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by tomokun
Mon Feb 20, 15:44 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dialogue principles
Replies: 4
Views: 248

Re: Dialogue principles

This is just a really great place for me to mention that this forum is truly great. I'm not certain how far long-term members have strayed from here, but I have yet to find a forum that is as inclusive and debate-friendly as this one. In other groups I lurk in, I JUST lurk because speaking up even i...
by tomokun
Mon Feb 20, 15:41 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: The "biological argument"
Replies: 4
Views: 236

Re: The "biological argument"

WHOA! I saved this thread to pocket, because it's got some great stuff on here I would never have thought to research. Are there are things like women getting testicular cancer which demonstrate how incredibly muddied these waters actually are? For a non-biologist science-phile like myself, that's e...
by tomokun
Mon Feb 20, 15:30 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Women only companies. A disaster!
Replies: 7
Views: 193

Re: Women only companies. A disaster!

I didn't read the articles either because I employ 30+ people, and I honestly couldn't tell you how many are men, women, or transgender. All I know is work gets done, disputes get settled quickly and happen rarely, and unprofessional people who put more energy into drama than actually working don't ...
by tomokun
Thu Feb 2, 10:41 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Feminism and pro-life
Replies: 16
Views: 666

Re: Feminism and pro-life

Well, as has been pointed out quite often to me - feminism is not a monolith. However, I do find it odd that feminists can hold contradictory positions on women's issues. That seems... counterproductive. To be, is to be something, and to be something, is to be something specific. So, if a feminist i...
by tomokun
Thu Feb 2, 10:26 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Why are men so ready to complain...
Replies: 40
Views: 1214

Re: Why are men so ready to complain...

Yeah, in order to sit on a toilet, you have to do a sort of scooping maneuver to avoid close encounters of the porcelain kind. Nech basically covered it all... but I also have to add that public toilets can actually be really dangerous for men to sit down on. Occasionally, the seats aren't firmly fi...
by tomokun
Mon Jan 30, 18:56 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Why are men so ready to complain...
Replies: 40
Views: 1214

Re: Why are men so ready to complain...

Yeah, this makes sense to me, honestly. Urinals don't take up a lot of real estate, it's just an extra, smaller hole with running water, right? If a woman has one of those pee funnels (the P-EZ I believe its called) and the stalls are occupado, bam. The only thing stopping women from using a urinal ...
by tomokun
Wed Jan 25, 12:17 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Why are men so ready to complain...
Replies: 40
Views: 1214

Re: Why are men so ready to complain...

My fondest wish is that this thread devolves into people sharing their pooping habits. Wish about to be granted. :p So, I'm a dude, and I poop regularly, so regularly you could set a watch by my bowel movements. I take a long time pooping, but I always have. Doctors say it's because I was born with...
by tomokun
Mon Jan 9, 11:42 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 970

Re: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Thanks again everyone for the responses. I read through everything and let it sit with me a bit before responding. So, when I look at the circumstances surrounding rape and sexual assault, I don't see "normalization". What I see is a combination of normal human behavior reacting to inhuman...
by tomokun
Fri Jan 6, 15:25 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 970

Re: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Tomokun - you say you have concerns about the concept but you don't expand on what they are. I find rape culture to be a useful term to describe certain truths about the way our society handles things so I disagree. But I would be interested in your reasoning. I personally hate (bad - read: most) r...
by tomokun
Thu Jan 5, 19:06 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 970

Re: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Thank you everyone for your responses so far. I half-considered just taking the whole post down last night, but figured if I was being an ass I'm better off owning it and apologizing. My own bad day notwithstanding, I considered how this post might hurt others... questioned if I was being overly emo...
by tomokun
Wed Jan 4, 17:36 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 970

Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

So, my apologies for bringing this up, but I'm trying to process this topic/conundrum and honestly - this forum is the best bunch of feminists I've ever encountered. Like, anywhere. You've managed to build a great community where people can discuss and debate, and yet people can still feel like they...
by tomokun
Thu Dec 15, 11:46 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Identity politics and political agency
Replies: 8
Views: 3036

Re: Identity politics and political agency

I for one am grateful for the revival because this has been something I've been thinking a lot about, and what has been said on this thread only touches on the direction my thoughts have been going. So... one of the things I do when thinking about this topic is to think of politics as a more specifi...
by tomokun
Wed Dec 14, 17:00 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Body Positivity
Replies: 7
Views: 1611

