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I can see this as growing a certain sense of solidarity, but I would be surprised it if reached beyond those who already know. I don't think I know any women or feminine presenting people who haven't been sexually harassed or assaulted. Participants in the hashtag show the enormous amount of people affected, but doesn't really get at the frequency, which I think it part of the normalization. I feel uncomfortable with the seeming contradiction that participating could be"outing" oneself* at the same time as being an every day normal occurrence, but I know they're both true. Many twitter users mentioned people using the hashtag but only sharing stories they can stand to share, but I would be surprised if there weren't for the majority, more incidents than they bother counting, only a few stick out and of those some might be too difficult to share. Even if everyone used the hashtag, I don't think it would get at how pervasive sexual harassment and assault are. by melsbells in Feminism
Mon Oct 16 9:45 PM

Boy Scouts Will Accept Girls

We did basically everything the boy scouts did but boy scouts always seemed a bit more militaristic?

They were founded by someone (Robert Baden-Powell) who wanted to make young soldiers more prepared for huffing it in the wilderness of the British Empire, so there's that. :/ (I think he also founded the Girl Guides.)

We were usually led by active service or former military people in my troop. So there was an extra level of pre-military prep going on. It wasn't bad per se (it was focused more on ethos and morale than, say, combat), but it was one more factor that influenced many of my troopmates to eventually join the military.
by Sonic# in Feminism
Mon Oct 16 7:06 PM

Do you light candles?

Sometimes, usually more in the fall/winter than spring/summer. I ate by candlelight a few times recently because the light above my dining table burned out and it took a little while to replace it. by Bork in Random
Mon Oct 16 5:52 PM

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Mon Oct 16 3:00 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Oct 16 3:00 AM

I think I need a new laptop....

I got a new one! And it is finally finished installing and is now super fast :) Got an ASUS Vivobook S in a dark blue/grey colour with 12GB RAM and 1TB harddrive and a good typable keyboard and an external CD player in the end. I think I am happy with it! Time will tell.... by Nachos in Science & Technology
Sun Oct 15 8:44 PM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Oct 15 3:00 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Oct 14 3:00 AM

donwanna adult today

Bahaha, I shouldn't laugh, because I GETCHA... but I laugh because this is my work badge lanyard. Hopefully by now it's better, and if not, hey, it's Friday!

I did get a cookie and apple cider shortly after posting that whining! It helped with the despair but not with the grad school.
by DarkOne in Ranting
Fri Oct 13 11:17 AM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Oct 13 3:00 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Oct 12 3:00 AM

What's your favorite polygon?

^sorry, not a polygon, though an excellent choice of polyhedron. You might want to check out the rhombicosidodecahedron, if you're after fun polyhedron to say.

favorite polygon: hexagon

I can't even figure out how to pronounce that. o.O
by Zzz in Random
Wed Oct 11 4:11 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Oct 11 3:00 AM

Brush or comb?

i use a wide-toothed comb in the shower.

i usually let my hair air dry because it's curly and i think blow-drying makes it look less nice but if i straighten my hair (maybe 1x a week) i'll use a round brush.
by geldofc in Random
Wed Oct 11 2:14 AM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Oct 10 3:00 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Oct 10 3:00 AM

Sex robots vs Fictional female characters.

im glad socially isolated men can take their anger out on inanimate objects that look like women instead of harassing us directly or semi directly.;)

fictional characters would be even better. they can isolate themselves even further away from us.
by geldofc in Feminism
Tue Oct 10 12:18 AM

What's your favorite way to get around?

I thought about it but I answered that for like 20 in a row. Plus I never really use it to *get* places I just fly around lol

Though I guess I don't bike everywhere either.

Of things I do use to get places I prefer public transit, but only if it's not going to be 5 times slower than driving. I think my choices on getting places are 1) is it possible 2) is it practical and are fairly limited by those two things.
by rowan in Random
Fri Oct 6 10:43 PM

Are you breaking the law?

Unrepentant torrent pirate here, so yeah.

Ohhhhhh yeah... I forgot that counts as breaking the law...
by Bork in Random
Thu Oct 5 6:08 PM

On the Subject of Vaping

Rowan, it could be because of where you live. Some states and cities have very tight regulations on sales of vape products and e-liquid. It can be anything from banning fruit or candy flavors to requiring a vendor to meet absurdly specific requirements for the security of their shop. Really, there's a number of possible reasons you don't see many people vaping. From what I understand Calabasas, California has the most strict laws regarding vaping in public spaces (including outdoors). They essentially treat it exactly the same as smoking tobacco, which is not allowed at all in any public spaces. Not knowing where you live, I obviously can't say for sure what the reason would be.

by Zzz in Random
Thu Oct 5 1:48 AM

What are you trying to remember?

