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tell us about you testicles?

I'm totally pre-judging you for whatever you just submitted

Pfft I'm not that rash...this requires careful planning and calculation.

Also more on topic, my testicles do NOT have a rash! by Nech in Random
Sat Jul 23 12:59 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

I saw Under the Skin w Scarlett Johansson. not sure if I mentioned it. It's creepy and has hardly any dialogue but very pretty, visual and sound wise.

Like Zeph, I too have recently seen Trainwreck. I, however, was not impressed. I feel like she wasn't that much of a "Trainwreck" before she met whatever Bill Hader's character's name was - yes, she drank, slept around and smoked a little weed, but she held down a pretty respectable job. She had friends. When she got fired from that job, she got a new job super quickly. To me that says she was probably a really talented writer. I love Inside Amy Schumer. It's one of the best things on television right now in my opinion. I feel like she completely wasted that R rating. ISA pushes boundaries all the time, and she could have done so much more in the context of a film as far as raunchiness is concerned, and I feel like Judd Apatow definitely pushed his weird "Everyone should have kids and a family" bullshit agenda into this film. (Keep in mind I don't think it's wrong if that's what someone wants to do - I'm just saying if you don't want kids or to settle down there isn't anything wrong with that either.) There were parts of it that were funny to me, but overall it was too long and kind of boring. It was really just a well-packaged Rom-Com, and I wanted a pure comedy.
by geldofc in Mixed Media
Sat Jul 23 6:00 AM

annoyed by perverts

I'd look at it this way. If you were able to walk down the street totally naked, you still wouldn't be "asking for it". So if you post pics of yourself of any type on social media (akin to walking down the virtual street naked) you still should not be degraded by others. That's just human indecency shining through, which hopefully would get weeded out through reports/bans/blocking users of whatever site you use. Hopefully the social media you post on has a block/report function.
by geldofc in Ranting
Sat Jul 23 5:28 AM

How NOT to help parents with a newborn

oh, lord, i am so tired of people telling me to "enjoy it!" regarding my newborn. and asking me if she is a "good baby." how could a baby be bad? and how does it make me enjoy her more to be reminded to do so? i imagine that if i was depressed and had a colicky baby these questions would be even more obnoxious. by missmay in Pregnancy & Parenting
Fri Jul 22 6:11 PM

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Fri Jul 22 3:00 PM

Ghostbusters is a terrible film.

in fact after she's like "youre hired hehe" she totally is like "um we should probably hire someone else, because uhhhhh he's not too bright" but they don't have any other options

also hell yeah that's academia. I'm surprised they only did one "yo momma" joke. (but actually I liked that too, because of the followup)

I am so buying this when it comes out for sale but for now I'm gonna go see it again, it was so fun. by rowan in Feminism
Fri Jul 22 3:42 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Jul 22 3:00 AM

Denial Trends?

Sorry, if I was not able to mention other details. Actually, I have a (US) medicare insurance. And I am particularly referring to this denial management software which help clients with their claims. Thanks for your reply. :) by SameMom in Pregnancy & Parenting
Thu Jul 21 7:24 PM

"Life: The Leading Edge" of demonstrating the profound sexism in science

This is pretty disappointing. Thanks to all for listing the women in biology.:) :redcheck: by geldofc in Science & Technology
Thu Jul 21 9:56 AM


When downhill skiing, I was gawking at somebody that had biffed it on the slope thinking of how embarrassing it must be for them, so I didn't take a curve as sharply as I should have. I went off the side of the trail which was a straight drop and ended up with my skis caught in a tree with me dangling upside down for everyone that passed to see. One guy biffed it at the end of the curve for gawking which made me feel slightly better, but it took me awhile to get both boots unclipped and then I had to climb up the tree in heavy boots to retrieve my skis. Took at least 15 or 20 minutes.
by geldofc in Ranting
Thu Jul 21 9:31 AM

Halloween costume ideas!?

re: the pajama idea..... that's a good idea. I really want the onesie now. Haha I've gone enough as sexy *raggedy ann, witch, cat.....* time to switch it up..:D

I like to try and make costumes out of items I'd wear anyway or easy to put together. I'm thinking of going as Prince Naveen or Dr. Facilier from "The Princess & the Frog" this year.
by geldofc in Random
Thu Jul 21 6:12 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Jul 21 3:00 AM

>.< random misogyny encounter

I just encountered this horrible sexist advertisement while reading the news. I'am a little overweight and have tried different diets and bought books on amazon so I get all the adds for weight loss stuff and how to bake chocolate cakes. :p Anyway today I went on Gawker and found this: It just really made me feel like crap. Why would they have this kind of sexist crap on there!
by Annika in Ranting
Wed Jul 20 4:26 PM

Sexism in preference

I don't identify as much with male characters in VG or film. I can in books and well-made films. I guess I don't expect men to necessarily want to be women characters in vg and I don't see it as sexist :lol: by geldofc in Feminism
Wed Jul 20 6:23 AM

Why Equal?

