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I'm one of those women who had no signs of pregnancy except for a missed period and those drugstore tests... I could have totally missed it! I was feeling weird, like "any day now" morning sickness could sneak up and grab me and I'd never feel the same.
I also of course wondered if it wasn't a "real" pregnancy... my doctor had no interest in seeing me before week 8, so I felt totally on my own, and was scared to DEATH that I wouldn't stay pregnant. Talking to people helped so much. I found out that one of my best girlfriends was her moms first baby, but second pregnancy. She said yes, it's scary that miscarriage risk is always looming, but if her mom hadn't had one she might not be there! Making babies is a big deal, nature wants to make sure you use the perfect egg. It relaxed me a tiny bit.
Mom had also told me that I was allowed to call her at any time and she would drop whatever she was doing and listen... she's got a job where she can't exactly do that all the time, but she assured me it was okay. Just don't feel like you have to go through anything alone, she said, any feeling, and doubt.
This week in Wikipedia: Our Bodies, Ourselves. My sister got me the pregnancy version of this book as a "congratulations!" present because she didn't want me getting all my health info off the scary internet (good call) and it's a very nice book. It's a balanced view of all things pregnancy, from start to birth.
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
You can continue discussing with him the difference of a boy and a girl. Have him socialize too with the same gender. There's nothing wrong if you have go with opposite sex as long as he understands what/who he is.
So do you feel hanging out with the opposite gender at a young age can confuse a person's gender identity?
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.