How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

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How do you handle sexist crap from your friends?

Immediately reply publicly, with a pun-ny/sacrastic, but firm, rebuttal.
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3%
Immediately reply publicly, with a serious but temperate rebuttal.
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3%
Immediately reply publicly, and tear them a new one.
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Calm down, THEN publicly respond with a pun-ny/sacrastic, but firm, rebuttal.
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8%
Calm down, THEN publicly respond with a serious but temperate rebuttal.
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No votes
Calm down, THEN publicly tear them a new one.
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No votes
Say something temperate/pun-ny publicly, then tear them a new one in private.
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No votes
Discuss in person with them, just the two of you.
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5%
Discuss in person with them, in front of others.
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5%
Bait them into a debate that they will lose.
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3%
Unfollow/Unfriend in social media.
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5%
Drop them from your social life.
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5%
Keep them in your social circle, but make it known you think they're sexist pigs
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No votes
Carry on and ignore them. There's no reasoning with idiots.
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13%
Depends on the severity of the offense, you'll let go the smaller stuff.
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15%
Depends on the severity of the offense, you'll address everything, but only really go off on them for egregious offenses.
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8%
Slap them with pants.
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10%
Regardless of severity, tear them a new one, even if you ruin their pants.
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3%
Other.
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8%
Pants.
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10%
 
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How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby DarkOne » Fri Sep 30, 8:20 2016

How do you handle things when otherwise seemingly smart colleagues post sexist shit like this to their social media?

Imagine this is coming from a colleague, who is also a part of a tight-knit group of people. My knee-jerk reaction is to :flamethrower: them to a crisp wherever they posted. But I seldom do; I usually yield to social nicety, and only address this stuff in private. Part cowardice, part social self-preservation, because I do like the rest of the group and don’t want to create tension.

So what do you all do in those situations? Mind you, this is different from flaming a random sexist stranger. This is specific to people who are close to you and should know better that to be sexist pigs.
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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby Unvoiced_Apollo » Fri Sep 30, 10:37 2016

I have awesome friends who aren't sexist, so can't help here.

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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby rowan » Fri Sep 30, 10:40 2016

Colleagues are tough. :( Flaming fire is not usually an option.

You could take the pic and change it to say "raising sons"?

[caveat: I am not friends with my coworkers on social media, with the exception of two who wouldn't post shit like that]
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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby DarkOne » Fri Sep 30, 16:17 2016

Gah, I'm in Kansas, I've turned into a closet social liberal. Although lately the closet door is more of a bead curtain.
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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby melsbells » Sat Oct 1, 15:04 2016

This forum is the closest I get to social media. In the past I posted a response on my own wall in such a way that the connection was not obvious. So cryptic passive agressive and, unless they were family, unfriend and drop from social life. That's not completely true. Once I entered into a long private conversation that ended in a terrible friend break-up, bridge burned.

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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby Nachos » Sat Oct 1, 17:09 2016

Oh goodness, it's hard. Sometimes I respond firmly but not rudely. Sometimes I just ignore them, they're just idiots. Generally I sigh.
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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby Taurwen » Sun Oct 2, 8:46 2016

I very passive-aggressively find the thing somewhere else and a couple days later post it with my own commentary.

I once directly criticised someone's parenting decision (One post about how she was worried because he wanted to paint his nails & take ballet, the next about how funny it was that he only wanted to rent movies with guns on them) and while I stand by the idea that her priorities were fucked, I felt kinda bad.

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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby monk » Sun Oct 2, 12:33 2016

I look for work elsewhere and burn that bridge. <<-- not recommended, but it feels real good for a whole minute or two.
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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby Neko » Mon Oct 3, 18:41 2016

I give my eye-rolling muscles a workout.

For me, it tends to be more trouble than it's worth with gender stereotype memes and husband/wife humor. From experience and observation: They get defensive, your point doesn't get across, and suddenly you're the "humorless" PC police. But, thankfully, most of what I encounter from friends/coworkers isn't sexist or transphobic.

I often fact check politically charged images and point out flaws in logic on the more serious posts though. And I don't care if it makes me seem humorless. I have a pet peeve for photoshopped images and fakery getting shared as if it reflects reality. Reverse google image searching isn't hard! Verifying sources is a little more involved but still really easy! Hrrrghh.
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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby Taurwen » Mon Oct 3, 19:29 2016

I'm known in my group of friends for having a terrible terrible sense of humour (I was once the only person in the audience of a comedy club who laughed at a joke about abortion), but I do demand that a joke be funny. So generally if I call some thing out for not being funny my friends can't just brush me off as being humourless thank god.

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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby Alison369 » Thu Nov 3, 0:08 2016


How about... None of the above?

Being offended all the time makes females look weak,
I don't care about sexist rhetoric.


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Re: How do you handle sexist crap on social media from friends?

Postby rowan » Thu Nov 3, 9:15 2016

Harm is harm. It's not "offense".

If you don't care about sexist rhetoric (which is harmful), why are you here?
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