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US Politics making Global waves.


how are ya'll coping

I'd say drinking but if I start I'll never stop



shit were we supposed to have stopped?

but seriously...I don't know. Life goes on? Everything is terrible and we might die but also everday life is normal and you can take a few minutes to call your senators/representatives as much as possible? There are also progressive groups working really hard to win at the local and state levels. I'd like to get more involved than I currently am.

by octarineoboe in Random
Wed Jan 24 2:43 AM

Tangled: The Series (no spoilers)

Am I the only one who is tickled that it's still "Tangled" even after she cut her hair? :P


And wait, what short? I am so out of the loop.

If you have Netflix, search Disney Short Films Collection. That compilation includes the Tangled short and other entertaining entries.
by DarkOne in Mixed Media
Wed Jan 24 2:27 AM

jesus christ reddit

Unfortunately, it seems like the assholes are always so much louder than the people who enjoy reading what you post. Reddit especially seems to have quite the reputation for horrible behavior among members - it's definitely something that's kept me far away from it*.





*that and I am an old person who really can't figure it out...
by Bork in Ranting
Wed Jan 24 12:51 AM

My Ectopic Pregnancy

FYI we have a general culture in the pregnancy forum here about sharing similar stories as a way to offer support, and also about giving any medical knowledge that we've come across, since pregnancy is generally not talked about as much as it should be and you find information in random places. Since you haven't been around until now you probably didn't know that, and mels' post is well in line with forum guidelines and norms. Please don't go all mod martyr on us now that you're only just back. This is me as a friend speaking here, not with my modhat on.

by rowan in Pregnancy & Parenting
Tue Jan 23 8:47 PM

Dave Chapelle's New Stand Up

This article is relevant because it shows that when the prevailing attitudes are permissive towards anti-trans violence, more of that violence occurs. This is why popular people -- including comics, not just Presidents -- need to be mindful. What they say affects real people.



Dave Chappelle chose to tell an unfunny anti-trans joke to a nervous, quiet room. His joke advanced the narrative that transwomen "trap" men into sex. This was chosen by a consummate professional, why? The joke bombed, and he kept going, kept doing the bit to that quiet room, so he knew it bombed but chose to finish it. He knew it wasn't funny and told it anyway. He told it to make a point. He advanced the narrative that leads to beatings and murders to say: don't tell Dave Chappelle what to do!

by Plotthickens in Feminism
Tue Jan 23 8:19 PM

Flat Earth Discussion

Some of them are trolls, but there are actual real people who actually believe it.



Ok so, I am going to do this in a couple of stages. Stage 1 here is where I explain a bit about how electromagnetism works for real. I will make a couple of references to gravity in here so we can see the parallels and differences. Then in a separate post which will take longer to write I'll try to deconstruct the inconsistencies and misconceptions in their statements.



by rowan in Science & Technology
Tue Jan 23 8:17 PM

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Tue Jan 23 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Jan 23 3:00 AM

Star Wars: The Last Jedi (spoilers)

It seems incomplete to mention Mark Hamill's comment about "Jake Skywalker" (as if that was his final opinion) without also mentioning that Hamill came to respect the character's writing, as expressed in further comments days later:


Entertainment Weekly"> “I’ve had trouble accepting what saw for Luke but again, I mean, I have to say, having seen the movie I was wrong,” he said. “I think being pushed out of your comfort zone is a good thing because if I was just another benevolent Jedi training young padawans, we’ve seen it.”
by Sonic# in Mixed Media
Mon Jan 22 5:50 PM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Jan 22 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Jan 22 3:00 AM

Job

I'm sorry Bork, I've had jobs like that as well and they are THE WORST! I ended up helping my colleagues with their work in the end and it turned out they had all been in similar situations at the beginning too. Not working while working is bad, I can understand why your mental health is suffering. Being a grown up sucks sometimes! by Nachos in Ranting
Sun Jan 21 8:21 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Jan 21 3:00 AM

A Question, but sort of a rant: My New Thoughts of Being Apolitical

When I was in high school I was a bit of a political loudmouth. I mean I would (respectfully) debate that shit anywhere and everywhere I could. This was around the time Bush started a bunch of wars based on reasons we all knew were garbage and which later turned out to be in fact garbage so there was definately sympathy in my suburban canadian high school but I also probably alienated some people. I think though that I made as many friends as I lost and the ones I made were way more interesting. That said read the situation. If it's dangerous to express your opinion or you really will be the only one ever in a room with that opinion you should probably be more cautious. I definitely keep my mouth shut more often (although not always) these days.

by Enigma in Ranting
Sat Jan 20 4:21 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Jan 20 3:00 AM

how do you stay safe from bears?


