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by tomokun
Fri Mar 31, 16:05 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Falsifying the utility of the Feminism Label
Replies: 4
Views: 294

Re: Falsifying the utility of the Feminism Label

Ah, to clarify, this guy simply wanted to do away with labels period. His point was that labels are stupid, and that Feminists should do away with the label because it does more harm than good. Which is just weird to me, because it's like an argument against the utility of language itself, rather th...
by tomokun
Fri Mar 31, 13:55 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Falsifying the utility of the Feminism Label
Replies: 4
Views: 294

Falsifying the utility of the Feminism Label

Ok... this post is not going to be anywhere NEAR as trolly as the subject... :p On another forum there is a self-proclaimed egalitarian that is trying to make the argument that the label is bad and divisive, which I'm sure many of you are familiar with. This is a point I've NEVER agreed with, becaus...
by tomokun
Wed Mar 15, 11:54 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Gender and racial biases in professor's newsvideo
Replies: 9
Views: 678

Re: Gender and racial biases in professor's newsvideo

So, in order to frame my perspective - I used to run a daycare, so I am no stranger to the chaos that comes with child care. There is no such thing as "baby-proof". So, yes, at first I wondered/assumed she might be the nanny, but I wouldn't have placed a bet on it. I figured she was trying...
by tomokun
Mon Mar 13, 11:12 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Women's consent in bed?
Replies: 18
Views: 1054

Re: Women's consent in bed?

So, thanks, I'm glad the analogy was appreciated. It's not as posh as tea, but I thought British humour might be to subtle. :p I really think he must have been a trolly-troll, because none of this adds up unless you account for someone with the attention span of a 6-year-old.... either that or he's ...
by tomokun
Tue Mar 7, 13:25 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: The "biological argument"
Replies: 8
Views: 842

Re: The "biological argument"

Eravial wrote: tomokun wrote: Are there are things like women getting testicular cancer which demonstrate how incredibly muddied these waters actually are? Unless you're suggesting that non-operative transwomen aren't women (i.e. you at least partially still believe in biological determinism and/or...
by tomokun
Wed Mar 1, 17:07 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: The "biological argument"
Replies: 8
Views: 842

Re: The "biological argument"

Unless you're suggesting that non-operative transwomen aren't women (i.e. you at least partially still believe in biological determinism and/or that testes negate womanhood), this really shouldn't be that surprising. I dunno - are you suggesting my surprise is indicative of anything but my ignoranc...
by tomokun
Mon Feb 27, 18:06 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Women's consent in bed?
Replies: 18
Views: 1054

Re: Women's consent in bed?

So, if you bring your car to a mechanic for an oil change... you're not going to be pissed if they do $12,000 worth of "repairs" to your car before asking? I mean, if it needs to be fixed, and it's on the rack, asking you to make those repairs is CRAZY, right? If you brought it in for an o...
by tomokun
Mon Feb 20, 15:44 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dialogue principles
Replies: 5
Views: 527

Re: Dialogue principles

This is just a really great place for me to mention that this forum is truly great. I'm not certain how far long-term members have strayed from here, but I have yet to find a forum that is as inclusive and debate-friendly as this one. In other groups I lurk in, I JUST lurk because speaking up even i...
by tomokun
Mon Feb 20, 15:41 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: The "biological argument"
Replies: 8
Views: 842

Re: The "biological argument"

WHOA! I saved this thread to pocket, because it's got some great stuff on here I would never have thought to research. Are there are things like women getting testicular cancer which demonstrate how incredibly muddied these waters actually are? For a non-biologist science-phile like myself, that's e...
by tomokun
Mon Feb 20, 15:30 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Women only companies. A disaster!
Replies: 12
Views: 866

Re: Women only companies. A disaster!

I didn't read the articles either because I employ 30+ people, and I honestly couldn't tell you how many are men, women, or transgender. All I know is work gets done, disputes get settled quickly and happen rarely, and unprofessional people who put more energy into drama than actually working don't ...
by tomokun
Thu Feb 2, 10:41 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Feminism and pro-life
Replies: 16
Views: 988

Re: Feminism and pro-life

Well, as has been pointed out quite often to me - feminism is not a monolith. However, I do find it odd that feminists can hold contradictory positions on women's issues. That seems... counterproductive. To be, is to be something, and to be something, is to be something specific. So, if a feminist i...
by tomokun
Thu Feb 2, 10:26 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Why are men so ready to complain...
Replies: 50
Views: 2795

Re: Why are men so ready to complain...

Yeah, in order to sit on a toilet, you have to do a sort of scooping maneuver to avoid close encounters of the porcelain kind. Nech basically covered it all... but I also have to add that public toilets can actually be really dangerous for men to sit down on. Occasionally, the seats aren't firmly fi...
by tomokun
Mon Jan 30, 18:56 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Why are men so ready to complain...
Replies: 50
Views: 2795

Re: Why are men so ready to complain...

