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How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Colleagues are tough. :( Flaming fire is not usually an option.

You could take the pic and change it to say "raising sons"?

by rowan in Polls
Fri Sep 30 4:40 PM


Welcome! To find stars, you can pick up a planisphere or check out to download a free one each month. The stars are constant of course but the latter will have planets and other transient objects. :)
by rowan in New Members
Fri Sep 30 4:28 PM

Greetings Overlords

Your username, nicknames, how to pronounce it: That is obvious...
Occupation/Potential Occupation: Nurse.
Educational Status: Failing.
Notable Hobbies: Procrastinating like the best of them.
Favorite Website/Blog: Stormfroooo wooo I meant to write
Favorite color: Dunno, maybe blue?
Favorite animal: Humans best friend.
Favorite food: Good dark Swiss chocolate.
by Misandry_Reborn in New Members
Fri Sep 30 1:04 PM


Well, since you ask, how about a little shameless self promotion! :D

I'm a filmmaker. Ultra-low-tiny-budget stuff. That's actually the reason I'm here. My next film is going to have feminist themes, and so I need to read what feminists are saying and talking about. I consider myself a feminist, but I'm kinda a beginner.

I'm also a singer. I'm classically trained, have been a wedding singer, and can sing the shit out of Sinatra. Other than the wedding singer gig, I haven't spent much time on music in the last ten years, because I've devoted my artistic endeavors to filmmaking. It recently occurred to me that I need to combine the two.
by filmmakingally in Mixed Media
Fri Sep 30 8:33 AM

Feminism in Popular Cinema

Whoah! This thread took off since my last visit. I'm liking this discussion.

I don't agree with everything that Pikachu has said here, but I do agree with the prediction that we're going to see more and more action roles go to skinny white women, most of them brunettes. There's definitely a pattern here. Hollywood has a serious problem with diversity, and it extends far beyond ethnicity.

I would disagree with anyone who thinks characters like Rey and Katniss are boring. Okay, compared to the lead roles in prestigious indie films, sure they're not very complex. But compared to the heroes of most blockbuster movies, I think both of them are fleshed-out very well. For comparison, I would argue that Rey is much more complex than Luke (at least as he's presented in the first Star Wars).
by filmmakingally in Mixed Media
Fri Sep 30 8:23 AM

Feminism for men/Effective activism

On topic: Convincing someone to be a feminist should be more about the issues and less about the label. Only after there is concern about issues can someone think about taking on the label. There's been a lot of good advice in this thread. I want to add the nuance that speaking up for a woman who is being overlooked can sometimes be patronizing. Consider drawing attention to it in such a way that the woman's voice is heard. Asking follow-up questions is one possibility that's been brought up. Or even just, "Can you repeat that last then you said?"
by filmmakingally in Feminism
Fri Sep 30 7:44 AM

I need to read a feminist book. Suggestions?

Okay, so first of all, thank you for all of the suggestions! Allowing a week to go by, I've figured out what I'd prefer to read -- fiction, and/or humor. If there's a fictional book that is really funny, that'd be great, but I also might really enjoy reading an autobiography by someone who is really funny.

Confession: I'm yet to google any of the suggestions made here. I'm really busy lately, but I promise to do so. :) by filmmakingally in Feminism
Fri Sep 30 7:41 AM

Porn and sex education

The thing I'm wondering is... it seems like primal objectification has been common in all historical periods, to some degree. Along with kink and whatever else. Maybe the extremes of modern porn are just due to modern excess, but it's still representative of the human sexual spectrum?

My opinion on this is largely shaped by reading a whopping total of one articles on this particular subject, so take this with a grain of salt. Anywho, I read this one article that explained the (possible) reason why porn is becoming so extreme with the kink and rape culture lately. I'm sorry I don't have a link to the article; it's really late and I'm too tired to search for it.
by filmmakingally in Feminism
Fri Sep 30 7:39 AM

Hi There, Nice to Meet You All!

Welcome to the spacefem forum!

Have you ever been to a bat cave? That's always really cool :)

Why did you choose those areas of study? by Nachos in New Members
Thu Sep 29 4:07 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

Don't Think Twice. So dark, but so good, with some very funny bits. Which is pretty much what you might expect when Ira Glass produces the human condition in the context of improv comedy.
:5houses: by Eravial in Mixed Media
Thu Sep 29 4:02 PM

Can you juggle?

