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My Mom got me Dr. Oz's book "YOU: Having a baby!". It's good, and kinda goes into that "fourth trimester" of partpartum recovery and newborn cares so that's helpful.
One thing I remember about it is the oddly large emphasis on dental care. Go to the dentist per the normal recommended six month schedule, follow their recommendations, get issues taken care of. Gingivitis can lead to bacteria that's harmful to your growing baby, much more harmful than any dental procedure ever could be.
And I can honestly say, I had tooth issues while pregnant. I didn't get cavities but my gums grew more sensitive and I swore my teeth were shifting, gaps were getting bigger, food stuck in them bothered me more.
I realize "parasite" is an insensitive word for the little miracles we're growing, but the fact is calcium gets taken from us whether we can spare it or not, and it's tough on your teeth. Those babies take what they need to grow bones. I should have flossed religiously, earlier. Yes I tried to get calcium, I took my prenatals, it didn't help.
Came across the article on the Triple Test, and figured I'd put in my non-experience.
I hate to say this but I'm not a big fan of genetic screening. I feel like it's something we do just because it's there. There's no "perfect baby" test, but there is a Down Syndrome test, and I think its main purpose is to give pregnant women something to freak out about. I've seen way too many board posts of women lamenting the fact that the test came back showing that their chances are .002% higher than average. Personally, I read up on the tests and decided that it had a stupid false positive rate and could only really lead to more tests and skipped it. I can understand that some people in high risk situations really want to know their situation, but most couples get it because they want to feel comfy and they give no thought to what the results will mean to them because they figure it'll be just perfect. Is Down Syndrome even the worst thing ever, anyway? If your chances are 1/1000 and the test didn't exist, would you give it a second thought? Just my two cents.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.