I super appreciate that you pointed out the dog was ok, Bork


Ditto lol



A man was attacked by bears while letting his dog outside. Dont worry, the dog is ok.



Thats pretty scary when you think about it. He just cracked the door and bear attempts a forced home invasion
by Skeezy in Random
Fri Jan 19 6:20 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Jan 19 3:00 AM

Does anyone wonder?

If you know his full name is that something you can google?



I have a few people I occasionally think about and wonder how they did but in the sense of they were making some bad decisions or seemed at risk and I wonder if they escaped that. (Ex. Casual friend who dropped out at 16 etc) I guess I could google them if I really wanted too though.
by Enigma in Random
Thu Jan 18 10:28 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Jan 18 3:00 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Jan 17 3:00 AM

dangit

on Reddit account number 9 or 10 now. Pm me for newest Reddit username or my Facebook. The short bus has turned into a limo. :schoolbus: :schoolbus: :schoolbus: :schoolbus: :schoolbus: :schoolbus: :schoolbus: :lol: by Mordak in Random
Mon Jan 15 8:20 AM

Can conservative media be saved?

I never thought Bannon would gain any power but the right can work in mysterious ways I guess. Even guys I'd assume were fine end up surprising me and liking right-wing figures and posting things like "hey this guy's onto something" about the google manifesto guy on FB. :| by geldofc in Mixed Media
Sat Jan 13 9:29 PM

MGTOW: titanium dioxide

If you mixed a metric shit ton of Titanium Dioxide into some snow, would it be really funny to watch them freak out when the "snow" refuses to melt?

Thousands Die in Fiery Snow Melt: 3,000+ Degree Weather to Blame
by Sonic# in Random
Sat Jan 13 8:32 PM

MGTOW: Marriage

@taurwen



I understand why you feel the way you do



If your partner demands sex several nights in a row, thats not compromise either. You have to meet each other half way and that involves both parties not having a bad attitude wether your the one who doesnt or the one that does want to.



For example if you say yes even though you dont really want to, try not to have a bad attittude about it and encourage your partner to get you in the mood as best as possible.

by Skeezy in Random
Fri Jan 12 11:24 PM

MGTOW: Introduction


You would understand more about the people you ostensibly reject but feel free to judge from the glass bubble of your own ignorance...


That is why I ask my mother, she have a lot of wisdom in that regards... after that... I don't really think I need to do a PhD in maternity histeria... there is nothing practical for me to use on such topic... I am never going to be pregnant, and if a woman starts to scream a trough objects around the only thing for me to understand is to get out of there as fast as I can... that is a much as practical knowledge I need... the rest is some pleyades that have not use for me. Had I have an interest on the topic, then maybe... but I honestly find it a boring topic... so...

by SimpleMan in New Members
Fri Jan 12 6:20 AM

MGTOW: Masculinity is Dead.


loads of people are attracted to masculine people still (unfortunately!!). maybe MGTOW folks would know this if they didn't self isolate in anger?? i associate masculinity in the real world w abuse often now tbh. feminism lets men feel ok with acting like full human beings rather than getting their self worth from objectifying people, manipulating people, abusing drugs, neglecting people, having an overall low self-esteem, and feeling their fragile masculinity is threatened by women or nb people being sexual or successful or flourishing. way too many men are threatened by women acting like humans or succeeding and it's revolting from my experience!!
by SimpleMan in Random
Fri Jan 12 6:03 AM

MGTOW: I like ice cream


"Poison Ivy Goat Ice Cream" is an anagram of Erotic Spicy Vaginae Moo


I somehow only just saw this response... and now I'm thinking wasn't that a Zappa song? I has to have been...
by MFS in Random
Fri Jan 12 4:07 AM

Debunking Ben Shapiro Transgender claims

he looks and sounds like a complete douchebag. and idk why his boring masculine identity hinges on how completely different men and women are and that's about as far as i would like to read or react to his opinions. by geldofc in Feminism
Thu Jan 11 10:02 PM

My Favourite Joke

That's really cute. I'll keep that mug (or at least the pun) in mind.