Well I've got four totally unrelated projects going right now, so in theory I can, but the actual execution might be another story.

As far as objects, I can juggle three floaty things like silk scarves pretty well. I can get about 5-10 tosses of three solid objects before I lose one or it all goes to shit. That's actually a pretty good description of my project juggling too, actually. by Eravial in Random
Thu Sep 29 3:49 PM

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Thu Sep 29 3:00 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Sep 29 3:00 AM

What happens to you without caffeine?

I mean I know how much caffiene is in everything I drink. If I wanted to I could be scientific about my consumption.

I drink a little in the morning and less later on.

There should be warnings on energy drinks about the side effects. idfk by Nerd1987 in Polls
Wed Sep 28 6:29 PM

Japanese war brides

And I got the sense that the glorified image of the US was one that many war brides embraced. In Hiroko's case, it seemed to be the motivating factor for going with a soldier she liked but wasn't crazy about - that and the relative lack of opportunities she had in Japan. I find that fascinating as an illustration of how feminist forms of ambition can work through a sometimes coercive (the way men would continually insist and insist) and imperialist (the stereotypes of Asian docility and domesticity) system. The system is obviously unfair, but the women participating in them have some power and a variety of approaches to that.*
by Sonic# in Feminism
Wed Sep 28 3:56 PM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Sep 28 3:00 AM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Sep 27 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Sep 27 3:00 AM


On reflection, this kind of question illustrates where some legal discussions working towards plausibly feminist outcomes go wrong. The profile of the OP who posed this question indicates that he didn't take this very seriously. Still, the responses indicate some need to take this seriously. The mention of the death penalty is a built-in provocation. It's easy to condemn, support, or qualify that, and have the main substance of discussion go that direction.

What if the focus were instead on how to limit domestic violence or the violence from acquaintances that women often experience? What if we asked seriously what to do about attacks against women that seem motivated to silence women?
by Sonic# in Feminism
Mon Sep 26 8:10 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Sep 26 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Sep 26 3:00 AM

Cry it out vs. Attachment

We sort of went middle-of-the-road. In the beginning, we had the sidecar cosleeper, and that worked great. Baby woke up a lot at night because he was a newborn, but I could pick him up, feed him, and put him back down without getting out of bed. He seemed to pretty much only be waking up if he was hungry, and settled pretty well after that, so all was good with the world (yes, there were nights when we'd have to get up and bounce on the yoga ball for a while, but we never had the horrific newborn nights that we seem to hear about where he was inconsolable at 2am). He started sleeping longer stretches and was sleeping one 8-9 hour stretch per night by the time he was two months old.
by lyra211 in Pregnancy & Parenting
Mon Sep 26 12:12 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Sep 25 3:00 AM

burning brushwood

This :devil: by Tweek in Polls
Sat Sep 24 10:38 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Sep 24 3:00 AM

bringing children up naturist

It's about teaching children to make love so that they do it themselves. Love has no age or genetic requirement. It's healthy for young siblings to make love, and it's unhealthy if they don't. Sexual repression of children fucks them up as adults. Because the parents are secretive about it, children get the idea that it's bad, which starts the process of sexual repression.

Gross. Yuck. Eww. I've run out of ways to express how disgusted I am with what you've said here. Ewwwwwww!!!!!!!
by filmmakingally in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Sep 24 1:18 AM

woodworking while presenting as a woman

I recently joined a woodworking class conducted in a language I'm currently learning and this thread about Unvoiced Apollo going to a nail salon got me thinking more about my reactions on not fitting in that environment. I've never really done any fine woodworking before, just carpentry. I'm really excited to learn a new skill and work on my language development outside of a language course with other foreigners, but I don't feel welcomed by the class.
by melsbells in Feminism
Fri Sep 23 10:35 PM

"Business casual" at a wedding?

I went to a wedding where evening dress was required and the invitation also specifically said not to wear prom dresses. I'm not really sure what they were getting at. For my own wedding, we were calling the dress-code "barefoot casual" but ended up not having a wedding. We celebrated with friends about nine months after getting married and specifically asked people to wear what they were wearing when they receieved the invitation. We had no suits, no pajamas, and no naked people attend.
by melsbells in Random
Fri Sep 23 9:13 PM

what are you reading?

