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Seeing how Milo actually prefers dating black men, I'm guessing not alot of swastika wearers do support him.

Why not? Having a black friend is often used as a defense by people who are racist generally; conservative Christians generally against adultery voted for a known adulterer in this last election. It's possible for the webmaster to Stormfront to not like Milo and, simultaneously, for Milo to wear an iron cross.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Fri Feb 24 10:51 PM

what's your personality?

I tend to wind up either INTJ or ENTJ depending, so maybe I'm XNTJ though I do tend more toward I than E I think. Interesting on the distributions, looks like E/I and T/F split more evenly than the other two, with S/N being split much differently. Huh. by rowan in Random
Fri Feb 24 6:43 PM

Broke my damn finger

Oh dear; I hope it doesn't take too long to get better.

It sounds similar to when I broke my wrist while playing softball at school; I carried on playing then realised just how swollen and painful it was when I got home :P by Tweek in Ranting
Fri Feb 24 3:24 PM

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Fri Feb 24 3:00 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Feb 24 3:00 AM

How comfortable do you feel asking about someone's race?

In my language classes last year, we had some questions that weren't well thought out considering how many refugees were in my class, such as "What's the worst journey you've ever been on?" -_- Are. You. Kidding? Seriously, sometimes some people.... Reminds me of a lady who was interviewing the oldest of 4 orphaned kids whose *both* parents had just died in a flash flood: "How do you feel?" :mad: I would have throat-punched her if she'd been within reaching distance.
by DarkOne in Random
Thu Feb 23 12:31 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Feb 23 3:00 AM

stuffed animals

My brother's favorite stuffed animal was a thing we called 'gerbil'. I actually don't know what it was because we found it in the street (not sure what my mum was thinking in allowing him to pick it up, let alone keep it) and it had already lost an eye and was unidentifiable, but he became really attached to it. We almost missed a flight once because he dropped it in the airport and we had to go back to look for it.

Today for the first time my 11month old showed interest in a stuffed animal. Just before Christmas we received a box from Amazon with a giant bear inside. No gift wrap, no note. Just a bear the size of my child. It's been sat in his room and ignored completely, despite him exploring literally everything else that is in there. Then, out of the blue, he made a beeline for it and tried to pull its eyes out. by antfancier in Pregnancy & Parenting
Thu Feb 23 1:20 AM

hey, it's me and my idea

Hi there, welcome to the spacefem forums! I think making a group is a great idea. I am not a writer myself but you can look in our subforum, Mixed Media and even post some of your writings if you want.

What's your favourite colour? Have you read the Guide for New and Returning Members and the FAQ? by Nachos in New Members
Wed Feb 22 9:59 PM

A critique of Feminism worth reading

I get the vast majority of my English language and U.S. based news from I've been a dedicated reader of Code Switch (with an editorial staff that I greatly respect), so when I saw the article titled Today's Feminism: Too Much Marketing, Not Enough Reality, I decided it was worth reading with an open mind. The author, Amy Alexander, touches on a lot of points that reminded me of the recent threads on Bourgeois Feminist Bullshit and Dialogue principles vs. Unity.
by melsbells in Feminism
Wed Feb 22 8:53 PM

How big is your television?

ooooh I can be THAT PERSON
because I don't currently have a TV!

I used to be that person. The person I would sometimes like to be is the person who doesn't have a TV because I have a projector. The person I actually am isn't sure how big the TV is, but it was in the apartment when we moved in. by melsbells in Random
Wed Feb 22 6:48 PM

What did I just say?

Ah, these are great.

Recently, I've been caught off guard by some of the threats and bribes I've been using. "If you don't stop jumping on Father now, I'm going to take your towel off my head" or "I can tell you more about if you " by melsbells in Pregnancy & Parenting
Wed Feb 22 6:42 PM

The "biological argument"

Are there are things like women getting testicular cancer which demonstrate how incredibly muddied these waters actually are? For a non-biologist science-phile like myself, that's exactly the sort of factoid that would be convenient to have on hand. Links to sources would be amazing too. I mean, I'm a championship Googler, but an actual credible source would be very useful (being useful is the reason you shared this post I'm assuming. :p)
by Eravial in Feminism
Wed Feb 22 6:24 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Feb 22 3:00 AM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Feb 21 3:00 PM

Dialogue principles

I have mixed feelings about the points in the article. I'd never considered the concept of unity t be problematic, but after reading this, I have no problems ditching a requirement for unity and advocating instead for inclusiveness and dialogue even if it is at the expense of offending a few in the majority. But I'm struggling to understand the rationale behind some of the "answers" the author demands specifically of white women.
- I need to know that when Trump comes for my undocumented family, these women will literally put their bodies on the lines for us.
by DarkOne in Feminism
Tue Feb 21 1:19 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Feb 21 3:00 AM

what art are you making?

