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I put Lunar month on the list because there's confusion in general about how pregnancy months "work", and sometimes people try to explain their bad math by saying 280 days of pregnancy is "10 lunar months". This is not true, because a lunar month is not 28 days. A calendar month is also not 28 days. There are not special "pregnancy" months that get to be 28 days. Nothing about anything with the word "month" in it is 28 days.
This means that there's no month that equals four weeks, so you can't find out how many months you are by dividing by 4. Don't ask me why this is such a big deal to me, I just hate it when people get their weeks and months wrong. Maybe it's a pregnant engineer thing?
So let's talk about what's right...
The most correct thing would be to talk about your months in terms of calendar months. If your last period was September 4th, then on October 4th you're one month pregnant, November 4th you're two months, December 4th you're three months, etc.
The "mathy" thing to do would be just use assume the average month is 1/12th of a year, or 30.4 days. A week is 7 days. So there are 30.4/7 = 4.34 weeks in a month.
Either method means that the weeks don't nicely evenly fall when the months do... and that's okay! For example, you're now at 21 weeks, which is one of those weird ones. At the beginning of being 21 weeks pregnant, you're 4 months pregnant. At the end of being 21 weeks pregnant, you're 5 months pregnant.
I've heard people say they were 4 months pregnant because they were 16 weeks along... nope. I've had them tell me they were 5 months pregnant when they were only in their 5th month... there's definitely a difference there. During your first year of life, you're not 1 year old, right?
People we're bringing new life into the world. The least we can do is check our math!
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
You can continue discussing with him the difference of a boy and a girl. Have him socialize too with the same gender. There's nothing wrong if you have go with opposite sex as long as he understands what/who he is.
So do you feel hanging out with the opposite gender at a young age can confuse a person's gender identity?
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.