Freud was eating dinner at a seafood place with a few friends. He ordered what he thought was a chowder made from conch meat. However, Freud's taste buds made him think it was clam instead, so he asked the server to send it back for some chowder with conch. The server walked it back to the kitchen. Then she heated the chowder, the way she did sometimes for fussy eaters, and waited a minute to make it seem like more was changed. She came out and set it before Freud. He leaned in and took a sip. "Ah!" he explained. "What a clamity! The return of the un-conch-ious!"
by Sonic# in Random
Tue Jan 9 9:59 PM

MGTOW, grasseaters=byproducts

7 MGTOW topics in 15 days, on a feminist forum with very low posting frequency. And you say you're not doing activism, SimpleMan. Despite the fact that one of your stated reasons is to try to get feminists to understand MGTOW so they won't perpetuate the idea that MGTOW is a hate group.You claim that posting stuff online is not activism. So by your logic the hashtag MeToo and #YesAllWomen do not qualify as activism? by Pikachu in Feminism
Tue Jan 9 8:04 PM

MGTOW: I'm sorry I'm male


You just said "I'm not going to be convinced by facts, my friends think I'm right, and I was right before this one time, so I'm still right and you all are bullshitters".



Antivaxxer tinfoil hat shit, yo.


plotthickens



You know that habit you say we have about taking things said with the purposeful intent to read it wrong from whats provided... Yeah.

by Skeezy in Random
Mon Jan 8 9:34 PM

Happy Heatless New Year!

You remembered the word correctly. I think that's how dog whistles are supposed to work, plausible deniability.

Thanks, I really didn't want to search for that.



Yeay for your dexterity! My spouse is an Engineer, the kind that gets it done, not the kind that draws diagrams. The practical kind of Engineer. Practical applications matter: take the credit. You rock and your family is lucky to have you.
by Plotthickens in Ranting
Fri Jan 5 5:38 PM

Have you learned Latin?

Nope; I did a bit if Spanish, German and an obscure language called French at school but have forgotten almost all of it.



Since I watch lots of subtitled films/TV I've picked up a few words of various languages but not much that would be useful beyond saying 'hello', 'thank you' or 'sorry'.
by Tweek in Random
Fri Jan 5 4:45 PM

I might be pregnant...


Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.

by Aum in Pregnancy & Parenting
Fri Jan 5 3:16 AM

Have you ever been on tv?

oh I forgot I was on tv talking about this star when it first came out, nice to see that my speculation of what it probably was is in fact what it is

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/alien-megastructure-thoroughly-ruled-out-around-tabbys-star-180967730/
by rowan in Random
Thu Jan 4 8:02 PM

Movies that are worth watching

This list you're looking for may not exist. But until you find your list, based on what I've heard and read (since I haven't actually seen it yet), Lady Bird should meet your criteria of movies worth watching. by DarkOne in Mixed Media
Wed Jan 3 3:06 PM

What games have you played lately?

We also played dominoes recently. Simple blocking game with two 2-person teams. I think that's the most popular variant in the Caribbean.



Not exactly a game, but I also recently did an Escape Room with a group of friends. It was fun, but maybe we overestimated our wits and should've imbibed a bit less before entering the room. We needed to use hints to escape. That was disappointing.
by DarkOne in Mixed Media
Wed Jan 3 1:54 PM

The ROFLCOPTER is in da house

Made myself a new computer because I can't be fucked reviving my old one just yet. I'm taking the screenshots I downloaded for an important opinion piece to my little blue roflcopter friends from the real world. New computer is nice and shiny. Put it on super-disabled nutcase mode too so I can't lock myself out while zonked again. Transferred important gear onto phone and put that on "Mordak can't use it while drugged to the eyeballs mode" as well. Totally amazed at how disability friendly I can make my computers these days.

by Mordak in Random
Wed Jan 3 6:53 AM