Neko wrote:Firstly, welcome to the forum. Please do check out our FAQ, it's really helpful.
And, to address your main question, it doesn't sound to me like you're a misogynist. You recognize that not all women are the same as the ones who irritate you and it sounds like you mostly just dislike stupid people. As for judging women before you even speak to them, the fact that you're aware of yourself doing it is a good sign--at least I think so. It's hard to remember to give people the benefit of the doubt when it feels like you're surrounded by a sea of the same brand of idiot.
I think it would help you to start trying to think in terms of People (as a spectrum) rather than just Men and Women--which we refer to as the gender binary. It can be difficult because we're socialized from an early age to think in terms of Boys and Girls when, really, gender varies way beyond that. Since you have feminist friends that could be an interesting topic for you to discuss with them as well.
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deanimal wrote:If someone truly can't tolerate stupidity, regardless of gender, then fine, bully for them. But many people who claim that seem to find stupidity more readily in women, either because there are traits that seem to indicate a lack of intelligence in women but are neutral in men (substandard articulation comes to mind), or because they inherently dislike femininity (consciously or unconsciously) and think that conventionally feminine traits indicate stupidity.
I know two women who are close friends. They're both EXTREMELY feminine. One of them is quite articulate and the other is less so. However, they're both complete math geniuses and smart in a variety of other subjects. Most people assume, however, that they are--especially the less articulate one--really stupid. Because they act "ditzy." But they're not stupid and it's not them pretending to be stupid either, they're both just authentically being themselves.
One kind of misogyny is hating women and thinking them inherently less, but I think an almost more insidious kind is to hate femininity and only allow women a chance who have decided to forgo it (which is, of course, also a completely valid existence).
It's kind of a chicken and egg scenario: do people think femininity indicates stupidity because it comes from women or do people think women are stupid cause they act all feminine? It doesn't really matter because they're both logical fallacies.
Also, side note from a linguist, saying 'like' every other word is absolutely not a measure of intelligence or lack thereof.
Parogar wrote:Often times, upon witnessing acts of incredible stupidity, I have to force myself to take a breath and say, "No! Do not blame her for acting like a character on "Jersey Shore" She is a young, impressionable--albeit misguided--woman whose behavior is less a result of her gender, and more the way society has fashioned her to be."
edit the sad parts wrote:Parogar wrote:Often times, upon witnessing acts of incredible stupidity, I have to force myself to take a breath and say, "No! Do not blame her for acting like a character on "Jersey Shore" She is a young, impressionable--albeit misguided--woman whose behavior is less a result of her gender, and more the way society has fashioned her to be."
This sounds incredibly condescending and classist.
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