Re: Body Positivity

As someone who is overweight, I find the body positivity movement both confusing and gratifying. Ummm, fair warning, if you are triggered by an overweight person referencing themselves as fat... maybe don't read on, because that's what I'm going to do. I think it's unhealthy for me, to talk about me...
by tomokun
Wed Dec 14, 16:13 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica
Replies: 17
Views: 2323

Re: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

Tomo, maybe this would be of some use: an encyclopedia entry for feminist erotica, as written by feminist editors. In addition to giving a breakdown of why someone might say there's feminist erotica and why someone would say there isn't, they list several example writers and performers. Out of the ...
by tomokun
Mon Dec 12, 16:42 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica
Replies: 17
Views: 2323

Re: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

Thanks, Sonic, that would be great. :) Thanks everyone for their views... quite interesting. I thought that Feminist Erotica MUST exist, simply because it would seem unfeminist not to acknowledge women's sexuality in a positive way. Nymph the member, yes? Not some website I am not familiar with? I'm...
by tomokun
Thu Dec 8, 10:42 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica
Replies: 17
Views: 2323

Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

I am well-aware I'm not the first to broach this topic here, so let me try to frame what I'm looking for. As a writer, I am interested in honing my craft, and that begins with being able to overcome literary challenges. While watching the movie Chick Lit (british comedy about some stodgy old men who...
by tomokun
Wed Jul 13, 16:33 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?
Replies: 18
Views: 2468

Re: As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?

The historically male narrative has been either a traditionalist male and now currently, a feminist male one (Obama/Biden etc). It's not a men's rights activist voice that has dominated. Certainly not a MGTOW's. So when one says male voices have dominated one has to ask what kind of male? A traditi...
by tomokun
Wed Jul 13, 16:15 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?
Replies: 27
Views: 4373

Re: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?

I consider a feminist myself, but please let's not consider feminism a philosophy. It's disrespectful to a large tradition of well documented philosophies (for good or bad) that existed before us. Feminism does not offer answers to complex questions, does not provide a framework to understand the w...
by tomokun
Mon Jun 27, 8:47 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?
Replies: 18
Views: 2468

As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?

This is intended not as a criticism, nor as a "what about the men" deflection from women's issues. This is more on par with talking about the future, and projecting a future where Feminism succeeds in its goals. Feminism, from what I've read and learned from conversations thus far, describ...
by tomokun
Thu Jun 23, 21:53 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?
Replies: 27
Views: 4373

Re: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?

Shout out to Melsbells for Nussbaum in particular! EXACTLY what I was looking for, and would have made a public thank you sooner but I didn't want to double post. ^_^ And thank you too Sonic, I will look at those others you mentioned as well, though I'm less interested in the Gender As A Social Cons...
by tomokun
Thu Jun 23, 21:21 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: The cancer of radical sjws ruining feminism
Replies: 24
Views: 2931

Re: The cancer of radical sjws ruining feminism

LOL, Sonic. Interestingly enough, I was wondering about the "Radical" label myself, and how honest Feminists are being when they say they identify with that group. Is Radical Feminism different from Extremist Feminism? I have this sense that about 20% of any group are extremist assholes th...
by tomokun
Thu Jun 23, 12:00 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: paternal rights
Replies: 70
Views: 6686

Re: paternal rights

So, as someone who does not identify as feminist - I have a problem with some of the arguments being made. 1. Conflating Abortion and Child Support These things are just not the same. Abortion is about bodily autonomy at it's core in my view. You can't take organs from a dead body, and fetuses are l...
by tomokun
Thu Jun 23, 10:48 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Lindy West: We don't need marriage anymore.
Replies: 19
Views: 3831

Re: Lindy West: We don't need marriage anymore.

Marriage was an economic imperative for women Wasn't arguing that point at all. Clearly economics played and STILL plays it's part. Beyond that, I agree with everything you're saying. My post should be read in the context of a reply to Pikachu's comment, which I quoted. If the claim is that marriag...
by tomokun
Thu Jun 23, 10:16 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?
Replies: 27
Views: 4373

Re: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?

I guess what I'd recommend then if you're finding the sort of thing you're reading feels repetitive is to look at books or documentaries instead. The amount of detail in those is usually better then blog posts for obvious reasons. Since the start of the movement feminism has had internal disagreeme...
by tomokun
Tue Jun 21, 14:43 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Lindy West: We don't need marriage anymore.
Replies: 19
Views: 3831

Re: Lindy West: We don't need marriage anymore.

Before divorce; before reliable, effective birth control; before women's advancements into the higher levels of the workforce; marriage was ALL about economics. Now that women are able to leave abusive and unhappy relationships, support themselves financially, and choose when/if to have children, w...

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