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what countries have you visited?

Canada, Finland, Sweden, Norway, Estonia, US (couldn't visit until I stopped living there), Germany, France, Russia, Denmark, Portugal, Spain

I never expected to have been so many places, but it doesn't feel much different than traveling between States in the U.S.
by melsbells in Random
Fri Mar 23 7:30 PM

what are you reading?

I'm envious of your kid. I've got my hands on the first two Tiffany Aching books about this time last year. Libraries do better at sharing where we moved to, so I'm hoping I can find more Pratchett in English. by melsbells in Mixed Media
Fri Mar 23 7:22 PM

Worst Part of Job Hunting

Pantsss are my fave part of job hunting. I do hate updating my resume and trying to figure out what to add and what to take out (I know FORTRAN!!!, but really, i KNEW FORTRAN at some point...) and wondering if I really submitted this same crap resume before with that awkward phrasing... Nope, that won't do, I need to rewrite that section. And holy hell did I really do all that in graduate school and at my first job? I hope they don't ask about that because I don't remember it anymore... by DarkOne in Polls
Fri Mar 23 7:09 PM

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Fri Mar 23 3:00 PM

Quiz: What Color Are You?

Forget the four-color quizzes, this one displays your personality as one of the hundreds of named HTML colors.
Fri Mar 23 3:00 AM

The Baby Due Date Statistics Survey

I wondered if due dates were accurate. 5,000+ internet friends chimed in. See the charts here.
Thu Mar 22 3:00 AM

Feminist Therapy

From my experience, non-feminist therapists will side with men, especially if they're "charming" men. I've also had a therapist side with me over my mom and it wasn't helpful. She said something that I heard as a misogynist generalization. I don't want to go to any couples' or family therapy when they're biased and lacking knowledge like that. It's a waste of time. by geldofc in Feminism
Wed Mar 21 7:28 AM

Pregnancy Calendar

For geeky moms like me who need to remember not just what week they're on, but their percent completion.
Wed Mar 21 3:00 AM

job application sites

I totally forgot about this one job board that I go to where you have to clear your cookies every time before you log in or it fails. Also, it times out after 15 minutes. >.< I seriously bookmarked "clear cookies" at the top of my toolbar so I can just do it. Ugh. by rowan in Ranting
Tue Mar 20 8:16 PM

Links to Spacefem Elsewhere


Tue Mar 20 3:00 PM

Happy birthday DarkOne!

Teeeheee. Thanks everyone! For the congrats and the wishes and creepy sheep :spin: and the polar night skies and the dark poetry!

Looked up the sonnet and the author. She wrote that while in prison? If so, it gives it another layer of darkness. I enjoyed it. While the night doesn't make her desolation any better, it doesn't make it worse by demanding more energy than she has to expend. There are no motions to go through, she can just crawl up into her hole. I can understand the exhaustion of being depressed and having to pretend everything is fine during the day and the relief that comes with quiet.

by DarkOne in Random
Tue Mar 20 12:45 PM

Mnemonic device generator

Type in letters you want to remember, we'll make up a funny sentence to help
Tue Mar 20 3:00 AM

10-Second PHP Tutorial

The fastest introduction I could possibly muster.
Mon Mar 19 3:00 PM

MGTOW The Sexual Marketplace


All women aren't situated the same.

Regardless of how you feel about it this does happen. It pnly was a story because it happened to a tycoon.

by Skeezy in Random
Mon Mar 19 2:48 PM

Quiz: What kind of engineer should you be?

Engineering is one of the coolest jobs in the world, but there are so many disciplines it can be a little daunting to choose one for yourself! I wasn't happy with the existing quizzes, they were mostly way too direct (do you like bridges or wires? uh...) or way too career-spammy, and they were all way too serious. So with that in mind I took some personality traits and kinda did my best attempt at mapping them to engineering fields. It's not scientific or accurate because it really doesn't matter, engineers do so many things and move around so much there's no way to predict what path you'll end up on... so relax! This point of this test is to combine the fun of a personality quiz with the usefulness of a career test... hey look at that, fun AND useful? It's getting engineer-y already!
Mon Mar 19 3:00 AM

The Skirt Pattern Calculator

I like to sew. This calculator tells you how to make an arc for any skirt you've got the fabric for - just type in your measurements.
Sun Mar 18 3:00 AM

Quiz: Do you need a boyfriend?

Are you a young single gal wondering if you need a man? Take our quiz.
Sat Mar 17 3:00 AM

Professional photos of you online

Honestly it's more likely that someone will not hire me based on my twitter than on my blue hair. tbh if they can't handle my anti-racism tweets then fuck them.

I was just surprised that someone could see a fun photo on a client-facing website - no alcohol, no beer, just less than a shirt and tie - and think I couldn't lead staff.

Yeah that's just weird bullshit
by rowan in Careers & Education
Fri Mar 16 1:44 PM

MGTOW: Enthusiastic Consent

A strange mixture of "going" yet sticking around to obcessively try to make women "regret" what they'll be missing

This is like an ex yelling insults from the sidewalk. Yes, we know you're not going to fuck us anymore. If we say we're crushed and sad will you go away?
by Plotthickens in Random
Sat Mar 10 2:48 PM

Took Zumba for the first time

I think as long as you don't go "giggity giggity",

Damn, no wonder I was getting weird stares...j/k. Though I was wringing my hands because of the awkwardnes.

But it's sticking. I'm actually trying to figure out if I want to take the class tomorrow. I'd like to do it with yoga but they're spaced out too far apart.

by Unvoiced_Apollo in Random
Sat Mar 10 2:31 AM

What's your least favorite smell?

ooooooooo yeah, vomit is definitely up there. Especially because smelling vomit makes me want to vomit.

My boyfriend cooks eggs in a cast iron pan, and I don't know if he just overcooks his eggs, or it's residual eggs from past breakfasts, or if that's just how eggs scrambled in a cast iron pan smell, but it's terrible. I'm very tempted to ban him from using my cast iron because I really can't deal with how awful it smells. And it's in the morning too, when I'm already super grumpy.
by Bork in Random
Wed Mar 7 2:04 AM

Book recommendation

I don't have any recommendations to add, but I wouldn't give "Feminism is for Everybody" to a bunch of conservative white Christian women. I think the chapter on religion could cause them to turn on the rest of the book.

Point taken. Guess how many copies of this my local library system carries? Zero. Over 1M volumes, and we carry zero copies. Le Sigh.
by DarkOne in Feminism
Tue Mar 6 8:53 PM

The female price of male pleasure

I don't really see the point of comparing which sex has the best pleasure or the worst sexual experience at the expense of the other sex.

I don't think this is the point. When women aren't aware of what "good" sex is -- outside of just "not too painful" -- then we literally get women who don't know that sex can feel good. That they are capable of enjoying the act, that it's not just something to suffer through. Sex and money, the two biggest reasons relationships fall apart. "Close your eyes and think of England" should be in the far, far past.
by Plotthickens in Feminism
Sun Mar 4 9:37 PM