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Sat Aug 19 3:00 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

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Sat Aug 19 3:00 AM


Thank you everyone. :) Any info about egg-freezing is appreciated. Although, my wife can always donate hers too. Good luck, Sonic. :) Many prayers for you both! :)(sufiMYSTIC) *I'm back to my original profile, lovernotafighter.* by lovernotafighter in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Aug 19 2:18 AM

How on earth do you keep track of your passwords???

Honestly I have a method but the sites always break it so I often lock myself out anyway. I used the StaplerHorse thing for a while, I should go back to that. What irritates me most though is I forget all the things like what special characters are allowed/not allowed/oh and this site has to be 8 chars but less than 12 chars or blah blah blah. And they never tell you until you're already re-setting your password.

I also make up random characters for the security question answers. I'm sure anyone could figure out my mother's maiden name but you're not going to figure out what my random generator told me to put that day. :P
by rowan in Ranting
Fri Aug 18 5:05 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Aug 18 3:00 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Aug 17 3:00 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Aug 16 3:00 AM

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Tue Aug 15 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Aug 15 3:00 AM

hi everyone~I'm new here, could anyone do me a favor pls?

Hello everyone, It's nice to join you now~

I'm a student studying feminism and journalism now, and I've made a survey asking for people's attitude to feminism on social media.

If anyone is interested in it, could you please help me to take this survey? The link of it is

Your suggestion is valuable for me!

Thank you so much for helping.
by zzzzzzephyr in New Members
Mon Aug 14 6:43 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

Last film I watched was the 1978 animated version of The Lord of the Rings; I first watched it when it was new so rewatching it was pretty nostalgic. Just a shame it was never finished. :3houses: by Tweek in Mixed Media
Mon Aug 14 3:38 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Aug 14 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Aug 14 3:00 AM

Edinburgh Fringe Shows!

Anyone went/still there/going to go? Write your show recommendations here!

So I was just there for a week from Saturday 5th to Saturday 12th and managed to fit in 28 shows! I saw a variety of comedy, theatre, musicals and odd things. :) This list is on order of seeing.

John Robertson - The Dark Room

Late Night Gimp Fight

Adventures of the Improvised Sherlock Holmes

Juliette Burton - Butterfly Effect

by Nachos in Mixed Media
Sun Aug 13 1:57 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Aug 13 3:00 AM

Shitty Air Quality

I'm so sorry! I currently live in LA, and I wondered why a couple/few days ago I started feeling sick. And I didn't think it was because I was going from cold AC to HOT house everyday, like normal. I've been a little raspy. Eucalyptus essential oil could possibly help everyone to breathe as well.

I am not a licensed health care practitioner, but rather have deep life experience with nutrition and natural, wholistic health. That's why I mentioned. I know a lot of singers who use a, what is it called , it's a scarf with a mask, disguised as a scarf. But that might be in NYC where it's colder.

by sufiMYSTIC in Ranting
Sat Aug 12 2:59 AM

Rape culture doesn't exist


Its Ok, I didn't make it very clear which side I was on.


The worst rape culture is pedophilia. Someone showed me a video of a 18-25 year young male and admitted pedophile trying to justify pedophilia. I rarely get disgusted to the point where I physically want to do harm to someone but yeah.. The mode of thinking itself is scarey and whats worse deep down you know he is not alone.

Lol why is it everytime a business man gets caught doing something illegal, when they go through the computer they always find pictures of underage kids? Im mean its like almost a perfect record.

by Skeezy in Feminism
Thu Aug 10 10:16 PM

Postpartum issues: things that can go wrong after

ugh that totes doesn't just happen during c-section. I had a friend who found out when she was having (other) surgery years later and they stitched her up since "they were in there anyway". Honestly I think I also have it but it doesn't cause problems *most* of the time (sometimes stabby pain but no one takes it seriously so idk). by rowan in Pregnancy & Parenting
Wed Aug 9 5:24 PM

Feminist Queer Writer


I'm impressed with your ability to self reflect, take non insulting criticism productively, and establish a realistic view of others outside your own threshold.

