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I might be pregnant...

I never thought about how stopping b/c could be a form of stealthing. edit: it's actually called reproductive coercion and stealthing is the removal of a condom which could also expose someone to a wider range of STDs. I hope long-term couples talk about things like consent and b/c and intoxication prior to anything happening. You should tell your partner asap about stopping your birth control, OP.
by Aum in Pregnancy & Parenting
Sat Dec 16 8:35 PM

harvey weinstein

I feel like any dude coming in here saying women aren't rejected as much/never approach men should have to sit down to a one hour lecture on my romantic history first.

Both genders get rejected and it hurts both equally. Men don't have a monopoly on that.

I thought we were talking about sexual assaults? Why are we now on the topic of men's feelings?
by Aum in Feminism
Sat Dec 16 8:28 PM

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Sat Dec 16 3:00 PM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Dec 16 3:00 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Dec 15 3:00 AM

What are you listening to lately?

I find myself mostly favoring songs from the 90's to now. Im heavy into hip hop like Gucci Mane, Big Sean, Rae Sremmurd but, also like R&B and rock from the 90's. Aside from that I'll pretty much listen to anything that catches my ear. by Skeezy in Mixed Media
Fri Dec 15 12:50 AM

White Supremacists

Passed by this topic a while ago. Wasn't sure who this guy was so I goggled him and am like, oh yeah! the preppy white supremacist. I had a good laugh because the first video of him was of him getting sucker punched during an interview. Karma!

All I can say is ditto minus being feminist
by Skeezy in Ranting
Fri Dec 15 12:37 AM

Do you finish every book?

This question should be on personality tests.

Library due dates with no renewals are just about the only way for me to give up on a book I'm not enjoying. For the most part I read from beginning to end, without skimming.
by melsbells in Mixed Media
Thu Dec 14 9:13 PM

What was your favorite class in school?

elementary school: reading, art, and music

junior high: math

high school: math, band, orchestra, chemistry, and art seminar

university: proof techniques, philosophy of space and time, gamelan, and an immersion trip to a reservation

folk school: weaving, felting, and spinning
by melsbells in Random
Thu Dec 14 9:02 PM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Dec 14 3:00 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Dec 13 3:00 AM

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Tue Dec 12 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Dec 12 3:00 AM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Dec 11 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Dec 11 3:00 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Dec 10 3:00 AM

Just a bit of an intro

You can also browse by using the search function within the feminism forum, or check out the sticky there that has answers to some common questions. But also remember feminism isn't a block, and there are many ideas within it. by rowan in New Members
Tue Dec 5 8:18 PM

Because I just had to be THAT guy at Disney

it said 30 min for Ariel when we were there but it took longer than that. IDK why, most of the line times were pretty accurate.

I noticed they hand cards to some guests getting in line. It's apparently to help estimate the rate of people entering. If there was a big influx prior to when the cards were actually counted, the time might not have changed until after you entered the grotto.

by Unvoiced_Apollo in Random
Mon Dec 4 3:39 PM

"There Are No Safe Spaces"

The anti-censorship on campus groups are actual nazis though.

If by right-winger you mean the dudes who want to control what I can do with my body or force me to have children I'm not ready for I'd consider him a misogynist.
by geldofc in Feminism
Fri Dec 1 8:32 AM

what type of hair brush do you use?

I use a wide paddled wooden brush that a friend gave me aout 8 years ago.... it's supposedly anti-static. I think it works? Probably because I've not compared it to other brushes in the last 8 years... by Nachos in Random
Thu Nov 30 1:49 PM

Pants, slacks, or trousers?

Yeah, realizing that leggings are okay for everyone to wear was an amazing revelation. PANTS THAT ARE ACTUALLY COMFORTABLE FOR THE ENTIRE DAY.

I think of pants, slacks and trousers all as different things, although I’m not entirely sure I can explain what differentiates them from one another.

Underwear is what’s worn underneath, I don’t know what Tweek is talking about.
by Bork in Random
Wed Nov 29 4:41 PM

Healthy attraction, socializing, and consent

Some things:

* I always ask "can I have a hug" of my nephews/nieces. I never say "give me a hug" and if they say "no" then that's fine. I do this with my kid too, and recently I reminded her that it's totally ok if she doesn't want to, she never has to when she hesitated. Pretty much have taught this to the family too, so no one pressures the kids, and I think that's a HUGE thing.

* When I was teaching I always explicitly told my students what I preferred to be called (by first name), but also gave them other options if that made them uncomfortable. I always asked students what they wanted to be called. I told all my students I'd call them what they wrote their names on their papers. Sometimes people would go by middle names, sometimes a nickname. I think I had a higher proportion of students who would ask me to call them by their Hmong or Chinese name than my colleagues because of that. Sometimes they'd laugh it off saying "you can call me X because it's easier" and I'd say "I'll use the name you prefer."

by rowan in Feminism
Wed Nov 29 4:40 PM