feminism
Tue Aug 16 1:33 AM

Evolution of an accidental meme on equality

I'd seen the one Meppi posted, but not the one Eravial posted.

The many boxes stacked up make me think of exclusive spaces in airports. That's yet another exclusive institution, as well as a metaphor the levels of access that people have. I have the necessary ID to go through a checkpoint, I'm on no lists, and I can afford to fly. However, there's always a level of status greater, shrouded in prestige and status. That in turn makes me think of neighborhoods and communities growing less diverse wealth-wise.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Fri Aug 12 7:01 PM

Sexism in preference

I too have preferences. In video games I tend to prefer female characters but I like them to be big and a bit beat up with scars and things if customization allows that. My favorite character in World of Warcraft is a Tauren female hunter because I love animals and the bow. I would expect other players to have preferences just like that. I don't think it makes you sexist to prefer a male character or to identify more with a male protagonist especially if when faced with watching a movie that features a character you don't immediately identify with you still get into the movie and still identify with your non-preferred protagonist.
by Unvoiced_Apollo in Feminism
Fri Aug 12 4:53 PM

As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?

I feel like dudes who are comfortable w their masculinity already support feminism and don't need a voice to whine about their problems and rights
they already fucking ave rights

This is just so stupid. If you speak about your problems its not whining is it?
or are you saying your not comfortable on with your femininity so it okay for you to whine? Doesn't make sense.
by geldofc in Feminism
Fri Aug 12 7:12 AM

Happy 13th spacefemmiversary Eravial!

Thanks y'all! This is pretty much the oldest non-family important thing in my life, so that's pretty neat.

Also, whoa, I have been a member of this forum for literally half of my life. O_O
Well, almost. I guess technically if you wanted to be precise that'd be in another few months, but... details.

ETA: Oh, apparently I rolled over 4000 posts sometime pretty recently too! Cool. by Eravial in Random
Fri Aug 12 1:56 AM

Do you use boil bags?

All I can think of is the Arrested Development episode where George Bluth Sr. has a hot tub installed in his attic hiding place so that he can boil food in the bag.

I've not boiledfood in a bag, but not due to any aversion. by Sonic# in Pregnancy & Parenting
Mon Aug 8 3:20 PM