PIV Sex to Women

[kathyn]

I have decided to make up a quick poll to see what other women think of PIV sex. I personally don't enjoy it but it seems some other women love it so hence the reason for my poll. Please keep it friendly and light hearted and respect other peoples experiences.

[Storage and Disposal]

Seems like there should be something between no orgasm and the best thing ever.

I'm neither a woman nor do I have a vagina, so I have no say.

[kathyn]

Thanks, fixed.

[Neko]

I thought I was someone who couldn't enjoy PIV since it was really, really, REALLY boring with my first two boyfriends. My second boyfriend was less than awesome about it and always made me feel like I was the one doing something wrong (he also outright refused to do foreplay which he has since learned was SUPER FUCKING LAME on his part). Turns out he was just too big and not the right shape for me--which was also somehow my fault.

The current boyfriend, on the other hand, makes PIV sex what it should be. He's average size and a bit curved, and a few previous partners have given him a bit of a complex about it. Unfortunately, typical porn and hyper-masculine societal bullshit just reinforce insecurities like that. So I make sure to praise his ability and offer compliments because he really is the perfect size for me.

A large part of it is figuring out what size feels best and, hopefully, finding a partner who gives a shit about your experience.

[androkguz]

Turns out he was just too big and not the right shape for me

Hmm, you think that there was anything you or him could have done about that? I mean, besides him caring and doing foreplay.
Because I have this friend that has this problem, and is totally not me, and he does a ton of foreplay and just gets to PIV when she asks for it, but she kind of has a problem with deep penetration. And it is really, really frustrating to just put a little bit inside (my friend tells me) yet he is very patient and would definitely not enjoy anything she is not enjoying. Currently they think that she is just not done it enough, mostly because it would suck if there is no way to fix that.

[Eravial]

Favorite sex activity, but I have to have heavy clit stimulation during to get an O. With clit manipulation, I can get an O nearly every time that is far better than clit alone. I voted favorite thing to do ever.

[Rainbow Dolphins]

I voted favorite activity also, everything else is kind of foreplay to me. I mean, if we stop after oral or manual sex I still consider myself to have gotten laid that night, but I don't tend to feel 100% satified until after penis-in-vagina penetration.

But, I don't think having an orgasm or not really determines how much all women enjoy penetration. Like, some women might have an orgasm from penetration pretty often, but it could still be pretty low on her list of preferred sexual activities, so I find these poll options lacking. They kind of enforce the "orgasm is the end-all be-all of sexual experience" myth.

[Aum]

^ Tantric sex proves that orgasms are not required for sex to have happened.

[Neko]

Turns out he was just too big and not the right shape for me

Hmm, you think that there was anything you or him could have done about that? I mean, besides him caring and doing foreplay.

We tried many different positions with no success. I was always the one trying to improve the quality of sex for both of us while he didn't really care as long as he got to stick his dick into something. And I know it sounds harsh for me to say that, it also probably sounds like I'm just trying to blame him for our combined failure, but I know I did everything I possibly could.

It sometimes felt good from behind but he often refused to do it because it was too much work due to our height difference. He also refused to give oral even though I often gave it. I eventually lost the ability to get in the mood or self-lubricate because he told me that my personal enjoyment during sex didn't matter since I'm a woman. So, yeah, that ship needed to be sunk.

[Jackie wang]

i came here the first time
and i like th e forum

[androkguz]

We tried many different positions with no success. I was always the one trying to improve the quality of sex for both of us while he didn't really care as long as he got to stick his dick into something. And I know it sounds harsh for me to say that, it also probably sounds like I'm just trying to blame him for our combined failure, but I know I did everything I possibly could.

It sometimes felt good from behind but he often refused to do it because it was too much work due to our height difference. He also refused to give oral even though I often gave it. I eventually lost the ability to get in the mood or self-lubricate because he told me that my personal enjoyment during sex didn't matter since I'm a woman. So, yeah, that ship needed to be sunk.

Whoa! Your ex sounds like a real jerk. I mean, a very seriously bad boyfriend. Thanks for sharing. Also, that really helps.

[newlydiscovered]

It is impossible for me to pick one of those options because there's just such a huge variation. With my ex it was amazing, favourite thing ever. With some other guys its still been a lot of fun, but no orgasm. With the rest it's been anything from unmemorable or boring to unpleasant or just awkward.

[kathyn]

It is impossible for me to pick one of those options because there's just such a huge variation. With my ex it was amazing, favourite thing ever. With some other guys its still been a lot of fun, but no orgasm. With the rest it's been anything from unmemorable or boring to unpleasant or just awkward.

Just pick which option is when piv is at its best for you. Just like a woman may find oral sex to be the ultimate , yet when some sex partners do it to her it is not so great.

Thanks everyone for their comments, I think i have been unluck with guys in the past, I hope to find one soon that I enyoy PIV sex with.

[lillerina]

^ Tantric sex proves that orgasms are not required for sex to have happened.

We need tantric sex to prove that? Orgasmless sex is still sex, and can still be seriously awesome. And just to be clear, by sex I'm not referring just to PIV sex, I'm talking manual, oral, anal, whatever, doesn't have to have an orgasm for it to be fun.

[kathyn]

I think the think for people to realise (men and women) is that the penis is not the be all and end all for female sexual pleasure. I mean physically a vibrator will provide way more pleasure than any penis ever could.

[androkguz]

I think the think for people to realise (men and women) is that the penis is not the be all and end all for female sexual pleasure. I mean physically a vibrator will provide way more pleasure than any penis ever could.

I know a women that disagrees. But the mayority of those I know and have heard comment on vibrators would agree with you.

[Aum]

^ Tantric sex proves that orgasms are not required for sex to have happened.

We need tantric sex to prove that? Orgasmless sex is still sex, and can still be seriously awesome. And just to be clear, by sex I'm not referring just to PIV sex, I'm talking manual, oral, anal, whatever, doesn't have to have an orgasm for it to be fun.

No... but I cite it as a very old tradition to counter people who think that sex without an orgasm is not sex.

Also, tantra teaches men how to orgasm without ejaculating, which has many uses from spiritual to practical.

I think the think for people to realise (men and women) is that the penis is not the be all and end all for female sexual pleasure. I mean physically a vibrator will provide way more pleasure than any penis ever could.

No offense, but you are more focused on penises than anyone else here.

The whole body is involved in sex, foremost the brain, but also including the penis (in men).

I also answered your poll, as man who enjoys penetrative sex.

[banana]

I am a newer here

[hannahrae]

Favorite sex activity, but I have to have heavy clit stimulation during to get an O. With clit manipulation, I can get an O nearly every time that is far better than clit alone. I voted favorite thing to do ever.

I need clit stim usually. So a lot of times after I have PIV (which I had to look up, DUH HANNAH IT MEANS PENIS IN VAGINA) and my husband cums, we use a vibrator and I cum afterword.

[skydog]

I had to look it up too! Duh! So long as part of him is stimulating my clitoris as well, then that is the BEST. Clitoris only, pretty much guaranteed O, but it's better with PIV at the same time. PIV only, only leaves me wanting a bit more.