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What bemuses you?

The pet peeve thread got me thinking about situations where I'm not annoyed but I'm certainly bemused, or where I could tell that my actions were bemusing others.

Just for clarity, "to bemuse" is to confuse or baffle. Personally, I often think of bemusement as being just on the side of confused amusement, like how being incredulous or in disbelief can be accompanied by laughter. Maybe I disapprove or maybe I don't, but I'm not necessarily peeved.

I know when I was 6 or 7, I would run around shirtless outside a lot. I don't know why, but I'm certain that both my mom and my friend's parents were bemused.
by Sonic# in Random
Thu Dec 8 8:02 PM

have you been to a protest?

I used to go to protests and marches quite a bit back in the '80s and '90s. I was in my teens and more into the bonding than the politics, though. Do Pride Parades count? I spent a summer in a percussion group called the Batucada Belles and we went to Pride Parades all over New England. by Galen in Random
Thu Dec 8 7:55 PM

What is your Pet Peeve?

Crossword puzzle dictionaries, which I think should be against the law. And also the number two. Because I like prime numbers, and odd numbers, and it just bugs me that the number two is both even and prime. Also, grammar pedants who publicly correct others, especially those who do so during real-time chat exchanges. Typos happen! As long as we all know what someone's trying to say, you don't need to come along and prove how smart you are by correcting them. Oh, and people who don't use their blinkers. Is it really so hard to flick the little thingee to let us know what your plans are?
by Galen in Random
Thu Dec 8 7:39 PM

Purple Pants and Dead Frogs

I may as well ask - why Bruce?
Why not Bruce? Just say it a few times in a row. Bruce Bruce Bruce Bruce Bruuuuuuuce!

No, seriously, I love the name because I think it's the perfect blend of totally dorky and totally cool. Pretty much everything in my life that needs a name gets named Bruce. Except for my useless cat, whose name is Isabel, which is a back-formation of IS, which is a short form of "Inadequate Substitute," which is what I called her when I first brought her home, one week after my perfect cat died. I know; I know: I'm terrible. Isabel concurs.
by Galen in New Members
Thu Dec 8 7:15 PM

Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

I am well-aware I'm not the first to broach this topic here, so let me try to frame what I'm looking for.

As a writer, I am interested in honing my craft, and that begins with being able to overcome literary challenges.

While watching the movie Chick Lit (british comedy about some stodgy old men who write a "50 Shades of Grey" type novel to drum up money to save their pub), I started musing specifically about what Feminist Erotica might look like, especially considering all of the challenges inherent in such an endeavor, of which there are many.
by tomokun in Feminism
Thu Dec 8 4:42 PM

Do you hang up your clothes?

Yeh - I try to do as little ironing as possible (that's a man's job!!) so I hang up everything I can and underwear goes immediately into its correct drawer - no bras on the panties like some people I could name! by lexiewalt in Random
Thu Dec 8 3:12 PM

Western Women Realize Their Men Suck [article]

The Islamic countries
Western males are protective of women

You've made up two neat little categories there, and there's very little that causally unifies them. Yes, countries that don't have foreign workers may also have substantially more equal gender ratios, as well as other factors that contribute to that smaller ratio. It's not "Islamic countries," since you neatly exclude any Muslim country that doesn't fit the pattern (e.g. Sierra Leone, Chad, Bangladesh, Kyrgyzstan), as well as any other country that does fit the pattern (listing some unmentioned countries with a higher total sex ratio than Sudan: Greenland, Bhutan, Andorra, India, Samoa, China, British Virgin Islands, Cyprus, Marshall Islands, Nigeria, Vanuatu, Seychelles, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, Ivory Coast, Dominican Republic, Guam, Saint Helena). Your supposed category is cherry-picked to the point that you have to make up a phenomenon ("holocaust") to describe the situation, neglecting the economic, social, and cultural practices that can cause gender disparities in many countries, and without acknowledging the actual ways women are hurt and could be helped in these places.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Thu Dec 8 2:06 PM

Cheating the system CLEP vs. AP tests for college credit.

Thanks to all for your insight and for telling me your experiences!

The junior college only offers certificates and they have no information on job placement. The local university is where I'm going to take certification tests and nothing else. They're way too expensive and are known to be corrupt (personal experience), because they argue transfer credits to death and allow professors to fail students they hate. The only degree in engineering they offer is a hesitant Mechanical Engineering degree with no real hands-on experience - which is a must for me. I guess their labs use erector sets? I have no idea how I would feel comfortable saying I have the degree but didn't build, restore, or repair something.
by DeepThink in Careers & Education
Wed Dec 7 11:58 PM

Happy birthday Meperidine!