Yeah, this makes sense to me, honestly. Urinals don't take up a lot of real estate, it's just an extra, smaller hole with running water, right? If a woman has one of those pee funnels (the P-EZ I believe its called) and the stalls are occupado, bam. The only thing stopping women from using a urinal ...
by tomokun
Wed Jan 25, 12:17 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Why are men so ready to complain...
Replies: 50
Views: 2795

Re: Why are men so ready to complain...

My fondest wish is that this thread devolves into people sharing their pooping habits. Wish about to be granted. :p So, I'm a dude, and I poop regularly, so regularly you could set a watch by my bowel movements. I take a long time pooping, but I always have. Doctors say it's because I was born with...
by tomokun
Mon Jan 9, 11:42 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 1305

Re: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Thanks again everyone for the responses. I read through everything and let it sit with me a bit before responding. So, when I look at the circumstances surrounding rape and sexual assault, I don't see "normalization". What I see is a combination of normal human behavior reacting to inhuman...
by tomokun
Fri Jan 6, 15:25 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 1305

Re: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Tomokun - you say you have concerns about the concept but you don't expand on what they are. I find rape culture to be a useful term to describe certain truths about the way our society handles things so I disagree. But I would be interested in your reasoning. I personally hate (bad - read: most) r...
by tomokun
Thu Jan 5, 19:06 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 1305

Re: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

Thank you everyone for your responses so far. I half-considered just taking the whole post down last night, but figured if I was being an ass I'm better off owning it and apologizing. My own bad day notwithstanding, I considered how this post might hurt others... questioned if I was being overly emo...
by tomokun
Wed Jan 4, 17:36 2017
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion
Replies: 12
Views: 1305

Dredging Up The Rape Culture Conversation Part 4Billion

So, my apologies for bringing this up, but I'm trying to process this topic/conundrum and honestly - this forum is the best bunch of feminists I've ever encountered. Like, anywhere. You've managed to build a great community where people can discuss and debate, and yet people can still feel like they...
by tomokun
Thu Dec 15, 11:46 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Identity politics and political agency
Replies: 8
Views: 3137

Re: Identity politics and political agency

I for one am grateful for the revival because this has been something I've been thinking a lot about, and what has been said on this thread only touches on the direction my thoughts have been going. So... one of the things I do when thinking about this topic is to think of politics as a more specifi...
by tomokun
Wed Dec 14, 17:00 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Body Positivity
Replies: 7
Views: 1800

Re: Body Positivity

As someone who is overweight, I find the body positivity movement both confusing and gratifying. Ummm, fair warning, if you are triggered by an overweight person referencing themselves as fat... maybe don't read on, because that's what I'm going to do. I think it's unhealthy for me, to talk about me...
by tomokun
Wed Dec 14, 16:13 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica
Replies: 17
Views: 2409

Re: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

Tomo, maybe this would be of some use: an encyclopedia entry for feminist erotica, as written by feminist editors. In addition to giving a breakdown of why someone might say there's feminist erotica and why someone would say there isn't, they list several example writers and performers. Out of the ...
by tomokun
Mon Dec 12, 16:42 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica
Replies: 17
Views: 2409

Re: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

Thanks, Sonic, that would be great. :) Thanks everyone for their views... quite interesting. I thought that Feminist Erotica MUST exist, simply because it would seem unfeminist not to acknowledge women's sexuality in a positive way. Nymph the member, yes? Not some website I am not familiar with? I'm...
by tomokun
Thu Dec 8, 10:42 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica
Replies: 17
Views: 2409

Unpacking The Concept of Feminist Erotica

I am well-aware I'm not the first to broach this topic here, so let me try to frame what I'm looking for. As a writer, I am interested in honing my craft, and that begins with being able to overcome literary challenges. While watching the movie Chick Lit (british comedy about some stodgy old men who...
by tomokun
Wed Jul 13, 16:33 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?
Replies: 18
Views: 2519

Re: As Feminism "Wins" - Do Men Need A Voice?

The historically male narrative has been either a traditionalist male and now currently, a feminist male one (Obama/Biden etc). It's not a men's rights activist voice that has dominated. Certainly not a MGTOW's. So when one says male voices have dominated one has to ask what kind of male? A traditi...
by tomokun
Wed Jul 13, 16:15 2016
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?
Replies: 27
Views: 4455

Re: Who Are The Watchdogs Against Dogmatism Within Feminism?

I consider a feminist myself, but please let's not consider feminism a philosophy. It's disrespectful to a large tradition of well documented philosophies (for good or bad) that existed before us. Feminism does not offer answers to complex questions, does not provide a framework to understand the w...

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