Haruhi Kenoko wrote: while most men's rights advocates are against feminism, it doesn't mean that they hate women.
If they are against feminism, they may not hate women, but they certainly don't respect them. Feminism is about equal rights, and those who fear and hate it tend to do so because they don't want
equal rights. They may pretend it is otherwise, but if you look at the things they protest, they are either
a) artifacts of the current cultural system. For example, you mention that MRAs are against the double standards involving children; those double standards don't exist because of feminism, and are not supported by feminism. The current cultural system often both views women as better caregivers than men and assumes that women by default should be the ones to take care of children, which would contribute to why they seem to be favoured in divorce courts. Feminists fight these ideas as well; why should it be women who by default take care of children? Why can't a man be considered the better caregiver? Why aren't these decisions made on a case by case basis, each on it's own merit? These are all things that are promoted by feminism, and anyone who tells you otherwise is either grossly misinformed, or is trying to make you angry with false propaganda. The big contribution of feminism in all this is that it is now easier for women to leave a marriage; so where women were just trapped in a relationship and could not leave, now they have to the ability to do so and don't just have to stick it out.
b) loss of privilege [advantages that they have come to take for granted that they really shouldn't have had in the first place] Bringing back the last example, there was a time when a man was considered by default head of the family, and his wants and needs were considered to trump the wants and needs of the other family members, and could treat his wife horrifically, and there was not a whole lot she could do about it. New laws and culture have made this less true, and there are people who are unhappy about this loss of power. They see it as a loss of their rights, instead of seeing it as no longer allowing their rights to trample the rights of others.
Haruhi Kenoko wrote:women are goddesses
You want women to be goddesses . . . but you don't want them to be feminists? Putting women on a pedestal is a poor excuse to justify not treating them with equal respect and equal rights. You might as well call it what it really is : putting women down while pretending they're above us. Women aren't
goddesses. They're people, and that is how they should be treated. Just like men. Just like anyone who falls anywhere else on the gender spectrum.