|Today is:||August 3rd, 2015|
|Your due date:||July 9th, 2016|
|Weeks along:||-9 W, 2 D|
Ditto about The Giving Tree. I read it again as an adult and thought, "Gee, this looks a lot like the relationship I was recently in with a narcissist. Maybe I learned how to fall in love with assholes because of this book?" Then I calmly put it down and told myself that kids don't really understand the nuances all that much anyway.
I encountered this randomly the other day. Now I need to go dig some more into it...
In my experience "real" contractions are pretty much the whole uterus (top, bottom and lower back). I remember reading somewhere that the ones that get you dilated from 0-7/8 cm are largely the muscles pulling up, trying to stretch the cervix out. As a result many people largely do feel them most strongly at the top of their belly. Whether you feel them strongly in your back or not depends on how the baby is positioned. If you've heard the term "back labor" that usually happens if the back of the baby's head is pressed up against your spine (less common than when the baby's face is on the spine). The contractions that take you from 7 or 8 cm to 10 - i.e. the ones in the part of labor known as "transition" - do tend to be lower down (and also more painful). That said, I think there is A LOT of variation in experience...
I am actually a big fan of the wonder weeks. I found it better than most popular level books looking at infant development. My son was right on the clock for the fussy/happy times, and it was interesting to look for the new skills that I might not have noticed if I hadn't been watching for them.
On the other hand, I stumbled upon this accidentally, so didn't have any hype surrounding it. I also read the author biographies before picking up the book, so took everything with a grain of salt knowing that 1) the authors specialized in chimpanzees, not humans, and developed their theories based on chimps; 2) the bulk of the research is greater than 20 years old and so much of the book is out-dated; and 3) given #'s 1&2, incidental parenting advice had to be filtered.
That said, I still found the book useful and regularly recommend it to people.
I loved The Stinky Cheese Man as a child, and my four year old loves it now, but looking at those illustrations as an adult...*shudders*
That's the stuff of nightmares, right there.
Yay for better, if not yet great. The pacifier has been wonderful for my little creature. I was hesitant to use it, just like you, but it calms him like nothing else and he still eats like a champ. Best wishes!
I'm definitely in the "happy healthy child is my only goal" camp. I know some people who are superstars in their chosen fields. From what I can tell, being a superstar is completely exhausting and often really psychologically taxing. So if my kid isn't naturally inclined that way, I certainly don't intend to push them.
If I'm hoping for anything, I hope they'll end up being a quirky artsy/techy type like just about everyone else in the family. But my brother's a corporate lawyer and I love him anyway, so even if our kid turns out to be a white sheep, they'll just bond with Uncle A and it'll all be fine.
We used/still use our diaper bag quite a lot.
For our little guy's first year of life we were urban dwellers and I would often go out for half a day at a time. I would take a diaper for every hour I planned to be out of the house plus one, which was too much for the clutch. I needed a change pad, since he was often changed in nasty places, wipes, hand sanitizer (for changes away from running water), Kleenex, and disposal bags. He needed spare clothes, I needed a spare shirt (discovered after an emergency, useful many times afterwards), and it was useful to have a plastic bag for clothes which were victims of a diaper explosion. For longer days out I would bring two spares for him (and did have days where I used both). I would also have a nursing cover and a blanket in there. We also had a stroller cover for napping which was quite handy when we were taking the stroller as opposed to a carrier. And then there was my stuff, like my wallet, phone, lip balm, keys, granola bar, etc... I did pack the camera, and was often glad for it. Nearly all of our first year pics were from our little excursions.
Thanks for the tips. It's not so much getting to sleep that's the problem, it's staying that way that is causing the issue - too many things waking me up. I seem to be in a bit of a pattern now of alternating good and bad nights, which I guess I can live with. Meanwhile, Netflix is getting a damn good workout in the early hours.
Mazel tov, annesik! That is a very important milestone! :D
A few of the more enterprising/crafty moms in my old parent group got together with a group of friends and bought beads in bulk from alibaba or some other site like that. Some sold the necklaces locally, some made really affordable gifts for friends; I almost jumped in, because a couple of years ago these were still hovering at the $30 mark, but at ~$15, they're much more affordable now, methinks.
They babies I witnessed munching on these were really going to town on them, too.
Eek and here I was about to say this felt like a tame version of Mother Lover.
Sorry to CPR a dying thread, but I came across this, and thought I'd share.
http://www.henriettes-herb.com/blog/pos ... ssion.html
Pre and post-partum depression have similar reasons, physically speaking. Check nutrition first.