lykin005 wrote:Or do they repel? I've been reexamining what I look for in a woman and I've kinda hit a wall. I mean I know what I think I want but I cant be sure if that's what I should really be looking for. To be clear I have been looking for a woman very similar to me but I wonder if maybe that's not quite the way to go. So what do you individuals think? Does a relationship work better when those involved are very similar, somewhere in the middle, or totally different?
lykin005 wrote:Am I pretty much just screwed?
Butterfly North wrote:I think it's important to have at least some significant overlap in the things that are really important to you or at least an understanding of how differences can be solved. So if you want seven kids and they want none, that's a big problem, but if they want maybe two you can handle it as long as you communicate. If you're religious perhaps avoid dating richard dawkins but it should be possible to be happy with an atheist as long as you two can be accepting of each other. If you really like drinking a few socially it's still fine to be with someone who's teetotal but not if they have a big problem with people drinking full stop. And so on.
Independently to this you have your character. The above things don't relate to stuff like how friendly you are, how loud you are, how stubborn you are and so on. I like to make jokes and I'm attracted to others who make jokes, but if someone was very serious but had other qualities that attracted me that'd be fine - it's preferable to have someone similar but not one of those things I'd put in the 'very important to me' category. If you're stubborn you might want to avoid other stubborn people, so in that case perhaps opposites do attract. I don't think you can extrapolate from that to a general rule though - in the end, if you're quiet you might end up liking someone who is really outgoing, but they might be attracted to that quality too. It sucks when that happens but it's just an odds thing.
lykin005 wrote:I have no job (And honestly wont have one until I find one I would like doing.)
lykin005 wrote: and have no money. So coffee (Or really any sort of date.) would likely require her to do the heavy lifting. I don't see most woman being very attracted to a guy in this situation, but maybe I'm wrong.
lykin005 wrote:To Zibber: I think the hard part is going to be finding a woman who is willing to do things like that. In my experience woman talk about wanting a date where money is spent. (Hell if I know why it matters!) Hearts no! But a possible connection yes. Your asking me to "let go" of what is basically the only thing I really look forward to in life. Barring super powers or finding out I'm the chosen one or something along those lines that's really the biggest thing I'm looking forward to in life. Love is one of the most important things in my life. I cant just not care anymore! Don't get me wrong I'm still enjoying life and I have goals and things but their all secondary to finding love or superpowers.
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