This can be an upsetting topic, but after passing a pregnancy test and facing so much uncertainty about my future I just wanted something to make me feel a little more... in control. For me, that's statistics. So based on some human embryo survival rates - overall and at 6, 8, and 10 weeks, I did some curve matching to calculate the risk of miscarriage at each day of an early pregnancy. The data here is based on a study of 600 women who were tested daily for pregnancy while trying to conceive, so early pregnancies were all evaluated for survival rate. The numbers are an estimate, but they're something.
The following dates are based on an estimated LMP of October 28th, 2017.
|Date||Progress||Overall probability of miscarriage|
|Saturday November 18th, 2017||3W, 0D||33%|
|Sunday November 19th, 2017||3W, 1D||32.9%|
|Monday November 20th, 2017||3W, 2D||32.6%|
|Tuesday November 21st, 2017||3W, 3D||32%|
|Wednesday November 22nd, 2017||3W, 4D||31.3%|
|Thursday November 23rd, 2017||3W, 5D||30.3%|
|Friday November 24th, 2017||3W, 6D||29.2%|
|Saturday November 25th, 2017||4W, 0D||28%|
|Sunday November 26th, 2017||4W, 1D||26.6%|
|Monday November 27th, 2017||4W, 2D||25.2%|
|Tuesday November 28th, 2017||4W, 3D||23.6%|
|Wednesday November 29th, 2017||4W, 4D||22.1%|
|Thursday November 30th, 2017||4W, 5D||20.5%|
|Friday December 1st, 2017||4W, 6D||18.9%|
|Saturday December 2nd, 2017||5W, 0D||17.3%|
|Sunday December 3rd, 2017||5W, 1D||15.8%|
|Monday December 4th, 2017||5W, 2D||14.4%|
|Tuesday December 5th, 2017||5W, 3D||13%|
|Wednesday December 6th, 2017||5W, 4D||11.7%|
|Thursday December 7th, 2017||5W, 5D||10.5%|
|Friday December 8th, 2017||5W, 6D||9.4%|
|Saturday December 9th, 2017||6W, 0D||8.4%|
|Sunday December 10th, 2017||6W, 1D||7.5%|
|Monday December 11th, 2017||6W, 2D||6.6%|
|Tuesday December 12th, 2017||6W, 3D||5.9%|
|Wednesday December 13th, 2017||6W, 4D||5.3%|
|Thursday December 14th, 2017||6W, 5D||4.7%|
|Friday December 15th, 2017||6W, 6D||4.3%|
|Saturday December 16th, 2017||7W, 0D||3.9%|
|Sunday December 17th, 2017||7W, 1D||3.5%|
|Monday December 18th, 2017||7W, 2D||3.2%|
|Tuesday December 19th, 2017||7W, 3D||3%|
|Wednesday December 20th, 2017||7W, 4D||2.8%|
|Thursday December 21st, 2017||7W, 5D||2.6%|
|Friday December 22nd, 2017||7W, 6D||2.5%|
|Saturday December 23rd, 2017||8W, 0D||2.4%|
|Sunday December 24th, 2017||8W, 1D||2.3%|
|Monday December 25th, 2017||8W, 2D||2.2%|
|Tuesday December 26th, 2017||8W, 3D||2.2%|
|Wednesday December 27th, 2017||8W, 4D||2.1%|
|Thursday December 28th, 2017||8W, 5D||2.1%|
|Friday December 29th, 2017||8W, 6D||2.1%|
|Saturday December 30th, 2017||9W, 0D||2.1%|
|Sunday December 31st, 2017||9W, 1D||2%|
|Monday January 1st, 2018||9W, 2D||2%|
|Tuesday January 2nd, 2018||9W, 3D||2%|
|Wednesday January 3rd, 2018||9W, 4D||2%|
|Thursday January 4th, 2018||9W, 5D||2%|
|Friday January 5th, 2018||9W, 6D||2%|
|Saturday January 6th, 2018||10W, 0D||2%|
|Sunday January 7th, 2018||10W, 1D||2%|
|Monday January 8th, 2018||10W, 2D||2%|
|Tuesday January 9th, 2018||10W, 3D||2%|
|Wednesday January 10th, 2018||10W, 4D||2%|
|Thursday January 11th, 2018||10W, 5D||2%|
|Friday January 12th, 2018||10W, 6D||2%|
|Saturday January 13th, 2018||11W, 0D||2%|
|Sunday January 14th, 2018||11W, 1D||2%|
|Monday January 15th, 2018||11W, 2D||2%|
|Tuesday January 16th, 2018||11W, 3D||2%|
|Wednesday January 17th, 2018||11W, 4D||2%|
|Thursday January 18th, 2018||11W, 5D||2%|
|Friday January 19th, 2018||11W, 6D||2%|
|Saturday January 20th, 2018||12W, 0D||2%|
|Sunday January 21st, 2018||12W, 1D||2%|
|Monday January 22nd, 2018||12W, 2D||2%|
|Tuesday January 23rd, 2018||12W, 3D||2%|
|Wednesday January 24th, 2018||12W, 4D||2%|
|Thursday January 25th, 2018||12W, 5D||2%|
|Friday January 26th, 2018||12W, 6D||2%|
All numbers are estimates. If you have better research, drop me an e-mail (firstname.lastname@example.org).I used information from two studies to make my assumptions: Wilcox AJ, Baird DD, Weinberg CR (1999). "Time of implantation of the conceptus and loss of pregnancy." and Wang X, Chen C, Wang L, Chen D, Guang W, French J (2003). "Conception, early pregnancy loss, and time to clinical pregnancy: a population-based prospective study.". I was not able to obtain full access to the second one, but based on citations I believe I had the numbers I needed for this.
The studies analyzed women who were trying to conceive for the first time.
There is a page of good studies here: https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/miscarriage-general that compares risks based on age, whether you've heard a heartbeat, previous miscarriage, and hosts of other factors.
Charts are generated by flot.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
egg freezing seems like a good option esp if you have extra time and money.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
You can continue discussing with him the difference of a boy and a girl. Have him socialize too with the same gender. There's nothing wrong if you have go with opposite sex as long as he understands what/who he is.
So do you feel hanging out with the opposite gender at a young age can confuse a person's gender identity?
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I found this article (
The findings suggest that solo motherhood, in itself, does not result in psychological problems for children.
The lit review at the beginning of the article adds some specificity here. What seems hard on kids is not single parenthood itself; it's often the divorce that results in a single parent being involved.
Then there are people who become single parents, but not by choice. That's also rough, often because these parents lack the financial stability and stability to do well. So the article is really looking at
These studies have consistently shown that children whose parents divorce are more likely to show emotional and behavioral problems than are children in intact families (Amato, 2000, 2001, 2005; Coleman & Glenn, 2009; Hetherington & Stanley-Hagan, 1999; Pryor & Rodgers, 2001). However, the children’s difficulties appear to be largely associated with aspects of the divorce, rather than single-parenthood, in itself. single parents by choice but I take them to restaurants so I know they end up hating 90% of the things they ask for.
- kid would like a sibling
- maybe people are right about end of life stuff
That's about it. I hated being pregnant, the last time I was pregnant the hormones were... really awful. Plus kid is now pretty big so another one would be weird and we gave away all our stuff.