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Back to School!

Thanks everyone. Sorry I didn't get back sooner. Monday was a bit of a shit show, and they told me it'd take five business days to process my registration. Fortunately they did it much faster.
I got all my top choices, first semester I'm just taking Philosophy and Social Criticism, which will be interesting as I haven't taken a course based on criticism (well other than the fact that all philosophy is based on criticism lol)
And for second semester I enrolled for more classes than I needed, so now I just have to figure out if I want to drop Islamic Philosophy, Anthropology of Animals, or Issues of the Philosophy of Mind. by Taurwen in Careers & Education
Sat Jul 22 3:48 PM

Where will you be in five years?

Sometimes I dream about moving back to the United States. But unless one of the things that hasn't happened in the last six years preventing that happens, I don't see it happening. More realistic but still dreaming, I expect to be living on some acreage with sheep. by melsbells in Random
Fri Jul 21 7:18 PM

Nails or screws?

depends on the application? I've been really into Chicago screws lately. I've started using them for buttons.

Wait what? This sounds cool! Any pics of examples?

I'm sorry, I don't have a picture. I used them for the button fly on some pants I made for my spouse, and intend to keep doing the same. The pants are a bit too warm for summer and I keep forgetting to take a picture when I have access to the closet, as opposed to waking up the kid to get there. But this is still on my mind, just so far at the wrong time. by melsbells in Random
Fri Jul 21 7:01 PM

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Fri Jul 21 3:00 PM

Harassment in the Workplace training

i do appreciate any sexual harassment training a job i've had has provided, but i've worked in toxic environments that give out crumbs as far as that goes. i actually feel like it helps a little even if it is not well orchestrated. haha.

i definitely pick and choose my battles when i demonstrate issues of harassment and sexism, based on my mental health and fatigue. i get fatigued and feel overextended a lot even though i'm not doing much. by geldofc in Careers & Education
Fri Jul 21 9:57 AM

Special Event for Women discriminatory?

You have to really understand context here. Given what so many women have to deal with in terms of men, harassment, and intimidation I don't see any thing wrong with giving women some opportunities to enjoy certain things knowing they don't have to deal with men. It isn't like this is some super special privilege that women are getting here that men aren't.

A male only screening would be more problematic because you have to ask yourself what problems to men really face from women in public that would really necessitate it? Privilege would really be the only excuse for it.
by geldofc in Feminism
Fri Jul 21 9:38 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Jul 21 3:00 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Jul 20 3:00 AM

Flying Drones for fun (U.S. rules)

Right now I'm just trying it out. :) I'm going to a bunch of drone talks at the EAA next week, and I'm particularly interested in checking out agriculture and conservation work. There are pretty simple ways to test for plant health and soil moisture if you have the right sensors. But that's just a thought - we'll see!

I want to get a drone at some point to play around at parks or large lawns. Do you have any recommendations as to good starter drones, in terms of price, accessibility, or good places to buy?
by rowan in Science & Technology
Thu Jul 20 2:51 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Jul 19 3:00 AM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Jul 18 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Jul 18 3:00 AM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Jul 17 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Jul 17 3:00 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Jul 16 3:00 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Jul 15 3:00 AM

What was your first pet?

What was your first pet?

A rat. Black & white and named Oreo.

No way. That was my brothers first pet, name colouring and all! Freaky. by Nech in Random
Fri Jul 14 1:37 PM

Studies That Prove Link Between Autism and Vaccines

The auto-immune link likely has to do with how certain vaccines are made, like ones containing fetal tissue (the chicken pox vaccine). There may be human DNA in these vaccines that the body reacts to, via the MC5 antibody. Once the antibodies are produced the body may become immune to itself. My auto-immune condition developed after I received 5 vaccines prior to visiting Asia, so I have researched this heavily. A lot of people in the AI community report similar things.
by Eravial in Science & Technology
Fri Jul 14 3:49 AM

uninvited house guests

I'm usually one for killing... but since my girls started naming the spiders in the house and then getting upset when they disappear, well, now they've crossed into the realm of 'welcome', haven't they? A lot of them seem to be named 'Lazlo'. by DarkOne in Polls
Thu Jul 13 9:55 AM

what's the last movie you saw?

