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by Metcodon1
Mon Mar 7, 8:36 2016
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Why have children if you want to work (aka it's 1950!)
Replies: 7
Views: 3468

Re: Why have children if you want to work (aka it's 1950!)

SO apparently the comments are moderated (at least eventually), which I had no idea since this is the first time I've been published there. They've deleted a lot of the retro stuff, which apparently was about half the comments (the count went from 99 to 52). I'm not sure how I feel about that. On th...
by Metcodon1
Sat Mar 5, 15:38 2016
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Why have children if you want to work (aka it's 1950!)
Replies: 7
Views: 3468

Why have children if you want to work (aka it's 1950!)

This is kind of a mixture of ranting and feminism and parenting so I'm not sure which forum it belongs in (feel free to move it). Here goes.... I recently had a post published by Scary Mommy ( http://www.scarymommy.com/daycare-best-option-for-family/ ) about why my family of 2 working parents prefer...
by Metcodon1
Fri Feb 19, 19:39 2016
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Advice on dealing with a sick baby
Replies: 4
Views: 2773

Re: Advice on dealing with a sick baby

I totally agree about having pain reliever and saline on hand as MUST have items before the baby is born (more important than 85% of the things that make it onto standard "must have" lists). I would also add to that having an anal thermometer handy and also diaper rash cream. You may be thinking "ho...
by Metcodon1
Sun Feb 14, 12:18 2016
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: spacefem's guide to baby-led weaning
Replies: 10
Views: 4294

Re: spacefem's guide to baby-led weaning

Nope! Not doing anything wrong. I think feeding methods can be really child dependent. My daughter was like your bub until she was about 9 months. She dug the purees but had no interest in finger food for a long time. My son - who is I think exactly the same age as your bub (born July 31st) - will s...
by Metcodon1
Thu Jan 14, 12:52 2016
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Group B Strep
Replies: 26
Views: 7591

Re: Group B Strep

I really encourage you to let go of the "label" of natural birth. It's not like some magic wand that is the one true way to guarantee good outcomes and everyone else is screwed. I assume you're doing this because you want to give your baby and yourself the best chance - great! Unfortunately, we're n...
by Metcodon1
Fri Jan 8, 15:07 2016
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: not excited about others' pregnancies
Replies: 15
Views: 8214

Re: not excited about others' pregnancies

Having said all that, if anyone had tried to tell me any of this before, I don't think I would have listened in any case. I thought I knew everything when I was pregnant, whereas now I know I was ridiculously naive. This times a million. I think there is such a communication rift between people hol...
by Metcodon1
Tue Nov 24, 12:26 2015
Forum: Mixed Media
Topic: post mindlessly amusing links here
Replies: 18
Views: 11250

Re: post mindlessly amusing links here

My husband wrote this (I think) hilarious screed against most/many children's toys...

This is a slightly self promoting post, but seriously... Most kids toys are THE WORST

http://products.acrossb.com/2015/11/toy ... ay_18.html
by Metcodon1
Sun Oct 25, 14:13 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: medicated vs. unmedicated birth
Replies: 31
Views: 9705

Re: medicated vs. unmedicated birth

To the ladies contemplating VBAC, please pardon the presumption on my part but you are all relatively new mothers, no? It took me a good 15 months post my first labor to come to a place of peace. If it's been less than 2 years, give it some time. I just want to share my experience on that topic. I h...
by Metcodon1
Tue Oct 13, 12:13 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: medicated vs. unmedicated birth
Replies: 31
Views: 9705

Re: medicated vs. unmedicated birth

Look, I think we need to differentiate between a couple of things. Whether you get pain relief and what kind, is obviously personal choice in most cases. So I support you whatever you do. Pain relief intervention, however, is not to be confused with life saving interventions like c-sections for tran...
by Metcodon1
Wed Oct 7, 8:04 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: medicated vs. unmedicated birth
Replies: 31
Views: 9705

Re: medicated vs. unmedicated birth

I had planned on natural birth both times. My practitioner was an ob with a fantastic reputation for supporting natural birth and as the only doctor in her practice, she delivers all her own babies. Both times I delivered in the birth center inside a hospital. There was a bath tub, to labor or give ...
by Metcodon1
Fri Oct 2, 9:42 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: hospital vs homebirth
Replies: 19
Views: 6280

Re: Real stats for C-Sections?

I also want to say that opting for pain relief is a completely valid choice. It doesn't have to do with fear and I'm pretty sure women have been aware that childbirth hurts for all eternity. Feminism is about choice and women taking back control over their own bodies. That choice and control goes bo...
by Metcodon1
Fri Oct 2, 5:36 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Vaccines
Replies: 40
Views: 10363

Re: Vaccines

Because babies can't get the whooping cough vaccine until they are 2 months old. That means they are NOT protected for those 2 months. If my parents weren't vaccinated I wouldn't let them visit until the baby got the shot either.
by Metcodon1
Wed Sep 16, 10:26 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: sleep deprivation
Replies: 3
Views: 1731

Re: sleep deprivation

I am of the opinion that usually parents have to teach their kids to sleep, kind of how we have to teach them everything else. Sure there are the magic children that are just born magic and make their parents lives easy. I have not had any of these children so, I wouldn't know about that. I really r...
by Metcodon1
Sun Sep 13, 8:06 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Newborns are difficult!
Replies: 24
Views: 6739

Re: Newborns are difficult!

