Sonic# wrote:ladyhawk, I don't think that you are sexist for having chosen it. I think it's sexist for being the default choice. I have never felt any compunction about staying with the name I was born with. No one will interpret my keeping my name as an activist thing to do or as a novelty. That is a privilege that I do enjoy, one that also discourages stepping outside of its bounds, since I would be relentlessly judged by my family if I did want to change my name. That's where the sexism comes in - the judgments and the reinforcement of a narrow set of gender-defined decisions, not the choices that we as individuals make.
helium wrote:Every vagina is different, right? A unique and original vag-snowflake?
lillerina wrote:As an aside, I hate the phrase "maiden name". Given that maiden is a synonym for virgin, it reflects the view that a woman will remain a virgin until she gets married. Virginity is such bullshit, it's a concept used to control women's sexuality. Language matters, yo.
rowan wrote:^and it also often costs $$ for the man to change his name, but not for the woman to change hers when they get married. Now THAT is institutionalized sexism.
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