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We're still not pregnant. BUT... now is a good time to make sure you're taking your Prenatal Vitamins. You don't have to put too much thinking into these, I just took the store brand ones from Target, and my doctor said that at first they don't even have to be prenatals. Just a simple women's one a day would do the trick. But in my experience, prenatals are the same price, and you'll have to switch eventually anyway, so it doesn't hurt to start them early.
You should be taking some kind of vitamin now though, so your body is getting enough folic acid to prevent birth defects. A while back there was a report about green tea interferring with folic acid absorption, so you might want to keep that to a cup-a-day or less if you're concerned. Folic acid has been shown to prevent some serious birth defects. It's recommended that we get 400 µg a day... prenatal vitamins tend to have twice that amount, probably in case your forgetful distracted pregnant self skips a day.
Prenatal vitamins also have reduced amounts of vitamin A. So no, you cannot just double up on normal vitamins if you're out of prenatals, you'll be getting too much of a bad thing, vitamin A in larger amounts is a toxin to fetuses. You might also watch for vitamin A levels in things like protein shakes, meal replacement supplements, acne medications and skin lotions.
Anyway back to topic of remembering to take these freaking things... first pregnancy, I tried, I really did, I kept a bottle at home and at work and still failed a few times. Second time around I used one of those pill boxes with the days of the week that they give to old ladies and heart patients... sad but true! I do not believe that pregnancy makes you dumber, but I do believe it makes you... preoccupied. Who can blame us? It's life changing stuff going on here, of course the mind will wander!
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.