Especially when it comes to color a lot of people use their own life to determine what is or what isn't and you simply cannot understand going about it that way. You first have to acknowledge that you dont have full knowledge and be willing to listen and learn. I think you knocked that out of the park so to speak compared to most.

by Skeezy in New Members
Wed Aug 9 2:31 PM

Hey everyone

Hey all! I'm new to Spacefem, and I'm wanting to get my blog out there! I write mostly about feminism, but also about some other stuff! please give it a read and let me know what you think!
by alexvaneeden in New Members
Tue Aug 8 12:56 PM

Promoting Gender Equality

Actually, feminists argue that it's those very gender stereotypes as mentioned by lillerina is at the root of many MRA issues, including sentencing disparity.

by Unvoiced_Apollo in Feminism
Sun Aug 6 11:38 PM

The more accomplished the female character, the more violent the response.

I've noticed a disturbing trend of dudes reacting to female characters who get pushed and put over, by creating very violent scenarios. The stuff I have heard before. These include ripping their breasts off, grabbing them by the breasts and hurling them into rocks, cutting their heads off, dismemberment, and so on. It's treated as a joke as well. You see it all the time with critics of so called Mary Sue characters as well. It's as if they're so used to seeing female characters be crapped on in fiction that when the opposite happens, they have to create the scenario they expect in their mind and communicate it with the world in order for everything to seem right with the world. by Pikachu in Feminism
Sat Aug 5 2:23 AM

végétarisme and féminité

Yeah the forum broke a little with a recent update, they should be fixed soon. I will check out your story! I don't know if my French is good enough anymore but you're welcome to ask physics questions. :) by rowan in New Members
Tue Aug 1 2:57 PM

Most distinctive job interview?

I haven't interviewed in a while, but when I was job-hunting, it always struck me how some of the interview formats at the time heavily favored skilled bullshitters. I get the lame straight-forward format: person looks over your resume/CV, and when they find anything that sounds interesting they ask you about it and you discuss and conversation ensues and you try to steer the conversation towards your strengths or points you want to make. This is about substance.

But then, for a while, interviewers started asking these utter bullshit beauty pageant questions: "what is your biggest strength?" "What is your biggest weakness?" "Tell me about a time when you worked successfully as a team." "Tell me about a time when you had trouble working as a team and how did you solve the problem... " Blah blah blah. The first time I got asked any of those I was caught off-guard, gave lame answers. But you bet your ass the 2nd time I had fabulous stories to go with each answer, and the stories were loosely based on reality, but heavily adapted for my audience. And there was quite a bit of acting involved. Fake recollecting, thoughtful pauses... it was exhausting. And maybe they saw through the acting, but maybe they didn't. Who knows. But it made me think "what kind of BS people are getting hired after these interviews???" And it pissed me off a bit, because I knew some of my most competent classmates were shy AF and would probably tank that interview.

by DarkOne in Careers & Education
Tue Aug 1 11:07 AM

How to deal with opinionated toddlers (or babies or kids)

Ooof. My kid is very social, needs to be around someone all the time. It's ... challenging, as you've found. It does get better as they gain their own interests. But it took a long time to get past clingy.

Not having read your post, but just the heading, my response was "wine." But after reading your post, I thought "wine."
by rowan in Pregnancy & Parenting
Tue Aug 1 1:57 AM

bad reasons for having a baby

but I take them to restaurants so I know they end up hating 90% of the things they ask for.


- kid would like a sibling

- maybe people are right about end of life stuff

That's about it. I hated being pregnant, the last time I was pregnant the hormones were... really awful. Plus kid is now pretty big so another one would be weird and we gave away all our stuff. ;)
by rowan in Pregnancy & Parenting
Tue Aug 1 1:47 AM