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The Biblical names is here just in case you still need ideas.
I decided this week that I have a new least-favorite question: "Have you thought about names yet?"
Yes, we've thought about names. We look at websites, we've gotten library books, we reviewed the family trees and accepted suggestions from at least 3/4 of the Wichita population.
And yes, some things jumped out at us, but we still don't see a need to settle on a name three months before the kid is born. Some people just know what name they love before they're even pregnant and that's great, but it's not me. I like open options. That's a problem because other people really don't seem to mind talking about baby names until they can dig me out of the ambiguity. I don't think baby names are a terribly interesting conversation topic but apparently I'm alone in this. I've been stuck at dinner parties trying desperately to change the subject, because I'm bored to death by it, but it's amazing how people just come RIGHT BACK TO NAMES. And they want you to react, they want you to say, "OMG you're right Helga IS the perfect name I just never thought of it before you said it, thank you so much I'm forever in your debt!" Until you do, they won't drop it. They want this problem solved.
I don't even like telling people our top candidate names, or types of names I like, because it just makes the conversation last longer. Or they tell us which of our candidates they like or don't like, which I totally don't care about. Maybe you knew a "Brook" who was a total crack addict but I didn't, so it's still a good name to me, and you know if we named our kid that they wouldn't bad-mouth it the same way because it's done, right? That's what I want... that no-going-back stage where no one tries to correct or persuade you.
I just recently got comfortable with referring to my unborn child as a "baby", which I feel is justifiable because she's way past the viability date and when we see her on the ultrasound, she looks like a baby. But I'm not ready to think of her as a PERSON, with a name and a birth certificate and a social security number. She's never seen the world or used her voice or made a decision... so why should I be making decisions? In three months I'll get to meet her, and then her name will make sense. No need to rush things.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.