I am trying to remember a lot of things from my past. I suck at remembering things in general. I've heard anecdotally that you remember more things from your early childhood when you are elderly. I hope that's true. I've had a great life and it is really sad to not have 100% accurate videorecorded memories of good experiences.

I especially wish I could remember what the house I lived in as a child looked like. I mean, I mostly remember the floorplan, but it would be cool to revisit the memory of that house with my current perspective.
by dorkorama in Random
Tue Oct 3 10:39 PM

How on earth do you keep track of your passwords???

I have two systems.

1) My work computer comes with KeePass, which I believe is free software with a master password that keeps track of all your other passwords. But I only use it for a few passwords since it's a work computer, and could be theoretically taken at any time (there were layoffs this year and I saw how that worked). For MOST of my passwords, though, I use the most stupid system one could possibly use...

2) I am ashamed to admit that I have a folder in my email with most of my usernames and passwords. I know, I know this is dumb. I am a bad hoomin. But it has worked for me up to this point (8 years running) and I haven't implemented a better system that I can access as easily at any point.

by dorkorama in Ranting
Tue Oct 3 10:33 PM

what's the last movie you saw?

i watched lady gaga's documentary gaga: five foot two. IMO she's the greatest pop star around. she speaks on some feminist points in the doc. she said even, i believe, certain male producers (one named Mark with fluffy hair) expect her to take their abuse. they get away w doing it to other women around her because of their perceived power.

they also show gaga singing a piano version of bad romance which is excellent! :rainbowsmile:
by geldofc in Mixed Media
Tue Oct 3 8:33 PM

Rape culture doesn't exist

I first came to understand the term "rape culture" as a descriptive category of all things that make rape acceptable or normalize rape within a given culture. Stop right there to break it down, because "rape culture" isn't an argument about how acceptable rape is, just a category of the things that tilt the scale in the direction of accepting rape as normal or "as a reasonable consequence of being alive. When people get upset about the existence of the concept of rape culture, they're upset about a few different things, one is that they don't believe the prevalence of rape, which rape culture can be used as an explanation. Another is that they don't believe the existence of the things in the category. Usually, they go hand in hand, but I find them different, yet overlapping conversations.

by melsbells in Feminism
Tue Oct 3 8:22 PM

What's something important that you know is in a junk drawer?

So many things. It really shouldn't be called a junk drawer. Instruction manuals (which came super in handy when I was trying to figure stuff out with my smoke alarm this weekend!), a hammer, a screwdriver, a hex-wrench set... maybe tool drawer would be a better term. Or maybe it's time to get a real tool kit... by Bork in Random
Mon Oct 2 7:53 PM

Laughing at the not funny

Planting drugs is one thing. When I was actually living in the city the cops would sometimes do what is called a "sweep." They would just pick a spot and arrest anyone walking by who didnt have I.D. Since its mostly done in residential areas, half the neighborhood would be in bookings. Its one of the most unconstitutional things Ive ever experienced twice.

While caught in one, I spoke to one of the officers, "I only live 2 blocks away, do you take I.D. when you walk your dog?. He replied, "I dont need to."

by Skeezy in Ranting
Sat Sep 30 2:07 PM

hi everyone~I'm new here, could anyone do me a favor pls?

This ^^^. Plus, I'd think you are biasing your results by fishing in a feminist forum for survey responders on the topic of feminism. It just seems like bad sampling practices, unless you are focusing on feminist social media...

by lovernotafighter in New Members
Thu Sep 28 10:17 PM

The Becky Thing

I'm not sure why this thread has stuck in my mind, but I don't think generalized statements like "white women who work at non-profits" needs to be qualified. The author beats the "not all white women" cat call to the punch, and yet the reaction is still there. I think of the white woman who told me that the non-profit she worked for was trying to shut down Planned Parenthood clinics, and in doing so stop the genocide of unborn black babies. I'm not sure where she got the idea that dismantling local health clinics would help the problem she perceived. "Non-Profit" and "NGO" is often used as a sort of leftist calling card, but there's no inherent political alignment and no criteria that what they're even attempting to do is good. by melsbells in Ranting
Tue Sep 26 7:12 PM