Happy happy happy birthday! I get you cannabis chocolate :-D

:kiss: by Nachos in Random
Wed Dec 7 8:30 PM

Academic redshirting

I'm on the fence about this. I was always the youngest in my class because I was born 2 days before the cut off. I started school JUST after my 5th birthday (Go England.... not...) and this made a huge gap between me and the oldest kids in the class who were almost a whole year older. However, even though I might have struggled more then I'm ok now, you know? It might have even been helpful for me, pushing myself to learn more and try and be smarter. My sister was held back for a year in preschool in Germany because she didn't speak German well enough for the first grade and so she has always been the oldest in class and she's not really as academic as me. This is all anecdata of course, but interesting to ponder over. by Nachos in Pregnancy & Parenting
Wed Dec 7 8:22 PM

development balalnce

I don't have a baby of my own, but my friend's baby is super talkative quite early and good at fine motor control and feeds herself lots, but didn't learn to crawl until recently and only now has shown interest in walking, but not solo. She's a bit older than a year. But she's happy and does learn things, just not all at the same rates. by Nachos in Pregnancy & Parenting
Wed Dec 7 8:16 PM


Thanks all :)

I'm going to talk to this lab guy about possibly doing that job for him starting in summer and see how we go from there :) Because science! Woo! by Nachos in Careers & Education
Wed Dec 7 8:12 PM

All Rights Matter

Dude, STILL no introduction about yourself. Makes me think that all you want to do here is argue. See, this is a simple basic requirement to read the sticky saying READ THIS FIRST and then introduce yourself. Yes, it is a little silly and the questions are not great but you will be surprised how many people who DON'T do this turn out to be here just to troll. It's this forum's equivalent of proving you're not a robot. Except you're proving that you have common courtesy and are not an asshole.
by Nachos in New Members
Wed Dec 7 8:10 PM

mi introducción

awesome! thanks rowan, and thanks for the warm welcome everyone!

Discussing your favourite animal, have you heard about capybara's? I think they would be your perfect mix between a guinea pig and an alpaca :)

I have heard of them... was reminded of them actually from somebody else's welcome here, haha! But I forgot they were related to guinea pigs! Gonna have to meet one, if I ever go to South America...
by Nachos in New Members
Wed Dec 7 8:01 PM

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Wed Dec 7 3:00 PM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Dec 7 3:00 AM

protective restrictions for children

The Wolfpack, a documentary about six bright teenage brothers have spent their entire lives locked away from society in a manhattan housing project. all they know of the outside is gleaned from the movies they watch obsessively (and recreate meticulously). yet as adolescence looms, they dream of escape, ever more urgently, into the beckoning world. The film is coming from the bias that the parents have wronged their children. We're told that in the past they have left the apartment, only as a group, and up to eight times a year. One year they didn't get out at all. It's unclear what the objective of these outings were. The film leaves a lot unanswered. We know they are homeschooled by their mother, who's a certified teacher, but what the homeschooling looked like is never examined. I can't help but think that these kids all around really healthy, charming, affectionate, considerate, welcoming, really only positive adjectives come to mind.
by melsbells in Pregnancy & Parenting
Tue Dec 6 10:08 PM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Dec 6 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Dec 6 3:00 AM

Transwomen and Sports?

^ Also, there's some semantic difficulty regarding "changing sex." In some cases (particularly with people who could be identified as intersex), it might be more accurate to say that the sex was misassigned at birth by doctors. In other cases, one or more of the features people use to judge sex is being changed, and it feels more like someone is changing to the sex they better fit. In other words, it's not the kind of change where someone is male and decides to be female, but where the initial determination of "male" turns out to not fit that person.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Mon Dec 5 9:24 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Dec 5 3:00 PM

let's list our favorite children's books

Sheep in a Jeep by Nancy E. Shaw was a big, big favorite of mine as a kid. Very silly and fun. by rinn in Pregnancy & Parenting
Mon Dec 5 1:40 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Dec 5 3:00 AM

Rape Culture on U.S. College Campuses

Pikachu, on the UGA case, I found the initial court filings and a few articles dating from late November 2012 saying the student had filed court orders, as well as responses from the attorney general of Georgia saying that the student should have notified the school and the attorney general first, as they litigate anything related to the state university system's Board of Regents. I've also seen comments saying the student did have a method of appeal through the university, one he opted not to take. I haven't been able to find anything pertaining to the outcome of that case, however. Were the charges withdrawn?
by Sonic# in Feminism
Sun Dec 4 6:18 PM

Mansplaining - Signs and symptoms.

And when I provide examples, you'll just say that's only a few examples and only the minority. I'm not going to waste my time on your request.