Arrow watch the double posting.

Brain size has no relation to intelligence fyi.

...Watch the double posting? Are you guys tight on bandwidth or something? No. Your Nazi tactics are invalid.

Of course brain size is deeply correlated to intelligence because otherwise, where does the intelligence come from? Dimension X? Klingon Space? It comes from the physical brain. The larger it is, the more brain cells (neurons?) there are. I'm sorry, there's just no way to get around basic physics and biology.
by Pikachu in Feminism
Wed Jul 20 3:04 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Jul 20 3:00 AM

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Tue Jul 19 3:00 PM

Where do you keep spare change?

In my wallet.

I actually spend my spare change. It's real money :P by Nachos in Random
Tue Jul 19 1:21 PM

Pokémon GO!

I tried to play this as soon as it came out in the US but couldn't even get through account creation the first two days so I gave up and uninstalled it. Finally installed it again and had some success last Tuesday. Have been playing when I can since, though I've been working a lot so it's mostly just on the way to/from work that I play (I ride the bus so I'm a passenger). You can hit up a surprising amount of stops while on the bus if you're quick about it.

I've had the usual issues when the servers decide to take a dump and some glitching out but it's pretty simple to restart the app on my phone.
by cwbyrvr in Random
Tue Jul 19 7:06 AM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Jul 19 3:00 AM

what are you reading?

@RD,, I haven't read We. Thanks for the recommendation. Zamyatin is more recent than the period I've mostly read fiction from but I'll certainly try to get my hands on a copy.

@iamthegate, I suppose that depends on what you're getting out of it. One of the things I like about the denseness of Dostoyevsky and other Russian lit that I've read is that I can't breeze though a book. I have to make reading much more intentional compared to when I was recently reading books from Discworld where I just picked up the book any chance I got. Here I only get through one or two chapters a day while the kid is sleeping and if my mind wanders, I have to reread a bit. I'm getting a lot more out of this book than the last time I read it just because I feel like I can make more connections to other things I've encountered, like other Russian lit, philosopohical texts by existentialists and other phenomenologists, Chinese communist writers from before and during the revolution, A catcher in the Rye, and past experiences with mental health. by melsbells in Mixed Media
Mon Jul 18 8:23 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Jul 18 3:00 PM

What are you binge watching right now?

Netflix just got both star trek Voyager and ds9 so...

Yeah I saw that too...I just took a break from binging Supernatural to binge the new season of Marco Polo. Then the last two seasons of Game of Thrones. So when I finish off the Supernatural on Netflix it's going to be the Star Treks -.- by Nech in Mixed Media
Mon Jul 18 4:25 AM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Jul 18 3:00 AM

Bladeless fan DIY and explanation

This is pretty cool. Now if only I had all the equipment needed to make one.... mind you, the heatwave in my city seems to have stopped for now. by Nachos in Science & Technology
Sun Jul 17 1:13 PM

do you check out butts?

I tried to but the library didn't have any

You just made me laugh out loud :P by Nachos in Random
Sun Jul 17 12:57 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Jul 17 3:00 AM

Art supplies?

I don't know about their markers, but I have a set of dick blick colored pencils for casual use that I really like. Like you, I didn't feel justified in springing for prismacolors... it was a really good value for a good quality product, so their pens might be worth looking into. by Rainbow Dolphins in Mixed Media
Sun Jul 17 2:43 AM

Hey hi yes hello

The biggest picture of a pangolin I've seen was about the length of a man's forearms, though a giant pangolin would certainly be a sight to behold!

And sure here's the list...
our username, nicknames, how to pronounce it: pangolin, like mango with a "p" and a soft "a", and lin with a soft "i". You can also call me pango
Occupation/Potential Occupation: no idea
Educational Status: I'm still in high school
Notable Hobbies: I draw a lot, I'm also in choir and theatre
by pangolin in New Members
Sat Jul 16 9:58 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Jul 16 3:00 AM


The unemployment office was really pushing self-employment when I first talked to them, I suppose because it makes their job easier. I initially shot it down because I don't think I'm agressive enough to be an entrepreneur. Maybe it's the lack of jobs available that makes me want to create my own, because I've been hearing a lot of other un(der)-employed people in my life talking about plans to start a business as well.

The start up costs shouldn't be too bad, seeing that I don't have aspirations to make enough to put me over the business tax threshold.
by melsbells in Careers & Education
Fri Jul 15 8:05 PM

what has actually changed your life?

