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Why are men so ready to complain...

The comnent Bork made seems based on men's and women's bodies being the same. Most men poop at length in the morning and quite often don't again until the next morning. They certainly don't do both almost every time like I/we do, which is why they have urinals in the first place.
Sorry I don't mean to sound confrontational but I feel ppl are lining up against me!
Yeah, not you, personally, just what you are saying. I'd like to see a reliable source that says most men poop at length in the morning. I don't think that's accurate. heh. by Storage and Disposal in Feminism
Tue Jan 24 4:41 PM

If you were a piece of furniture what would you be?

I would be that ratty little table you got for $7.00 at a rummage sale, that you refinished, that turned out to be totally gorgeous, so you took it to Antiques Roadshow and they said it would be worth thirteen million dollars in original condition, but since you refinished it, it turns out to only be worth $6.50. by Galen in Random
Tue Jan 24 2:00 PM

Yuck Yuck Yuck - continued from "Ranting"

Mostly I'm just feeling really mad at this asshole and frustrated about not feeling safe in my neighbourhood. But I am feeling a bit less sweary now lol.

Aww :( I don't know if it helps you feel safe or not, but I can show you some self defense/escape stuff if you want next time we meet. That guy is such an asshole :| by Nech in Feminism
Tue Jan 24 1:16 PM

Women's self defense

I took self defense (as a PE class!) in highschool. It was a semester long course and we went over a lot of different defense strategies. I think the best, and most beneficial part, was that they had actual attackers that we got to practice hitting full force to develop muscle memory for those situations. It's been a while, but I feel confidant that I would remember enough from the class to have a decent chance at fighting off an attacker. by Bork in Random
Mon Jan 23 7:15 PM

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Mon Jan 23 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Jan 23 3:00 AM

Feminism and pro-life

What pisses me off the most about these people is the way they then label anyone who is pro-choice as actually pro-abortion. Umm, no. Fuck off. I am not advocating that everyone have an abortion. That is why there is a "choice" in the label. by Nachos in Feminism
Sun Jan 22 9:15 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

If you want a cry (the good kind), I just saw the film Lion (Dev Patel, Rooney Mara). It's based on the book The Long Way Home by a fellow Tasmanian/friend of a friend of mine who was separated from his family in India and then adopted by a Tasmanian at a young age, who then tries to piece together his past and reconcile his identity. It was so emotional, visually beautiful, but just a little slow moving in places.
:4houses: by newlydiscovered in Mixed Media
Sun Jan 22 3:49 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Jan 22 3:00 AM

What are you binge watching right now?

The 80s Ninja Turtles. Finally finished completing my DVD set of it. I randomly walked into a store that was having a closeout sale and the last seasons I needed were there. Not sure if I'll make it to the end though. Whenever I binge watch this show, I get pretty sick of it around season 3.

Other than that, I watched all of season 6 of the Venture Bros tonight. by Storage and Disposal in Mixed Media
Sat Jan 21 9:15 AM

Do you wash your car?

I read this question entirely too fast and thought it said cat. Now my not really witty joke will go to waste. Dammit spacebot!
bleary-eyed, late at night... I did the same thing... had something horribly inappropriate about cats and how they bathe... all for naught. by MFS in Random
Sat Jan 21 4:28 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Jan 21 3:00 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Jan 20 3:00 AM

What games are you playing?

GTA and Doom :rainbowsmile: :chainsaw: by luckypony in Mixed Media
Thu Jan 19 8:31 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Jan 19 3:00 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Jan 18 3:00 AM

Terrorist attack in Berlin

People, I can't anymore. Why does this shit keep happening?
This is what happens when you indiscriminately let in people from a part of the world that is notoriously anti-Western, and don't screen them like you should be. If no one has ever watched this video, it pretty much dispels the myth of the "peaceful immigrant population."
by Nachos in Ranting
Wed Jan 18 12:28 AM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Jan 17 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Jan 17 3:00 AM

do you live near a willow tree?

Yea I live fairly to a park that uses a massive willow as one of it's focal points and a small park made up almost exclusively of willows (which are lit up from the bottom at night and I admit looks pretty awesome). I believe there are also a couple in the park a bit north of me. by Taurwen in Random
Sun Jan 15 1:57 PM

Weight Loss Surgery on Kids.

This makes me angry.

