My cousin finds my sex life fascinating!

[Storage and Disposal]

I'm going to admit right now that I'm a fan of being open. It's liberating for me to not have many secrets, especially since who I am is so goddamn controversial to, well, just about everyone I know in my town. And I'll admit that I knew anything I put on facebook, even down to a change in "status" would come back to haunt me if I had anyone nosy enough on my friendlist. I didn't think anyone honestly gave a shit about things like that, but I guess I was wrong.

My cousin decided to talk about my open relationship with my dad. Now, my dad is pretty firmly set in his old-style, homophobic, gun-toting ways, so it's pointless for me to even bring it up in order for him to understand. But yeah, my cousin thinks differently, I guess. She has a baby, so I would think there would be more important things to worry about than her relatives' sex lives. I mean, seriously? It's not really her business to know. It's certainly not her business to tell my dad.

So this caused me to have a conversation with my dad where I probably talked over his head so much that he couldn't understand what I was saying. I talked about how I don't look at gender first when I see someone and despite that, I'm "mostly" straight, which is true. I didn't go into detail about the things I've thought about doing with the guys I am attracted to, but for the most part the people on my mind happen to be women. But he just went straight into talking about how open relationships burn bridges or something about branches or I don't know. Basically, he didn't understand me, but that's fine. I honestly don't think I could get him to understand, but I said what I felt I needed to say anyway, because I love him.

So yeah. Thanks, cousin! I really needed that stress on top of this wonderful depression I've been going through. Well timed! I'll be sure to return the favor if you ever say anything remotely interesting.

[rowan]

*great big hugs*

That's really horrible of her to do that.

*extra hugs for depression*

[dwarp]

That is sooooo obnoxious. I have a friend who I had to stop telling things to because she would bring up stuff that I wasn't comfortable about sharing with some of our mutual friends. It's really frustrating that she forced you into that conversation with your dad, especially since it wasn't something you felt was even necessary to share with him at this point.

[Sonic#]

And this is why I don't tell things to certain cousins. Urgh, the family gossip mill. >_< I'm sorry she forced you into a conversation that you didn't want.

[edit the sad parts]

That is so ignorant and presumptuous of your cousin. I have to say I have tons of respect for you for having that frank conversation with your dad. I probably would have just avoided the fuck out of the subject.

[drunken dragon]

How stupid of her. I'm so sorry Storage. *hugness*

[MsLeah93]

That's really horrible for her to do. Your personal life is none of her business. I'm sorry that this happened to you. I'd be very upset if it happened to me.

[androkguz]

Cruel cousin!

But on another note, your sex life does seem fascinating. In a positive way. Congrats.

[ladypenelope]

I talked about how I don't look at gender first when I see someone

See I think this is the thing that some people just don't get. I've had a few close friends imply that even though I like girls I "wouldn't have a serious relationship with a girl because you're not gay, right?" I (in closed circles) identify as queer but I'm not out to the majority of people I know because they just don't get it. I like people for people, I don't care about their bits.

Still, totally out of line for your cousin to bring it up with your dad. Good on you for saying what you wanted to say though, even if not on your terms/timing.

[Tookie]

^ I've gotten the same reaction. I blame the heteropatriarchy

I'm super impressed that you did come out to your dad, even if you were forced into it. I'm sure he'll realize in a few years that you're not burning any bridges.

[Storage and Disposal]

Thanks all! And to think, this is probably the relative I get a long with the best. Bleh, my family. I love them, but if they weren't my family, I would have absolutely nothing to do with them. They're good for unconditional love on holidays, but my friends and RD are probably closer to a family to me than them.

Hell, this site is probably closer to a family than my actual family.

[spacefem]

total family gossip mill, what a buncha crap. I know how you feel.

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.
- Eleanor Roosevelt

[great girl wonder]

But on another note, your sex life does seem fascinating. In a positive way. Congrats.

Ditto. Your sex life is so much fun other people have to talk about it since theirs is lackluster.

[Storage and Disposal]

Actually, I know of no one but RD that is willing to sleep with me, so it's not that unusually fascinating. haha. It's a pain in the ass just finding people to talk to me.

[Rainbow Dolphins]

Hey, I think if anyone knew the details they'd still be pretty fascinated....

[Ash]

Aww....sypmathy