Spider-Man Homecoming: I'm feeling a 9 out of 10. I'm a big Spider-Man geek, so, to me, it's probably a :4houses: without the fanboyness. It's better than I thought it was going to be.

I miss the spider sense. You can tell he had it in Captain America: Civil War, but people were sneaking up on him constantly in this movie. Little inconsistencies like this are one of the issues of shared cinematic universes. Too many cooks. But yeah, when's the last time we had a spider sense in a movie? I remember Amazing Spider-Man didn't show it, but I never bothered watching the sequel. I realize that writing for it could be as difficult as writing a movie about wishes because it makes him nearly unstoppable and can break the film, but still.
by Storage and Disposal in Mixed Media
Wed Jul 12 7:43 PM

Happiest Baby on the Block

My mum gave me 'Your Baby and Child' by Penelope Leach, which is what she used when she had me. It covers from birth to five years. I read the first section about newborns in preparation. After having the baby, I realised I have zero time or brain power to do anything so I never got around to the rest of it. In general, I liked the book though. It's a simple overview and has nice color photos. by antfancier in Pregnancy & Parenting
Wed Jul 12 4:52 PM

Did you ever run away from home?

Yep! Age twelve, never looked back. I had a bit of a wild ride up through my late teens, and spent the next ten years or so recovering. My life has been pretty perfect since then, and I couldn't be happier now, so it all evened out. by Galen in Random
Tue Jul 11 1:11 PM

Just Can't Let It Go

Stuff around gender role prescription, especially among babies and toddlers gets to me. When my then two-year-old was jumping in every puddle the kid could see, I received the comment "He's all boy!" twice. Once along with the woman telling me how she loved jumping in puddles when she was a kid. This happened a year ago, and it's still bothering me. A baby/toddler can something that any babies and toddlers do, like being a picky eater, or having tactile sensitivities, or jumping in puddles, and then they get assigned a gender role because of it. by melsbells in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Jul 8 7:50 AM

What's your type?

Garamond's a great serif font. :)

I.... what?

This came from me trying to think through the various responses of someone asking, "What's your type?" Yeah, I've got "types" that apply to people I'm interested in, but I didn't want to stop there. by Sonic# in Polls
Fri Jul 7 7:35 PM

Happy 1st spacefemmiversary Taurwen!

Late to the congrats party- as usual - but congrats on making it 1 year! Here -- waste some time desktop-bowling! by DarkOne in Random
Wed Jul 5 5:38 PM

What is the optimal amount of art to have in your home?

I'ma bit of a cultural expat living in the US, so most of my art revolves around Spanish/Caribbean culture. I have some walls almost fully covered, I have a few bare-ish walls. I have a few pieces of art that got away and I can't bring myself to put anything else in the spot I had picked out for them. The art I failed to get when I had the chance haunts me more than the pleasure I get from the art I do have now. :( I also have some blank spots for some watercolors I want to commission from a talented cousin of mine. But back to your question: It's a matter of whim for me. Whatever feels right. by DarkOne in Polls
Wed Jul 5 4:58 PM

Muscle cramps

Are you talking about cramps like a charley horse? If so, I've only had them occasionally (they type that makes you wake up screaming in pain in the middle of the night), and mostly in my calves, but if I felt the cramp coming on, I could prevent it by extending the calf as much as I could, pressing the knee backwards and pointing my toes up towards my knees. It stopped the cramp every single time I caught it in time. Then I'd slowly release and if I felt the cramp coming back on I'd extend the calf for a while longer and wait. No more charley horse pains for me. I've also heard staying hydrated helps, but I have no idea if it's true or not. by DarkOne in Random
Wed Jul 5 4:44 PM


One of the places I browse on the web a lot is the permaculture forum at When the term permaculture was coined, it was founded on the principles: care of people, care of the earth, and redistribution of surplus. I see permaculture used as a buzz word, and not always following those principles, as open ended as they are. It's often claimed accessible to anyone, but there's also a bit of a cult behavior where someone can be doing permaculture, but not have the credentials to call what they do permaculture. A lot of barriers are put in place that shouldn't be surprising to feminists. But it was still suddenly surprising to me.
by melsbells in Feminism
Tue Jul 4 9:40 PM