My husband left me

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My husband left me

Post by lillerina » Wed Jun 7, 13:45 2017

Yeah, see the title. It sucks. It sucks that a relationship I thought was so strong and solid crumbled so easily when another woman crooked her finger at him. It sucks that I had uprooted my life to move to be with him and then he announced that he doesn't love me any more. It sucks that I feel so humiliated by this. It sucks that now I have to face the prospect of dating again while being a sober, 27 year old queer divorcee. It fucking sucks.

It's been nearly 3 months now and it still sucks. I'm not crying every day any more, but it's horrible.

He actively pushed away a spacefemmer friend of mine because he was jealous of our friendship, and then he did this. Men are the worst*.

*This is emphatically not the thread for any manner of 'not all men' conversation. Just don't.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Bork » Wed Jun 7, 14:44 2017

What the FUCK, dude???? That is massively fucked up of him. It is inconceivable to treat someone like that, and I am so sorry that you're having to go through this. Fuck his fucking bullshit.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by octarineoboe » Wed Jun 7, 15:39 2017

Oh lillerina I am so, so very sorry. I am also a few months out from a major breakup and i am in 800% agreement that men are the worst. I wish I had something more substantive to say but, yeah, it just sucks so much, and fuck him, and I'm sorry and I'm sending all the virtual spacefemmer love I can imagine. And that's a lot, I am very imaginative.

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Re: My husband left me

Post by Sonic# » Wed Jun 7, 15:45 2017

Shit. What Bork said, and also shit.

I'm sending respect and good thoughts your way. If there's anything else you need to say, I'm happy to listen.

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Re: My husband left me

Post by DarkOne » Wed Jun 7, 15:56 2017

Well Shit.

Shit. Shit.

If you're into virtual hugs from quasi-stranger femmer semi-n00bs, a virtual mega hug for you. Or we can break stuff.

Anywho. Shit. I hope every day gets a little bit less sucky.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Eravial » Wed Jun 7, 16:42 2017

Oh lilly, I'm so sorry. Fuck him!! That is so much bullshit and so, so opposite of what you deserve. You are so strong and I know you will heal, but it sucks so much that you have to go through this. Take care <3.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Storage and Disposal » Wed Jun 7, 16:48 2017

Yeah, that's terrible.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by melsbells » Thu Jun 8, 2:30 2017

I'm so sorry lillerina. Whatever you need, we'll be here.

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Re: My husband left me

Post by rowan » Fri Jun 9, 7:26 2017

OMFG I am so sorry that is horrible!

You are awesome, he's an asshole, and you deserve hella better than that. *hugs*
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Nachos » Fri Jun 9, 9:48 2017

Oh no! I am so so so sorry. :( Many internet hugs and love coming your way. If you want to meet and break stuff together, I shall be in Scotland during the first week of Fringe. And I'm not an axe murderer. Rowan and Charli! can attest to that :P

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Re: My husband left me

Post by lillerina » Fri Jun 9, 16:46 2017

Thanks guys. I feel really supported. I've been doing a lot of crying today - there are good days and bad days - remembering all the good things that won't happen again. Even the mediocre things that won't happen again, like me having to make a list of what I want for my birthday and list exactly where to get everything. The silly in-jokes. The word play. The snuggling.

I'm also really scared that nobody else will ever find me lovable or attractive and that this means I'm doomed to be alone forever. That bit is particularly hard today.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by rowan » Sat Jun 10, 21:24 2017

*hugs* Take the time to grieve, that's important.

More :kkf: for him

I do attest that Nachos is not an axe murderer, and not only that is very fun to hang out with.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Tweek » Wed Jun 14, 9:39 2017

I'm really sorry to hear that Lilly; I hope things start to improve for you soon.
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Nachos » Sun Jun 18, 17:52 2017

*more hugs for you today*
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Re: My husband left me

Post by MFS » Mon Jun 19, 21:43 2017

:(
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Aum » Tue Jun 20, 14:09 2017

Lil, I'm so sorry to hear about this. If it's any consolation, you're not the only one experiencing this right now. My partner, who was so full of promises and hopes in the beginning, is leaving me too. My frustration is the lack of staying power. It's like these guys can't see through their own desire, or at least talk things out so that they can work. The human heart is a complicated thing. :(

I also feel your pain about the little losses... like the inside jokes, the vocab we came up with together that nobody else understands, our silly exclusive rituals. You know, the things that made it unique and special.

You'll be loved again. You're 27 and an awesome human being. The best is yet to come.

(Sorry if this counts as unsolicited advice. I just feel compassion for you.)
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Re: My husband left me

Post by Charli! » Thu Jun 22, 13:35 2017

Oh I'm so sorry :( *hugs*

And, though we never tested this with any axes, I concur that Nachos is not an axe murderer. Me neither, last time I checked.

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Re: My husband left me

Post by geldofc » Fri Jul 21, 4:02 2017

that's awful.
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