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ask an avionics engineer

dang it these questions are going to lead me into tl;dr land!

How did you get into engineering in the first place? I'm curious about this because I went to an engineer-heavy undergraduate school, so I suddenly met all these people who wanted to be engineers, but I had never considered it - it just wasn't on my list of "potential things to be when you grow up." I'm curious how it gets on that list.

I feel like for women it's often somehow magically left off "the list" and that's what always stumped me. In fact in high school I was shocked at how many guys didn't know what they wanted to do, shrugged and thought "eh, I'll be an engineer." Then women who didn't know shrugged and thought "eh, I'll be something-that-pays-$12K-a-year" just by sheer coincidence. They all thought engineering had to be something you were born into, or genetically coded for.
by spacefem in Science & Technology
Fri Nov 21 10:35 PM

#shirtstorm or #shirtgate

My views on it:
I think first and foremost, people need to recognize this issue is bigger than that guy.
He gave a sincere apology, this should be recognized.
I think he's definitely become more aware of himself and what he does.

But it doesn't stop there, as others have pointed out, there are men in this field with manifestations of sexism not readily seen by the public... when when a publicized incident like this occurs, feminists use it as a springboard to point out other areas in the field where sexism exist... often showing us these are much, much more grievous concerns than a shirt. by Dawn?Quixotic in Feminism
Fri Nov 21 8:11 PM


Thanks for the replies, I'll read over them a couple times and think about what you've said. by curzman in New Members
Fri Nov 21 7:32 AM


I'm rarely in the mood to organize, but when I do it's really gratifying. The biggest thing is DVD's since I have like a thousand. Last time we organized it, we did so by color. I'm not sure what I'll do next.

The rest of the apartment could definitely use some organizing, but that's less fun. by Storage and Disposal in Random Weirdos
Fri Nov 21 6:37 AM

What would convince you that you are wrong about Feminism?

"Feminism" is such a huge and complex collection of ideas, people, movements, and events that that you can't really change your whole opinion on it from one end to the other (unless you think some kind of evidence would change your mind into thinking women are objects and should have no choices at all).

I suppose you might say that "Feminism has at various points been unclear on which position is proper feminism on various subjects" which is why you get a lot of people who "believe women are people too" that say they are not feminist or anti-feminist.
by Dawn?Quixotic in Feminism
Fri Nov 21 5:34 AM

potato soup recipe

I've been occasionally thinking about potato soup since this was posted. I think I might have to try this soon. by Storage and Disposal in Creativity
Thu Nov 20 7:14 PM

How often do you eat?

Roughly four times a day. Coffee and some sort of light breakfast, lunch, snack after work and dinner. Although sometimes I'm really lazy and have a later and larger snack after work, and then skip dinner. by Bork in Polls
Thu Nov 20 6:14 AM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Nov 18 3:00 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Nov 17 3:00 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Nov 16 3:00 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Nov 15 3:00 AM

when do you have to introvert?

I've had a bit of the opposite reversal of Meperidine. I have always been extremely introverted, but for the past two years I have grown to crave social contact. My spouse is the most introverted person I have ever encountered and my primary social outlet. I think he'd like me to make friends just so I'll leave him alone sometimes. I'm in a class to learn the language now and sometimes I think I could be friends with one of the other foreigners. We can barely communicate with each other, but my current standards for friends-in-the-flesh are fairly low. by melsbells in Random Weirdos
Wed Nov 12 8:33 PM

I'll be leaving earlier than expected

Fare thee well! by Tweek in Random Weirdos
Fri Nov 7 6:19 PM

What's up?

Welcome back! Good luck with getting the VFX job. I haven't been up to much. Recording music, doing the occasional drawing for (the promise of) money. by Storage and Disposal in Random Weirdos
Fri Nov 21 9:45 PM

forum suggestion box

Agreed. That'd be good for the wiki, I think. Though I wouldn't be opposed to having a spot on the forums for it, too. Both or either. by Storage and Disposal in Random Weirdos
Fri Nov 21 5:13 PM

What are your favourite podcasts?

I listen to an RPG-centered podcast called Fear the Boot.

Also slowly trying to catch up with Welcome to Night Vale. Back when there was about, 17 episodes or so, I'd listening to almost the entire thing but trailed off somewhere. by Dawn?Quixotic in Creativity
Fri Nov 21 6:42 AM

movie soundtracks and singles

I came back to the Dredd soundtrack tonight. It's good if you like alternating adrenaline-pumping music with mood-setting pieces, and found the Tron Legacy soundtrack could've been a bit rougher.

Here's an example of an action scene:


And Anderson's Theme, which has some tension but is a lot quieter:

lpgsA1EN-KQ by Sonic# in Creativity
Fri Nov 21 6:13 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Nov 21 3:00 AM

Are you prepared?

No, not at all. I have nothing stocked in my place.
However I do live less than 2 minutes from a subway which doubles up as a bomb shelter. Handy. by Aelwyn in Random Weirdos
Thu Nov 20 12:25 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Nov 20 3:00 AM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Nov 18 3:00 AM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Nov 17 3:00 AM

Chat Day on a Friday Night

I came in and said hi last night, really quick from my phone just to see if it was working! there are lots of irc apps. but that's kind of not the best way to type so I'll find a slightly better way, and update the web page so we know wtf is going on. by spacefem in Random Weirdos
Sat Nov 15 8:36 PM

Best Image of Planetary Formation

Totally moving there next week.