There is no being ready. You will cry.

I just read Girl Who Drank the Moon and it was really good. Also read The Witch's Boy by the same author and it was good but not as good, but also I was really sick so I'm not sure I was really reading all the words. by rowan in Mixed Media
Fri Sep 23 4:36 PM


Hi there! Welcome to the spacefem forums!

Would you mind introducing yourself a little more? Who are you and what do you do and what are your views on other things apart from feminism.

There is a good guide in the sticky of this subforum, a Guide to New and Returning Members. by Nachos in New Members
Fri Sep 23 12:33 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Sep 23 3:00 AM

Critical Feminists are not creative people.

Except these critics don't know what an ideal work looks like, they only know what they believe to be problematic. Yet they expect the artist to somehow know when they don't themselves. They just unleash a bunch of criticism and nay saying, with no clue if a successful work can actually be made by following their advice. And when works do follow their advice to a T, like ghostbusters 2016, they prove unsuccessful. Meaning if it wasn't for the inclusion of Leslie Jone's racial stereotyping, that would have been damn close to the ideal work by the standards of social justice critics.
by Aum in Feminism
Thu Sep 22 8:21 AM

religion and politics

I have nothing to contribute to the silliness but for real I think religion has the potential to do great good. Faith relieves stress right? I learned so many great values from church as a kid. Unfortunately I learned a couple bad ones too.

Spirituality will never go away as long as there is uncertainty in the world. Even if you could say that the world would be better without religion, that will never happen. There will always be people who are religious and there will always be other people who seek something outside of this difficult world in tough times. by Nerd1987 in Random
Wed Sep 21 3:57 PM


At a popular American department store the one costume based off of the 2016 jumpsuit was the kid's - gender neutral language throughout and a girl as the model. The only "adult" jumpsuit was identified explicitly in the description as a men's.So, almost?

Another site specified its sexy versions (only for women) as "sassy" and "sexy" respectively, but did manage to have a regular and plus size costume. (I present the plus version without further comment.)
by Sonic# in Feminism
Tue Sep 20 2:09 PM

Happy birthday ladyhawk!

You mean, because of the naked ladies on the album covers?

Actually, that's the only ladyhawk album cover I've actually seen.
She had naked ladies on an album cover?

Oh... I was referring to Pip Brown by MFS in Random
Tue Sep 20 1:50 AM

what art are you making?

Mods -- am I allowed to promote the movie here? At a different website I got in trouble for promoting it, cuz they don't allow promotion of commercial products. I'm not sure where to draw the line between just talking about something that is very much a project of passion, vs. outright promoting a commercial product.
If you would like to share information about a movie project you are working on in here or, better yet, start a new thread about it, that's fine. I am sure there are people here that would be interested in what you are doing. As long as you are not asking for money, please feel free to share any of your art projects or start a discussion about them.
by filmmakingally in Mixed Media
Mon Sep 19 7:16 AM

third-wave feminism

Enigma's got a good summary of the "waves" of feminism four posts above yours.

Ah, yes, I feel stupid for having missed that. Thanks, and also, I'm glad to see that I'm not the only Pastafarian on here. :) by filmmakingally in Feminism
Mon Sep 19 7:10 AM

Does this thread exist?

Oh my goodness, I don't know! Do I even exist???
Oh shit! by Nachos in Random
Fri Sep 16 3:18 PM

Don't give your kids antidepressants.

Mental health issues will never start to hurt, therefore no preemptive treatment is needed.

Mental health issues hurt, take it from me. There are many psychosomatic disorders out there which affect your body even though the real problem is in your mind. But to get better, you HAVE to treat both. Pre-emptive treatment also can stop some disorders from becoming too bad. And yes, sometimes drugs can be very very helpful.

by Nachos in Pregnancy & Parenting
Thu Sep 15 9:13 PM

Angelica needs an introduction.

I have, I put my introduction post in "not having a good time here so far" with the title "introduction".

No you haven't. Try filling this in.

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by Nachos in New Members
Thu Sep 15 8:49 PM