This can be an upsetting topic, but after passing a pregnancy test and facing so much uncertainty about my future I just wanted something to make me feel a little more... in control. For me, that's statistics. So based on some human embryo survival rates - overall and at 6, 8, and 10 weeks, I did some curve matching to calculate the risk of miscarriage at each day of an early pregnancy. The data here is based on a study of 600 women who were tested daily for pregnancy while trying to conceive, so early pregnancies were all evaluated for survival rate. The numbers are an estimate, but they're something.
The following dates are based on an estimated LMP of August 10th, 2012.
|Date||Progress||Overall probability of miscarriage|
|Friday August 31st, 2012||3W, 0D||33%|
|Saturday September 1st, 2012||3W, 1D||32.9%|
|Sunday September 2nd, 2012||3W, 2D||32.6%|
|Monday September 3rd, 2012||3W, 3D||32%|
|Tuesday September 4th, 2012||3W, 4D||31.3%|
|Wednesday September 5th, 2012||3W, 5D||30.3%|
|Thursday September 6th, 2012||3W, 6D||29.2%|
|Friday September 7th, 2012||4W, 0D||28%|
|Saturday September 8th, 2012||4W, 1D||26.6%|
|Sunday September 9th, 2012||4W, 2D||25.2%|
|Monday September 10th, 2012||4W, 3D||23.6%|
|Tuesday September 11th, 2012||4W, 4D||22.1%|
|Wednesday September 12th, 2012||4W, 5D||20.5%|
|Thursday September 13th, 2012||4W, 6D||18.9%|
|Friday September 14th, 2012||5W, 0D||17.3%|
|Saturday September 15th, 2012||5W, 1D||15.8%|
|Sunday September 16th, 2012||5W, 2D||14.4%|
|Monday September 17th, 2012||5W, 3D||13%|
|Tuesday September 18th, 2012||5W, 4D||11.7%|
|Wednesday September 19th, 2012||5W, 5D||10.5%|
|Thursday September 20th, 2012||5W, 6D||9.4%|
|Friday September 21st, 2012||6W, 0D||8.4%|
|Saturday September 22nd, 2012||6W, 1D||7.5%|
|Sunday September 23rd, 2012||6W, 2D||6.6%|
|Monday September 24th, 2012||6W, 3D||5.9%|
|Tuesday September 25th, 2012||6W, 4D||5.3%|
|Wednesday September 26th, 2012||6W, 5D||4.7%|
|Thursday September 27th, 2012||6W, 6D||4.3%|
|Friday September 28th, 2012||7W, 0D||3.9%|
|Saturday September 29th, 2012||7W, 1D||3.5%|
|Sunday September 30th, 2012||7W, 2D||3.2%|
|Monday October 1st, 2012||7W, 3D||3%|
|Tuesday October 2nd, 2012||7W, 4D||2.8%|
|Wednesday October 3rd, 2012||7W, 5D||2.6%|
|Thursday October 4th, 2012||7W, 6D||2.5%|
|Friday October 5th, 2012||8W, 0D||2.4%|
|Saturday October 6th, 2012||8W, 1D||2.3%|
|Sunday October 7th, 2012||8W, 2D||2.2%|
|Monday October 8th, 2012||8W, 3D||2.2%|
|Tuesday October 9th, 2012||8W, 4D||2.1%|
|Wednesday October 10th, 2012||8W, 5D||2.1%|
|Thursday October 11th, 2012||8W, 6D||2.1%|
|Friday October 12th, 2012||9W, 0D||2.1%|
|Saturday October 13th, 2012||9W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday October 14th, 2012||9W, 2D||2%|
|Monday October 15th, 2012||9W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday October 16th, 2012||9W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday October 17th, 2012||9W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday October 18th, 2012||9W, 6D||2%|
|Friday October 19th, 2012||10W, 0D||2%|
|Saturday October 20th, 2012||10W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday October 21st, 2012||10W, 2D||2%|
|Monday October 22nd, 2012||10W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday October 23rd, 2012||10W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday October 24th, 2012||10W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday October 25th, 2012||10W, 6D||2%|
|Friday October 26th, 2012||11W, 0D||2%|
|Saturday October 27th, 2012||11W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday October 28th, 2012||11W, 2D||2%|
|Monday October 29th, 2012||11W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday October 30th, 2012||11W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday October 31st, 2012||11W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday November 1st, 2012||11W, 6D||2%|
|Friday November 2nd, 2012||12W, 0D||2%|
|Saturday November 3rd, 2012||12W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday November 4th, 2012||12W, 2D||2%|
|Monday November 5th, 2012||12W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday November 6th, 2012||12W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday November 7th, 2012||12W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday November 8th, 2012||12W, 6D||2%|
All numbers are estimates. If you have better research, drop me an e-mail (email@example.com).I used information from two studies to make my assumptions: Wilcox AJ, Baird DD, Weinberg CR (1999). "Time of implantation of the conceptus and loss of pregnancy." and Wang X, Chen C, Wang L, Chen D, Guang W, French J (2003). "Conception, early pregnancy loss, and time to clinical pregnancy: a population-based prospective study.". I was not able to obtain full access to the second one, but based on citations I believe I had the numbers I needed for this.
The studies analyzed women who were trying to conceive for the first time.