Actually I think my iPhone has changed my life in a lot of small but significant ways. I talk to my sister more because I can get skype on my phone, I love being able to get directions while I'm on the go, I have extra alarms on my phone so I can still wake up to the radio but also have a NO I REALLY MEAN IT GET YOUR BUTT MOVING alarm, to name a few. Of course, these are things that any smartphone could do, so it's not dependent on the Apple product. But still.
by geldofc in Random
Fri Jul 15 8:18 AM

How big are your speakers?

I have a tiny bluetooth speaker which also has a wire to attach to my computer. I like it :)

Hey!! Me too!!Less then a foot wide so their small. But great sound and they're amazing for camping. by Nech in Random
Thu Jul 14 9:12 PM

I voted for Trump in my state's primaries

Trump is a total self-serving narcissist. He has the most inconsistent platform of any Presidential candidate in memory, and no matter how much people call him on it, he still has a huge base of support. He flip flops. We know this because within the past 10 years he was an adamant supporter of the Democrats and one of their campaign funders... so much so that some people believe he's just a plant for the Republican party so that the Dems get in. But people were stupid enough to vote for him, so he has become the real deal. He's turning coat because he sees a vulnerable voting base that can be easily manipulated with emotional appeals.
by Aum in Ranting
Thu Jul 14 3:01 AM

Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?

I consider a feminist myself, but please let's not consider feminism a philosophy. It's disrespectful to a large tradition of well documented philosophies (for good or bad) that existed before us.

Feminism does not offer answers to complex questions, does not provide a framework to understand the world and does not provide an universal approach of thinking...

I agree with you Sonic - I'm fairly certain it DOES offer answers to complex questions (why is it difficult to talk about relative power differentials - answered by kierarchy and intersectionalism), it does provide a framework to understand the world (the larger conversations around specific social interactions) and it clearly provides a universal approach of thinking, even if people disagree on how much utility that approach has.
by tomokun in Feminism
Wed Jul 13 10:15 PM

One way to be an active ally to Black Lives Matter

The best way to be an ally IMO is to cast light on the broader civil rights issues here... the way that peaceful protest is being limited more and more in our society, the way we increasingly need to "ask permission" to stage protests and use free speech, and the way that minor infractions result in wide scale crackdowns, the way due process is completely ignored and its ignorance is excused. If we treated the police like they treated protests, we would be storming every police station and shutting them down because 1 or 2 officers killed people. There's also the issue of agents provocateurs.
by Aum in Random
Tue Jul 12 11:30 PM

Whole Woman's Health v. Hellerstedt

So... about the court case. I was really relieved to hear this news, mostly because SCOTUS can swing either way on issues, and it's so hard to predict sometimes. Plus I am a moderate, which means I tend to see all sides to an annoying degree, especially in terms of jurisprudence. Like, I could see them going the other way this, on behalf of "medical safety". What bugged me about the Texas laws though were that they were made without any real professional medical input. I mean, if you create a bunch of new medical requirements, there needs to be a precedent for that, right? And there wasn't. Why does a doctor performing an abortion also need admission privileges for the ER at a local hospital, when the ER would take a dying person anyway??
by Aum in Feminism
Tue Jul 12 11:21 PM

Archetypes, stereotypes and cultural appropriation

I agree with melsbells on the specificity of this question being more interesting.

I don't know enough to say whether any specific feature of the costume (like the scarf) would represent any specific transgression in the way that (say) wearing feathers or a Victoria Cross would. Personally, I'd be wary of arguing that it's okay just because the archetype is different from the cultural stereotype. In the case of the fortune teller, the similarities are there because of the stereotype that Roma ARE fortune tellers. There's something a bit problematic in the stereotype itself, which may draw on Roma or Indian stereotypes - I say, having once dressed as a fortune teller by putting a scarf around my head in more of a Sikh manner in college.
by Sonic# in Random
Sun Jul 10 5:19 PM

How More Female Police Officers Would Help Stop Police Brutality

I came across this article last summer and I can't remember if I posted it in here, sent it to my sister, or just appreciated it quietly, but in the wake of this week's events, I searched for it today because I find it relevant to the issues the U.S.A. is dealing with right now. There is a lot of anger, blame, and demands for justice, but I haven't really seen any resolutions offered.

What I find particularly interesting is the difference in the way that women and men view police work. I think that this mindset is key in reforming our police forces. We need more people to see police work as providing services and assistance to the communities they work with instead of a position that allows somebody control over others. Perhaps if there was more focus on motivations for joining the police force as opposed to how many push-ups you can do, we would have less of an issue. (NOTE: I'm not saying that we should eliminate physical skill requirements, but rather put more focus on communication and social skills.)
by Isabella357 in Feminism
Fri Jul 8 4:56 PM

Thank you for having me here :)

Welcome to the spacefem forums!

I think you get to find your own peace with your own levels of feminism and religion. It's always good to educate yourself but then you can find your own happy medium.

Have you found the FAQ yet and read the Guide to New and Returning members? by Nachos in New Members
Thu Jul 7 10:10 AM