If we can find (stumble upon) this, I'm really hoping we can continue to locate other proto-systems in different stages of formation by MFS in Science & Technology
Fri Nov 14 5:11 AM

spelling error on teh wiki

*goes to find wiki* WOOOOO! by Nachos in Random Weirdos
Tue Nov 11 5:57 PM

Best place to get a steak

Mortons makes perfect steaks, and they should because you pay out the ass. But if you actually go to Mortons Steakhouse get their $18 hashbrowns instead. I know, I know, grated potatoes, but just do it and then thank me.

and musk oxen make much better steaks then cows. by monk in Polls
Fri Nov 7 3:26 AM


Welcome! Tell us a bit about yourself. What brought you here? by Storage and Disposal in New Members
Fri Nov 21 8:30 PM

Sweden considers rating the sexism of video games

Well, old games often fell into the chivalrous "damsel in the distress thing", but at the same time, they didn't use dead women in bikinis at set decoration.

You might find some of the examples in this video interesting:

Those are pretty recent franchises. In many ways, when it comes to gritty kind of games, this violence against women is worse than it ever was. by Dawn?Quixotic in Feminism
Fri Nov 21 1:45 PM

"All About That Bass is totally your song!"

It's definitely a huge problem that... being unconventionally attractive is still, like, bound by the ideals of conventional attractiveness.
I couldn't rightly slam these women for expressing pride and confidence over their feeling of attractiveness, but it still doesn't really solve the issues of (1) women being judged for their bodies constantly in terms of sexual attractiveness, and (2) fat people being judged negatively for being fat.

Especially since... in a similar vein, Nikki Minaj's "Anaconda" has that whole "f**k those skinny bitches" line (upon re-listening this song also references "skinny bitches".)
by Dawn?Quixotic in Ranting
Fri Nov 21 6:38 AM

Lena Durham..

^exactly how I feel about her, too, given what I've seen and read. by Storage and Disposal in Feminism
Fri Nov 21 5:58 AM


And that's beside the news editorials that incorporate vocabulary like "punked," the fiction and nonfiction that strategically use slang, and the shifts in register that make writing more effective
This isn't a complaint but the first time I saw a headline that read " Slams " I thought they meant physical violence. Needless to say, I was disappointed to learn that Bill Nye didn't actually body slam Fox news pundits. by Neko in Random Weirdos
Thu Nov 20 8:14 PM

Music / soundtracks for cleaning house

Anything out of my collection that's energetic. I second They Might Be Giants. Great moving music. by Storage and Disposal in Creativity
Thu Nov 20 7:05 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Nov 19 3:00 AM

books vs. movies the showdown!

Sometimes I try to see whether the film and the book each stand on their own. If they both do, I don't worry as much about which is better.

When I like the book more: usually it has to do with being so in love with the worldcraft and the descriptions of the book that the film can be entertaining and even moving but just doesn't have the form to develop those things I otherwise loved. See LOTR books (loooove) v. films (love). Sometimes the books are just better, usually because they're in the hands of an author much better than anything the film produced - see Fantastic Voyage by Isaac Asimov, or Dune compared even to David Lynch's version, or the ill-fated attempt to make an Earthsea miniseries.
by Sonic# in Random Weirdos
Mon Nov 17 6:49 PM

Which stereotypes do you completely shatter?

OOC, I know some vegans consider any animal product to be nonvegan because raising animals for their products is exploitation regardless of what harm may or may not come to the animal. I'm guessing that is not what you believe?

In the modern world, I don't know if it is possible to be vegan in the pure sense. So although in general I agree with those vegans, I don't think it's possible. Avoiding wool is obvious and easy to do with the array of available warm synthetic fibers. I used to avoid it, but after some minimal research, I decided that more ethically sourced wool is a better choice than synthetics or down. If other vegans would prefer I not call myself one of them over this, I've never met any of them. by melsbells in Random Weirdos
Sun Nov 16 8:25 PM

stars by your name

*nibbles purple stars* by rowan in Random Weirdos
Sat Nov 15 7:20 PM

what would a widely used non-gendered pronoun do?

^ Chaucer did it earlier, but yes, it crops up in any number of canonical British and American writers. If Shakespeare reaches more audiences, all the better. ;) by Sonic# in Feminism
Fri Nov 14 4:06 AM

Yes means Yes SB967

Well shit Katie, you give the defenceless something to defend themselves with and people cry foul. I guess some people are so used to having an unfair advantage that fairness seems unfair to them. by AndrewZealand in Feminism
Sun Nov 9 1:26 AM

Are you voting on Tuesday?

I am so very sad about all the other people who voted.

I should be more sad about all the people who didn't vote who could have made a difference if they had. And sad about redistricting making voting all kinds of fucked anyway. by cwbyrvr in Polls
Thu Nov 6 10:59 PM