This can be an upsetting topic, but after passing a pregnancy test and facing so much uncertainty about my future I just wanted something to make me feel a little more... in control. For me, that's statistics. So based on some human embryo survival rates - overall and at 6, 8, and 10 weeks, I did some curve matching to calculate the risk of miscarriage at each day of an early pregnancy. The data here is based on a study of 600 women who were tested daily for pregnancy while trying to conceive, so early pregnancies were all evaluated for survival rate. The numbers are an estimate, but they're something.
The following dates are based on an estimated LMP of February 6th, 2015.
|Date||Progress||Overall probability of miscarriage|
|Friday February 27th, 2015||3W, 0D||33%|
|Saturday February 28th, 2015||3W, 1D||32.9%|
|Sunday March 1st, 2015||3W, 2D||32.6%|
|Monday March 2nd, 2015||3W, 3D||32%|
|Tuesday March 3rd, 2015||3W, 4D||31.3%|
|Wednesday March 4th, 2015||3W, 5D||30.3%|
|Thursday March 5th, 2015||3W, 6D||29.2%|
|Friday March 6th, 2015||4W, 0D||28%|
|Saturday March 7th, 2015||4W, 1D||26.6%|
|Sunday March 8th, 2015||4W, 2D||25.2%|
|Monday March 9th, 2015||4W, 3D||23.6%|
|Tuesday March 10th, 2015||4W, 4D||22.1%|
|Wednesday March 11th, 2015||4W, 5D||20.5%|
|Thursday March 12th, 2015||4W, 6D||18.9%|
|Friday March 13th, 2015||5W, 0D||17.3%|
|Saturday March 14th, 2015||5W, 1D||15.8%|
|Sunday March 15th, 2015||5W, 2D||14.4%|
|Monday March 16th, 2015||5W, 3D||13%|
|Tuesday March 17th, 2015||5W, 4D||11.7%|
|Wednesday March 18th, 2015||5W, 5D||10.5%|
|Thursday March 19th, 2015||5W, 6D||9.4%|
|Friday March 20th, 2015||6W, 0D||8.4%|
|Saturday March 21st, 2015||6W, 1D||7.5%|
|Sunday March 22nd, 2015||6W, 2D||6.6%|
|Monday March 23rd, 2015||6W, 3D||5.9%|
|Tuesday March 24th, 2015||6W, 4D||5.3%|
|Wednesday March 25th, 2015||6W, 5D||4.7%|
|Thursday March 26th, 2015||6W, 6D||4.3%|
|Friday March 27th, 2015||7W, 0D||3.9%|
|Saturday March 28th, 2015||7W, 1D||3.5%|
|Sunday March 29th, 2015||7W, 2D||3.2%|
|Monday March 30th, 2015||7W, 3D||3%|
|Tuesday March 31st, 2015||7W, 4D||2.8%|
|Wednesday April 1st, 2015||7W, 5D||2.6%|
|Thursday April 2nd, 2015||7W, 6D||2.5%|
|Friday April 3rd, 2015||8W, 0D||2.4%|
|Saturday April 4th, 2015||8W, 1D||2.3%|
|Sunday April 5th, 2015||8W, 2D||2.2%|
|Monday April 6th, 2015||8W, 3D||2.2%|
|Tuesday April 7th, 2015||8W, 4D||2.1%|
|Wednesday April 8th, 2015||8W, 5D||2.1%|
|Thursday April 9th, 2015||8W, 6D||2.1%|
|Friday April 10th, 2015||9W, 0D||2.1%|
|Saturday April 11th, 2015||9W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday April 12th, 2015||9W, 2D||2%|
|Monday April 13th, 2015||9W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday April 14th, 2015||9W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday April 15th, 2015||9W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday April 16th, 2015||9W, 6D||2%|
|Friday April 17th, 2015||10W, 0D||2%|
|Saturday April 18th, 2015||10W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday April 19th, 2015||10W, 2D||2%|
|Monday April 20th, 2015||10W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday April 21st, 2015||10W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday April 22nd, 2015||10W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday April 23rd, 2015||10W, 6D||2%|
|Friday April 24th, 2015||11W, 0D||2%|
|Saturday April 25th, 2015||11W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday April 26th, 2015||11W, 2D||2%|
|Monday April 27th, 2015||11W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday April 28th, 2015||11W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday April 29th, 2015||11W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday April 30th, 2015||11W, 6D||2%|
|Friday May 1st, 2015||12W, 0D||2%|
|Saturday May 2nd, 2015||12W, 1D||2%|
|Sunday May 3rd, 2015||12W, 2D||2%|
|Monday May 4th, 2015||12W, 3D||2%|
|Tuesday May 5th, 2015||12W, 4D||2%|
|Wednesday May 6th, 2015||12W, 5D||2%|
|Thursday May 7th, 2015||12W, 6D||2%|
