Are Compliments Emotional?

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Are Compliments Emotional?

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Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Daktoria » Mon Jan 23, 13:28 2012

Compliments are more complicated than I thought.

I've always believed we compliment each other not to make that person feel pleasant, but to show appreciation for what someone did.

I guess some people would believe those are the same thing, but to me, appreciation is more intuitive. It's not emotional. It's just a state of mind where you realize someone completed a system.

It's hard to explain better than that.

(Edited thanks to Rowan)
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Re: Are Complements Emotional?

Postby rowan » Mon Jan 23, 13:54 2012

Complement, or compliment?

Personally I like complements. A nice summery white sangria would be a nice complement to my fruit and cheese plate. Of course, I don't have either right now, nor is it summer. Alas. However, I do not think complements are terribly complicated.

As for compliments, I think they can be used in both ways you suggest. It's generally recognized than encouragement is more effective than praise, in young children, for example, but both could be labeled compliments. Some compliments can cause difficulties, e.g. if everyone says "Oh you are so pretty!" but never asks you about intellectual things, one might grow up socialized to think that pretty was more important than smart. So yes, compliments can be quite complicated.

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Re: Are Complements Emotional?

Postby zibber » Mon Jan 23, 14:08 2012

I can compliment someone for complementing me. Compliments can be a part of complementing. It's definitely a complex issue we are talking about here.

Personally, though, I don't want fruit anywhere near my cheese. I like my cheese old and salty and to go with dark, complex wine. As complex as this issue.

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Re: Are Complements Emotional?

Postby Daktoria » Mon Jan 23, 14:22 2012


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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby rowan » Mon Jan 23, 14:29 2012

Oh, I think a nice tart apple might go nicely with a dark red, and some old salty cheese... clearly we will have to test this hypothesis.

[eta: eh we all make spelling errors now and then but I thought this one was funny ;)]

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby zibber » Mon Jan 23, 14:42 2012


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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Sonic# » Mon Jan 23, 15:04 2012

They can be emotional, but they need not be. They can be a form of appreciation or praise. They can be intended in order to give gratification to the one complimented. None of these answers is exclusive to one another.

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby monk » Mon Jan 23, 15:08 2012

I think a nice slice of apple pie can complement a fine cheese nicely.


Compliments on the other hand are complicated. Social interaction is a variable beast, compliments and courtesy can go a long way to lubricate interactions that can be dry and boring and possibly defuse in advance confrontation. It's much more difficult to be negative to someone who is being overly positive towards you.


mmmm pie.

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby spacefem » Mon Jan 23, 17:58 2012


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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby LunchBox » Mon Jan 23, 19:23 2012

Where the frack did this thread go? In any case it made me giggle regardless of topic.

On topic- I think this is too deeply to be thinking into compliments. They can be for a number of reasons from any angle. Some scumbag complimenting a woman in order to get into her pants is very different from that random stranger who stops you and tells your how pretty your ass-length hair is. There is no single reason or mechanism at work in compliments, just an expression.

I like pie, you all can keep the cheese.

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Rainbow Dolphins » Mon Jan 23, 20:40 2012

"Everything's gonna be OK soon, maybe tomorrow- maybe the next day." -the Mountain Goats
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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby drunken dragon » Tue Jan 24, 7:36 2012

Polls with only two options make baby Jesus CRY.

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Rainbow Dolphins » Tue Jan 24, 23:09 2012

"Everything's gonna be OK soon, maybe tomorrow- maybe the next day." -the Mountain Goats
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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Neko » Wed Jan 25, 14:46 2012

:sun: The future's bright, Lit up with nowhere to go :earth:

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Mordak » Wed Jan 25, 14:51 2012

Room temperature triple cream brie and fresh off the tree ripe peaches = rave in my mouth, with my tastebuds going untzuntzuntzuntz.
"mordie-pordie-pudding and pie" kicked your butt and made you cry :P

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Storage and Disposal » Wed Jan 25, 15:01 2012

I think I like the direction this thread is heading.
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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Mordak » Wed Jan 25, 15:18 2012

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wallace and gromit approve of this thread.
"mordie-pordie-pudding and pie" kicked your butt and made you cry :P

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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby Rainbow Dolphins » Sat Jan 28, 3:35 2012

YES!! CHEESE, GR0MIT!
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Re: Are Compliments Emotional?

Postby zibber » Sat Jan 28, 5:26 2012

60s John Cleese would approve, but he can't seem to get any cheese.


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