Guy problems.

[loserpunkchick182]

Ok, I've liked this guy for almost a year. I'm not even sure why I like him so much, we barely ever talk anymore, and I hate him.. yet I like him. I want to get it out of my system, but I'm having doubts of whether or not I should tell him. You see, for the weirdest reason, I think he's just going to laugh at me and make fun of me. Should I just get over this "fear", and tell him? Or should I just stay quiet?

[•pÕ®ñ §¯|¯ÅR•]

first figure put if u like the guy or u hate him. if ur pretty young u will fall in love with guy as quick as u fall out of love with the,.

[Rosiebabozy]

I don't think you should tell him, and risk getting hurt before you even know what you are feeling yourself. The like / hate thing doesn't sound like a good start to a relationship at least from my experinces. Maybe writting what you are thinking or feeling down might help you get it out of your system. You could always make a list of all the reasons you hate him & another of the reasons you like him (worked for me once). Or talk the whole thing out with a good friend (I suggest not the guy you like, he might be nasty about it and you don't need that) who knows you, the guy, and the situation.

Pornstar, I'm not sure what you are talking about but you normally don't just fall in and out of love quickly (no matter what age you are). Like and lust yes, but not love. That is different and takes time to mature. There is some truth to what you are saying, another guy will come probably come along soon, loserpunkchick182. It sounds like you are quite young so try not to stress over this one too much.

[-=kDm=-]

well i think you shoud tell him, the quicker you do the better. at least then you will know where you stand.

and pornstar, you are right in a way, but i do think the word love gets thrown around a bit too much. love and like are different, but yeah, you do have a point.

[MFS]

Okie, I've liked this guy for almost a year. I'm not even sure why I like him so much, we barely ever talk anymore, and I hate him.. yet I like him. I want to get it out of my system, but I'm having doubts of whether or not I should tell him. You see, for the weirdest reason, I think he's just going to laugh at me and make fun of me. Should I just get over this "fear", and tell him? Or should I just stay quiet?

List why you think you like him.

Then list why you think you hate him.

Compare the lists.

Is it worth you worrying about?

[angry-amy]

Pornstar, I'm not sure what you are talking about but you normally don't just fall in and out of love quickly (no matter what age you are). Like and lust yes, but not love.

yes and no. the younger you are the more likely you are to mistake other affections for love. that and the fact that you are still trying to work out who you are and what you want at a younger age. that said, you are more likely to fall in and out of love the younger you are.... or at least what you percieve to be love. think about it.

[•pÕ®ñ §¯|¯ÅR•]

well younger people find other people that are cute or what ever you want to call them and they hhave little crushes on them. you dont have to call it love you can call it lust or like what ever but they will soon loose intrest in the person. she has to figur out if she likes the guy or not. and yeah i agree with MFS.........

[lizpoona]

Okie, I've liked this guy for almost a year. I'm not even sure why I like him so much, we barely ever talk anymore, and I hate him.. yet I like him. I want to get it out of my system, but I'm having doubts of whether or not I should tell him. You see, for the weirdest reason, I think he's just going to laugh at me and make fun of me. Should I just get over this "fear", and tell him? Or should I just stay quiet?

Poona says you should ask him what he thinks about you and then tell him. *pets poona* *puuuuurrrr, he meows* he's such a smart monkey!

[Meichan04]

I think (based on my own experience) that the drama of liking/ not liking and telling/not telling keep a person entertained. Look at it logically. The list idea is a good one but unless you really want to put the effort into pursuing something or cutting off ties if he is an ass about it, then I wouldn't say anything and I'd find something more "intellectually stimulating" to quote Marcia Brady.

Jen

[paperdolly]

i risked it.
he didn't laugh, but he didn't ever speak to me again.
*sigh*

[Turc]

Okie, I've liked this guy for almost a year. I'm not even sure why I like him so much, we barely ever talk anymore, and I hate him.. yet I like him. I want to get it out of my system, but I'm having doubts of whether or not I should tell him. You see, for the weirdest reason, I think he's just going to laugh at me and make fun of me. Should I just get over this "fear", and tell him? Or should I just stay quiet?

List why you think you like him.

Then list why you think you hate him.

Compare the lists.

Is it worth you worrying about?

I always hated it when people told me to write lists to compare the pros and cons of things. I could never do it. I think I tried once, but once I sat down to write things, I couldn't think of anything that seemed relevant to write down. So yeah.

The thing that you are explaining, punkchick, is a fear of rejection, and I think everyone has that fear buried somewhere deep down. I do know that I know what you are talking about, because a guy hurt me really bad once (the one that dumped me over the internet), and I hated him for the longest time, while still liking him. It's a very hard feeling to deal with. I haven't said anything meaningful to him since September, but I think that's because there's still anger in me towards him. My advice is tell him what you really think about him, so you can, like you said, get it out of your system. I have no idea if it'll work though... I just know what it's like to live with what you are describing though. If you find a way, let me know?...