There is a page of good studies here: https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general that compares risks based on age, whether you've heard a heartbeat, previous miscarriage, and hosts of other factors.
Charts are generated by flot.
The second someone starts feeling contractions on TV, they have to be raced to the hospital immediately! You almost never see people saying, "Okay, let's get out the timing app!" and waiting until the contractions are five minutes apart.
And so many people end up being delivered by a random dude they know. There's an episode of Fresh Prince where Will delivers a baby. In Star Trek:TNG, Worf delivers Keiko O'Brien's baby. And on and on...
My sister and her husband were glad for mine and our mothers help for limited periods when she just wanted to sleep but we both understood "the look" that said we should go away without her having to actually throw us out. If you don't have that relationship with "S" and can't establish it before the babies born don't guest her at your house.
But it is a really kind offer. Maybe she doesn't know you already have a support system? let her know.
I have no help, but I can offer hugs. *hugs*
We found out, it was a fun detail to learn about our baby, it inspired the Wonder Woman nursery theme. My friends and family didn't go too nuts on the pink. There were a number of weird conversations with people who assumed I would oppose pink. I think pink is a lovely color for a baby to wear, alongside all the others, but people associated feminism with some kind of anti-pink venom that I just don't feel. I guess I feel like eventually, my family and friends are going to know the kid's sex. Our culture will ascribe gender roles to her far before she's conscious of them herself, so she'll have to be taught from a very young age that such things are bullshit. Wether she starts being gendered at 3 months or 3 days doesn't stand to change things significantly, in my view, we still have a long road on that one.
For a good pre-conception book with a lot of science in it, I really enjoyed "The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant". All the science is cited and it's an easy read.
I really liked the book "Origins: How the Nine Months Before Birth Shape the Rest of Our Lives". It contained a lot of information a lot of other books didn't and was fun to read.
For a good reference book, I love the 411 series (Expecting 411, Baby 411, Toddler 411). It has really helpful information in an easy to look up format.
I also have enjoyed reading some essays about motherhood including "Waiting for Birdy" about a woman's second pregnancy while raising a toddler, "The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood to Fit Reality" which is a collection of essays about motherhood, and "Bringing Up Bebe" for a travelogue while parenting.
I haven't had to go through anything that is this (I imagine) traumatic. However, I have been pregnant five times, and I do only have two children. During my two successful pregnancies (I miscarried very early in the other three) I pretty much had to just stop reading anything at all, because, for me personally, it wasn't reassuring. It just made it worse. No news, baby books, articles, no online communities, nothing. Just made me more paranoid.
After the 3rd miscarriage, I went to grief counseling, and I continued therapy through my pregnancy with my second child, which seemed to help a lot.
I will tell you, if it gives you any peace of mind whatsoever, that I was told after my second miscarriage, when I was only 20 years old, that I would need a hysterectomy and probably never have children. Five years later, I have all my reproductive organs and have two healthy children.
I know what works for me won't for everyone, but you could maybe try some of these things?
Ladies, I am so sorry you're feeling so awful. Do talk to your doctors about this, and expect them to take is seriously. I delayed getting help for way too long because I thought I was just having normal morning sickness and it was NOT normal morning sickness. Once you've tried the usual round of crackers, ginger everything, sea bands, teas, etc. there are prescriptions that can help you stay healthy so you can nurture your growing baby. I had to take enough Zofran and Phenergan to put a horse to sleep and had a healthy, happy baby born to a healthy, happy momma. If things really persist check out http://beyondmorningsickness.com for more options.
kaybee that is a great write-up, thank you for sharing! do you mind if I split this off to its own topic? because it's worth it!
I especially admired the conclusion:
Pretty much the only helpful comment I got from a member of the general public while I was pregnant was this super sweet woman at a lecture. We were chatting, I told her I was expecting my first baby, and a few minutes later I mentioned my friends and I had just gone out to a local sushi place. She got this big smile and said "I didn't have sushi until my third kid, GOOD FOR YOU! You'll be a great mom!"
Bless that wonderful woman.
This is my second pregnancy, with unfortunately no children. This statistics page has given me comfort both times even though no one could have predicted the oddball birth defect that ended my last pregnancy in the second trimester. I suppose I was just one of the unlucky 1% last time, and am so hopeful this time. Thank you for posting it!
The place I work at did the same thing to a temporary type employee when she was pregnant. She had let them know when she was hired that she was pregnant and would be needing a c-secition. But then when the time came she hadn't been at the job for a full year so they said she didn't qualify for FMLA (family medical leave something) and emailed her... (email yes) to say her options were: 1) resign and reapply or 2) call off and get fired after missing work for 4 days.
Needless to say it worries me about my options even though I'm in a different department, with different job type. It will be interesting to see what the ruling is for this and how it affects current policy.
I have a whole big
Totally grabbed from other sources (http://www.fda.gov/Food/FoodborneIllnes ... 393070.htm & http://www.nrdc.org/oceans/seafoodguide/page4.asp) but it mimics a little card that I literally printed out and folded up in my wallet while I was pregnant.
We locked down the universe with the first, still pretty tight with the 2nd, but by the time we had #3 and 4, things got a lot looser. We also had so much more stuff that certain areas that were "dangerous" were now totally inaccessible and irrelevant (yay piles of blankies?)
OMG AKA_LAURA CONGRATULATIONS!