I've been trying to be consistent with my art journaling. I'd post images, but I'm too lazy to put them up on an image site right now.okay, I'm gonna see if this works. here! not exactly an image hosting site though. by rinn in Mixed Media
Mon Feb 20 7:28 PM

Performance reviews

Performance reviews where I work are a travesty of a mockery of a sham of a mockery of a travesty of two mockeries of a sham. My annual performance review form is due this week, so I was literally working on it today.

The way our formal process is supposed to work:
(1)At the beginning of the year, my supervisor hands me down a list of enterprise goals related to my industry (for example, reaching sales goals, reaching program milestones, reaching professional development goals...)
by DarkOne in Careers & Education
Mon Feb 20 6:16 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Feb 20 3:00 PM

Why are men so ready to complain...

@Taurwen I agree with you so much that people in privilege are the first to complain!! Like I have that privilege obviously but I would give up anything for equality I wouldn't even mind if woman had that privilege. I makes me so mad when people with privilege complain.

In general I do agree that those with privilege are the first to start whining by Mr1of6 in Feminism
Mon Feb 20 4:44 AM

Why SpaceFEM?

I am a male (who is straight) and I would consider myself a 'feminist'. Lots of the comments and posts on here I connect with thats why I made an account so I could contribute to this group of strong woman. by Mr1of6 in Feminism
Mon Feb 20 4:24 AM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Feb 20 3:00 AM

Inclusion vs. revolution: "Bourgeois Feminist Bullshit"

I'm also stuck somewhere between these comments:

Still, after agreeing strongly with Nairs's point of view and not having read the book being criticized, or any other books by Traister, I'm still curious if the criticism is fair. I think any movement needs a certain amount of meet-them-where-they-are. If I'm talking to someone who falsely believes that global warming is a hoax, I would expect a better chance of being heard out in the matter of water conservation if I focus on the financial benefit instead of the environmental.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Sun Feb 19 4:30 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Feb 19 3:00 AM

If America's First?

The mock videos do a good job of pointing out America's infantile political system. Only immature nations and societies who believe in zero sum game non-sense think that they're number one. There's no "I" in TEAM and there's no end point on a circle. Everyone on this planet is equal, despite what window dressing they think makes them special. by Aum in Random
Sun Feb 19 2:42 AM

Donald Trump? :(

As terrified as I am about what will happen during this presidency and its extended effects, I am proud to know so many people who are not going to just let it happen.

I'm not US citizen, but I get what you mean. We outsiders also worry about his presidency, considering US has a big influence world-wide. And, I have the feeling his mandate won't last. I hope it won't. by felipefs in New Members
Sun Feb 19 1:23 AM

I just want my bank to be dependable and not evil

Next January. I'll inquire about Nech's suggestion. When we opened this account, I discovered that it's on the bank to close the old account and transfer your money to their institution for you, but I can't see how that could actually be required of us to accept. I'll find out tomorrow. by melsbells in Ranting
Sat Feb 18 8:54 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Feb 18 3:00 AM

Not really sure how to ask this tactfully...

But, if you're worried about tact, might I suggest that you include why you're asking?

Yeah that'd probably be best heh. I'm looking to transition myself actually, and just getting my feelers out to see what others know. by Nech in Random
Sat Feb 18 1:24 AM


Welcome to the spacefem forums! I also have a bachelor in Biology, yay! Penguins are indeed, amazing. :penguin: by Nachos in New Members
Fri Feb 17 3:29 PM

Lack of women in music lists

Thanks for these interesting answers. The list I gave as an example is based on ratings by anyone who votes on that website. I found another top 100 on, based on logarithms using lots of list by music critics. Joni Mitchell, Carole King, Patti Smith and Portishead are in that one, so it's more dominated by classic rock, but the amount of women remains roughly the same.

