Did I do it wrong?

[lykin005]

So recently a friend of mine was talking about a relationship gone bad. He's controlling, over jealous, and has threatened to kill himself if she doesn't get back with him. I recognize these things as classic abuse signs. So I and my brother and one other girl were listening and talking to her about it but she was still trying to ask questions when they kinda got off track and she couldn't get them back on. So I facebooked her a link to an article on how to recognize abuse and said she should make her choice based on her own beliefs and values. I then also said if she needed help or to talk she could contact me or my brother. She responded by saying, and I quote. "oh okay thanks" Maybe I'm stupid but that doesn't sound great to me. Is that a bad response? Did I handle it well?

[rowan]

I think you did pretty good. Hopefully she'll read the article and get some help. And you said she can talk to you and you'll be supportive so I think that's all you can really offer...

[Neko]

You really did all that you could. From here, it's up to her.

It's hard to see people in relationships like that. Even harder, sometimes, is to respect their decision to stay with someone even when you think it's obvious they should leave. But there's only so much you can do without overstepping boundaries.

[great girl wonder]

Sounds to me like you were kind and sincere.
Perhaps she was surprised by the contact you made since you've talked before about being shy. Maybe she didn't know before that you cared or were interested in her troubles.
Also, she's in a very overwhelming situation right now so she may not be the most communicative towards outsiders or even close friends.

[lykin005]

Well it's good to hear I handled it well! What Great Girl Wonder said makes a'lot of sense. We did hang out before actually. We went to the same youth group for a while and we both shared a good bit of laughs! But since then we haven't really hung out. She actually was invited by my brother. I just hope she doesn't get hurt and doesn't feel like she's helpless or alone. I'm really kinda worried because of what I've heard story wise about his behavior. I'm not trying to condemn him for this but she did say he has a fetish for "beast's raping women." Seem's legit. sarcasm