All numbers are estimates. If you have better research, drop me an e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org).I used information from two studies to make my assumptions: Wilcox AJ, Baird DD, Weinberg CR (1999). "Time of implantation of the conceptus and loss of pregnancy." and Wang X, Chen C, Wang L, Chen D, Guang W, French J (2003). "Conception, early pregnancy loss, and time to clinical pregnancy: a population-based prospective study.". I was not able to obtain full access to the second one, but based on citations I believe I had the numbers I needed for this.
The studies analyzed women who were trying to conceive for the first time.
There is a page of good studies here: https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general that compares risks based on age, whether you've heard a heartbeat, previous miscarriage, and hosts of other factors.
Charts are generated by flot.
I admit I haven’t been around here a ton lately but I didn’t know babySonic had arrived! Congrats!!!!
Alas I don’t have any actual advice. My college besties (a married couple) and I fantasize about sharing a house, and they are actively trying to have kids, so we talked about that possibility a little bit, but right now we live in different cities and they don’t have a kid yet so it’s all speculation. But I think it could probably work - as the prospective non-parent I would want to make sure I had my own kid-free space in the house and we were really clear about responsibilities ahead of time, eg, I’m a roommate not an all-purpose babysitter, how will this affect the split of other housework, etc.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
You can continue discussing with him the difference of a boy and a girl. Have him socialize too with the same gender. There's nothing wrong if you have go with opposite sex as long as he understands what/who he is.
So do you feel hanging out with the opposite gender at a young age can confuse a person's gender identity?
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I found this article (
The findings suggest that solo motherhood, in itself, does not result in psychological problems for children.
The lit review at the beginning of the article adds some specificity here. What seems hard on kids is not single parenthood itself; it's often the divorce that results in a single parent being involved.
Then there are people who become single parents, but not by choice. That's also rough, often because these parents lack the financial stability and stability to do well. So the article is really looking at
These studies have consistently shown that children whose parents divorce are more likely to show emotional and behavioral problems than are children in intact families (Amato, 2000, 2001, 2005; Coleman & Glenn, 2009; Hetherington & Stanley-Hagan, 1999; Pryor & Rodgers, 2001). However, the children’s difficulties appear to be largely associated with aspects of the divorce, rather than single-parenthood, in itself. single parents by choice
Not having read your post, but just the heading, my response was "wine." But after reading your post, I thought "wine."
Yes. After bedtime.
Also, honestly the only way we made it through was we would take turns being the center of focus. We still do this, divide and conquer (and she's only one kid, hell). Also, I know people are like really limit screen time BUT if you really need to get something done one episode of e.g. Daniel Tiger or Paw Patrol or whatever isn't gonna be too bad. I think DarkOne has some good ideas too.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
egg freezing seems like a good option esp if you have extra time and money.
but I take them to restaurants so I know they end up hating 90% of the things they ask for.
- kid would like a sibling
- maybe people are right about end of life stuff
That's about it. I hated being pregnant, the last time I was pregnant the hormones were... really awful. Plus kid is now pretty big so another one would be weird and we gave away all our stuff.