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It's about time for Maternity clothes! Once upon a time on some random list of tips for pregnant women I read that it's still important to dress professionaly at work while pregnant. Buy maternity clothes, have some nice outfits. See if there are people you can borrow from.
I wore my normal clothes until around week 14, when I sprung for a Be Band that I really liked. It's just a tube of spandex you wear over your pants so you can unbutton them and nobody knows. It worked great for me, got me through a good six weeks or so, and then I had to get real maternity clothes.
I'm tall, so options were limited. I bought the "tall" size pants at Motherhood and was able to let the hem out another inch, and they were almost long enough. I tried to sew myself some maternity pants but failed because I thought I could just sew normal pants with a stretchy tummy panel. I did not anticipate the dramatic ass expansion, the hip expansion, the thigh expansion... are you getting the picture?
If you find a good deal on non-maternity pants that are a couple sizes bigger than your other pants, go ahead and buy them. No they won't last you long in pregnancy, but they'll work for a few weeks, and they'll come in VERY handy after you have the baby. It takes your body a long time to get back, and returning to work in maternity clothes feels really unsexy. You'll definitely spring back, do not lose hope, but it takes months.
Towards the end of my pregnancy, I was outgrowing EVERYTHING. I was down to 4-5 things that worked, and every week one of those items fell off the list. I know I was repeating outfits towards the end, and I told several people that if I went past my due date (which was on a Friday) I'd be returning to work in tents or sheets or mumus or a bathrobe.
Oh and my last tip: I laughed at "maternity underwear". I shouldn't have. Okay maybe specific maternity underwear isn't that necessary, but I definitely should have gotten some bigger underwear, because I totally ruined several pairs by over-stretching them. By the end of pregnancy I finally caved and bought, like, four pairs of big underwear and I just did laundry a lot, but then after I had the baby I couldn't exactly run downstairs and do laundry. This resulted in a nasty tearful fight with the sleep-deprived husband who doesn't like to be barked at to "WASH SOME CLOTHES NOW"... let's just say it was a low point.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.