You often use horrible sources, borderline Beaverton/Onion type sources, that's why I always ask where you're getting your info. You tend to just read whatever is on the internet and take it as face value as long as it aligns with your beliefs, everything else is Feminism propaganda.

by Nech in Feminism
Sun Dec 4 5:58 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Dec 4 3:00 AM

Who are/were your mentors?

I have never had a mentor but if I were to have had one I think I would have liked it to have been President Jimmy Carter. He was probably one of the most moral president in US history. What a difference between Jimmy Carter and tRump.

The closest I had to a mentor was my grandfather. He made me feel safe and he was very kind. by Soldier in Random
Sat Dec 3 4:59 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Dec 3 3:00 AM

who's your favorite artist?

I think it's Georgia O'Keefe. My elementary school art teacher taught us about her and I loved the kids' version of her life story we got. In the last couple years I've gotten to see her work in the Chicago Art Institute and the whole O'Keefe Museum in Santa Fe (which also had rare photos of her as an old woman riding boats around super steep rock formations to paint them) and I felt more of a connection to her art than a lot of other art, I dunno. by Meperidine in Random
Fri Dec 2 10:07 PM

Identity politics and political agency

Another thing that occurs to me is that a lot of identity politics are social or emotional contrivances, just like how people are inventing an idea of what harmony looks like in order to try implementing it on a wide scale. But there is always harmony. There can even be harmony within chaos. People are still prone to power struggles and controlling tendencies within systems that have altruistic goals. If we want to be truly egalitarian then it should be less about if people are using the proper pronouns and more about people really hearing each other's individualized experiences while holding their own prejudices in proportion. I've seen both bigots and social justice people go on tirades against projected enemies.
by Aum in Feminism
Fri Dec 2 7:34 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Dec 2 3:00 AM

Happy Thanksgiving America

I don't like the sweet potatoes with marshmallows, but I've had it, and it's present most years at my grandparents'.

This. Never been to a Thanksgiving feast without it. It's ok but I prefer baked sweet potatoes with a touch of brown sugar. by Unvoiced_Apollo in Random
Thu Dec 1 7:15 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Dec 1 3:00 AM

More on Moana

Just saw it, thought it was great on all counts: characters, VAs, animation, music. :5houses:

I noticed they had five specialized animators for water and six for hair, looks about right. by Meperidine in Mixed Media
Thu Dec 1 2:54 AM

If you were an animal, what would you be?

A centaur.
Damnit I want to pick that. I choose unicorn then :rainbowsmile: by kitkatkar in Random
Wed Nov 30 9:16 PM

Trump and Tom Price Biggest Threat To Woman Ever

Trump is a mouthy pig but talk is cheap. Actions are a whole other issue. Tom Price is a wing nut congressman from Georgia and if that were not enough, Price is also an MD. Doctors in the US are not friends of women. Women are the biggest victims of the American health care industry and part of the reason is that they seek medical care more often than men. If that is not bad enough Trump and Price want to overturn Roe v Wade. And it gets worse... The American health care system is licking its chops over the rise in breast, uterine and ovarian cancer. Big pharma owns Dr Price and price has opposed anything that reduces the cost of cancer drugs and he supports the use of higher priced drugs that are not as effective as the less expensive drugs. Price is an evil human being.
by Soldier in Feminism
Wed Nov 30 7:16 AM

what art are you making?
Drawing a Greek sculpture :D by kitkatkar in Mixed Media
Tue Nov 29 8:32 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

Dr. Strange was pretty good. Would've watched an entire film with Dr. Palmer. Cumberbatch was channeling Dr. House and I'm not sure about the depiction of Nepal, but otherwise I enjoyed it. :4houses:

Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them felt pretty predictable. I still had fun. The main character is pretty cute and bumbling, and I appreciated the social awkwardness. :3houses: by Sonic# in Mixed Media
Sun Nov 27 2:36 AM

This forum sucks

For me, its not so much telling women what's best for them, but telling humanity what is best for the individual human. Humans tend to lack agency and coherent rational ability to think properly and logically. If it happens to be a woman, so be it, I point out when someone is illogical, doesn't matter if its a man or if its a woman. If 9 people are in a room, and 1 person is being illogical, and that person happens to be a woman, I will tell that woman she is being illogical. And if I get falsely accused and name-called for it, so be it. Whoever falsely accused me is illogical as well.
by garbage videos in New Members
Fri Nov 25 10:23 PM

Story of my life. (Advice needed.)

Seems like I have read this story before. Getting dejavu from it..

Anyway, the problem is solved, no more stalker.

But now I have loneliness and sexual frustration issues.
On top of that I have back issues, too much computer screen time. by garbage videos in Ranting
Fri Nov 25 9:49 PM