The reasons for obesity are known. It has been spelled out loud and clear. High calorie, high sugar, nutrient deficient diets lead to obesity in children. Pre-packaged foods with artificial additives are filled with pseudo-estrogens which increase water weight and fat retention.

Yet modern medicine turns around and wants to partition kids stomachs into 1/3 the size so that they can go on eating the same crap all day, they just won't be able to physically eat as much.
by Aum in Science & Technology
Sun Jan 15 4:08 AM

New parent help/suggestions

I agree with everything lyra211 said and will add a few more.

Things you don't need:
Anything soft, fluffy or furry. My baby couldn't care less about minky blankets and soft toys. Plus they seem more gross to clean when they get covered in bodily fluids.
Clothes that look like adult clothes. It's so difficult to squeeze baby thighs into miniature corduroys or denim jeans which have no give to the fabric.
Baby washcloths. Babies make a disproportionate amount of mess so you need adult size washcloths to clean them up.
by antfancier in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Jan 14 10:07 PM

Activities for 1-3 yo's

I find has lots of inspiring ideas. Some look like they take quite a bit of prep, but if you're doing it for a whole class then it might be worth it. You can sort activities by age as well so it's easier to search. by antfancier in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Jan 14 7:07 PM

Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Thanks again everyone for the responses. I read through everything and let it sit with me a bit before responding.

So, when I look at the circumstances surrounding rape and sexual assault, I don't see "normalization". What I see is a combination of normal human behavior reacting to inhumane behavior.

Once a behavior is normalized, it will appear to be a "normal" behavior. That doesn't mean that it should be normal.

by tomokun in Feminism
Mon Jan 9 5:42 PM

Can't Fight The Moonlight

Who can forget Sting's "Every Breath You Take" aka The Stalker Song?

Every breath you take
And every move you make
Every bond you break, every step you take
I'll be watching you

Every single day
And every word you say
Every game you play, every night you stay
I'll be watching you

and Duran Duran's "Hungry Like The Wolf":

In touch with the ground
by rinn in Feminism
Mon Jan 9 1:00 AM

Oh boy, it's Milo Yiannopoulos

A cursory look at his win reminds me of how shallow and superficial people have become with their mindless support of things. You don't need to have high level talent or time tested commitment to a form or cause in order to be called the best anymore, just popularity and how you play the social networks.

Also, because it's LGBTQ related, I wouldn't be surprised if he won for being attractive. It's why I support panels being appointed to select candidates rather than let the mob do it. No standards. by Aum in Mixed Media
Fri Jan 6 6:16 PM

When are you superstitious?

I'm superstitious when it comes to sports - I'll make sure I'm wearing the same shirt as I did last time if my team did well, or I'll change my shirt from the week prior if my team didn't do well.

I always make a point of knocking on wood, if there's something I don't want to jinx. by Bork in Random
Fri Jan 6 6:08 PM

The early third wave according to a Miltonist

I'm glad you explained a little about what she meant by "proved the measure" because that sentence was confusing.

This is something I've been struggling with lately, because I really do want intersectionality and I think we really need to envision completely different ways of society functioning, but I am so entrenched in what we have it's hard to dig out from under it. by rowan in Feminism
Wed Jan 4 3:46 PM

tactile stuff

All the pliable/crafty stuff I can think of has been mentioned. ETA: I lied. Bread dough!

But if generally tactile surfaces also apply, mermaid sequin pillows are comforting. It was one of my impulse buys at a department store about a month ago. I couldn't stop petting the display. The sequined side seemed like it wouldn't be comfortable to rest on but it hasn't been an issue. My stepdad really likes them so I got him one for giftmas and he said it helps distract him when chronic pain keeps him awake at night. ... _active_40
by Neko in Pregnancy & Parenting
Wed Jan 4 6:14 AM

What's the last craft supply you bought?

I got a little bird ornament from a dollar store that I drew on to make it look like a zebra finch for my building's Christmas tree. That doesn't seem all that crafty, though, so other than that, a magnet sheet that I use to make band/concert/etc stickers into fridge magnets. by Eravial in Random
Wed Jan 4 2:27 AM

What do you like on your chili?

on chili: sour cream and cheese
with chilli: ritz crackers, cornbread, regular bread & butter
on chili: everything kitkat said was awesome; plus various spices; serrano peppers; kidney & black beans; uhh I forget what else.

this topic makes me kinda sad, since I made a crap ton of chili in November and couldn't eat it all before it turned bad. by rinn in Random
Tue Jan 3 11:30 PM