Definitely things will get better and different - I promise! However, here is some practical advice (though as with all parenting, your mileage may vary). This worked/works with my kidos (second one just 6 weeks old - high five) - stroller, carrier, swing. Mine also slept ok at night but during the ...
by Metcodon1
Sat Sep 5, 14:14 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: What do you wish you had known?
Replies: 5
Views: 2676

Re: What do you wish you had known?

This one is so hard because it's so different for everyone. I think it's really hard to predict how motherhood will change things for you (or how you'll respond). I know women who thought they knew they wanted lots of children and to be stay at home moms and were calling their old jobs 4 weeks after...
by Metcodon1
Sun Aug 23, 11:55 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Body Betrayal
Replies: 10
Views: 2695

Re: Body Betrayal

I'm going to disagree with Spacefem here about the membrane sweep. That's not quite the same thing as a cervical check. The cervical check has no purpose other than curiosity. However, it sounds like you're at the point where you're likely to end up with interventions anyway, and possibly ones much ...
by Metcodon1
Wed Aug 12, 11:02 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: mom guilt bingo
Replies: 11
Views: 8106

Re: mom guilt bingo

So I totally do/did some of the stuff on the board but don't feel guilty (sushi and wine, for example) but OMG on the injury front. My 2 year old is currently walking around with a big old bruise on her cheek and I have nooooo idea where that came from (that's worse than knowing how they injured the...
by Metcodon1
Mon Jul 27, 8:13 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Braxton Hicks questions
Replies: 17
Views: 5370

Re: Braxton Hicks questions

In my experience "real" contractions are pretty much the whole uterus (top, bottom and lower back). I remember reading somewhere that the ones that get you dilated from 0-7/8 cm are largely the muscles pulling up, trying to stretch the cervix out. As a result many people largely do feel them most st...
by Metcodon1
Mon Jul 27, 8:06 2015
Forum: Ranting
Topic: *warning* Pregnancy past-due-date-rant *warning
Replies: 25
Views: 5134

Re: *warning* Pregnancy past-due-date-rant *warning

Hi five to the overdue crowd! I'm 4 days overdue right now with my second baby. My first baby finally made her entrance 11 days past my due date (2 days before my scheduled induction). I agree it totally sucks... Some things to consider: 1. Just because you're being induced doesn't mean you won't be...
by Metcodon1
Fri Jul 17, 7:11 2015
Forum: Feminism
Topic: Kid movie feminism: Why couldn't there be female Minions?
Replies: 33
Views: 5454

Re: Kid movie feminism: Why couldn't there be female Minions?

If you would like a real world example of women being ignored in science even when they do ground breaking research, there are quite a few of them from the history of science. One of my favorite is Barbara McClintock (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barbara_McClintock).
by Metcodon1
Thu Jul 16, 7:43 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Braxton Hicks questions
Replies: 17
Views: 5370

Re: Braxton Hicks questions

I did get pitocin post labor to help things shrink down. It's standard of care and one that has some really good data around it as far as preventing postpartum hemorrhage (if you have an unmedicated birth they offer it is a shot in the leg). However, the effects of pitocin wear off after 24 hours, a...
by Metcodon1
Wed Jul 15, 7:03 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Braxton Hicks questions
Replies: 17
Views: 5370

Re: Braxton Hicks questions

I call contractions my "ever present friends". I had them starting with around 34 weeks last pregnancy and about 32 weeks this time around. I will say this - everyone kept telling me they were BH but towards the end of my last pregnancy I was having a lot of really painful ones. This terrified me fo...
by Metcodon1
Tue Jul 14, 9:40 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Newborns are difficult!
Replies: 24
Views: 6739

Re: Newborns are difficult!

Hang in there!!!! The first 6 weeks are soooooo sooo the hardest. I remember, meeting up with a mom who was in my birth class, but whose daughter was born a month before mine, right around the time that my daughter was about 4 weeks old. And I practically jumped at the other mom and said "OMG!!!!! C...
by Metcodon1
Sun Jun 21, 13:28 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Pregnancy insomnia
Replies: 19
Views: 5403

Re: Pregnancy insomnia

Fwiw, Zeph, benadryl is considered safe in pregnancy (the problem is that it knocks *me* out tooooo well).
by Metcodon1
Sun Jun 21, 13:26 2015
Forum: Pregnancy & Parenting
Topic: Diaper bags
Replies: 7
Views: 3014

Re: Diaper bags

We did use a small diaper bag for the first 18 months or so of my daughter's life. We live in an urban area and so don't have a car. As a result, the bag pretty permanently lived hanging on the stroller. We carried diapers, wipes, sunscreen (in summer), a blanket (in winter), and an extra outfit (no...