Father's day is coming up, so let's have a little article about dads.
CNN has a nice little writeup
about how the norms of dad life are changing; and how the tropes in the media portray them as "bumbling buffons" when it comes to raising a kid. Huggies, for example, aired a couple of commercials - and then due to a change.org petition has actually changed their direction, showing dads as loving competent parents. Like, whoa, man! A few other companies are doing it. However, the main stream media still overly portrays fathers as incompetent at raising children. In fact, most dads actually do a pretty decent job. It's not that they don't care for their kids, or don't want to help in raising them. They do. Admittedly they are fighting against a stereotype and there are probably fewer people teaching them how to be good dads from the time they are born. But parenting is a learned skill and many dads step up to the plate and do great.
Just as when women point out stereotypes that harm women, dads who fight against these stereotypes are often told to lighten up. They get hate mail too. (Of course, the quantity is far less, and they receive far more praise than women. Plus probably not with the rape threats.) Interestingly, if you read the comments on the CNN article (I don't normally recommend doing this for articles of course) most of the hate is directed toward women
That's right, let me repeat that: Most of the hate is directed toward women
, on an article encouraging the breaking of stereotypes for men. Women are called vipers, they are put down as "better at things like back seat driving" and more. Breaking down stereotypes is good for everyone. And it's hard for everyone. But apparently, it's women's fault no matter what.
I say: Go, dads, go. One step forward for breaking down the stereotypes for fatherhood, is a step forward for women as well. And someday, far in the future, it won't matter who is baking the cupcakes for the kid's birthday, or who is making the money - or if both parents are doing both things. It'll be up to the choice of the two people.
And those of you haters? You'll be left feeling miserable, because you don't have a nice balance in your life.