Teen pop, dance and R&B seem to be the genres with most women, but those are often looked down upon by critics. The genres with the least women are heavy metal, hip hop and alternative rock. In the 90s there was a new generation of rock singers: Björk, Tori Amos, PJ Harvey, Sinéad O'Connor, Alanis Morissette, Heather Nova, Garbage, Skunk Anansie... There are many great female soul singers, but the standard opinion seems to be, "Yes, they're good, but we'll still put twenty male rock bands or rappers in front of them."
by Medea in Mixed Media
Tue Feb 14 1:21 AM

what's the last movie you saw?

Amazon Women on the Moon was fun. Late 80s sketches, big hair, loch ness monster as Jack the Ripper, etc. Most notably:


Grier's delivery get me every time. by Neko in Mixed Media
Tue Feb 14 12:22 AM

what are you reading?

I'm reading a couple of things.

Today I started "Why Feminism?" by Lynne Segal. It's quite an old book (1999), but maybe it's a start point for me.

I'm in the middle of the first chapter, and so far she explained differences of feminism during its different generations (70s to 90s), and some political contexts. Makes me wonder if there's some good source about the 2000s and 2010s generations (if there's a distinction). I imagine there is... thanks to a thing called internet.
by felipefs in Mixed Media
Sun Feb 12 9:58 PM

Ariel wasn't a patriarchal shill of a character?

I'd draw a distinction between two questions:
1. Whether Ariel is a shallow character;
2. Whether and how the film balances romance with self-development.
For instance, I'd say Pride and Prejudice imagines the happiness of Elizabeth to lie in having a particular kind of companionate marriage for love - she needs a man for love and not just convenience. Yet that doesn't make Elizabeth a shallow character. She has many more interests and concerns going on than Mr. Darcy - the well-being of her sisters, her friend Charlotte, her father. She has plenty of curiosity and wit.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Fri Feb 10 8:36 PM


I admit that vasectomies and Vasalgel make me feel squeamish. But what DarkOne's saying about IUDs, implants, and hormones also makes a lot of sense - most of the contraceptive strategies for women are at least as invasive. Perhaps many people also feel squeamish about those options; yet I'd guess that women experience more encouragement or pressure to undergo them than men. If I can accept and benefit from the widespread array of contraceptives women receive, it seems fair that I also accept some of that risk, that I get a ball or two in the game. Once my partner and I have a kid or two, I'll have to seriously look into it.
by Sonic# in Science & Technology
Fri Feb 10 7:56 PM

Feminism and pro-life

I agree with most of this, especially the idea that the stakes for women's health are real and substantial enough that a ban on abortion will force doctors to make worse decisions. I also agree with Spacefem's idea that even if we're thinking pragmatically any feminist who's pro-life should seek to reduce the kinds of maltreatment that phrases like "collateral damage" don't do justice for. And I think if the goal is reducing abortions while improving quality of life, one needs at minimum to recognize what access to contraceptives and sex education do to reduce the rate of unwanted pregnancies, and conversely to recognize that a total ban doesn't necessarily reduce the abortion rate.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Fri Feb 10 7:46 PM

Participate in a Thesis Study of Feminist Perspectives

Yeah, I appreciate what you're doing, but this is in our FAQ's.

Homework help

We are tired of new members joining our forum just to post up a survey or ask questions for a paper you're writing about how feminists are. If you want to join our community, reply to some threads, be one of us and still have questions or want us to help you with a project, that might be okay. Please join for a week and get 8-12 posts under your belt before asking us for something. Also, the forum does have a search box that works quite well.
by Nachos in New Members
Fri Feb 10 2:16 PM

smooth or rough surfaces?

what about groovy surfaces?
Those only existed in the 70's.
You need to buy some Mikesell's potato chips
Google is telling me that is not possible in my area. by Enigma in Random
Thu Feb 9 1:41 AM

Are you a good listener?

Weirdly, I'm a better listener when I wear my glasses. Having more visual stimulus helps me remember more and pay attention, as well as be able to perceive better. So I guess I'm maybe not a good listener since I need the visual input..? by antfancier in Random
Wed Feb 8 4:00 PM