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I told no one I was pregnant except very close family and friends... my rule was that if I didn't want to tell people I'd had a miscarriage, they didn't get to know I was pregnant until week 13 (which is a little dramatic, a lot of people use week 10 because risk is pretty low by then too). My husband, on the other hand, was not so great at keeping secrets. And to make matters worse, he's a club dj. With access to a microphone. And lots of places he worked then picked up his bar tab. You do the math on that one. I was flattered that the guy was so excited, but weirded out to go out and see him and be surrounded by all these people congratulating me when no one I worked with knew I was pregnant!
In the meantime, the man thought he might have the flu so he went to the doctor and they weren't too concerned until he said his wife was pregnant... well CALL OUT ALL THE STOPS. My doctor didn't care to see me, but he gets a flu test, bloodwork, a chest x-ray! I hadn't even had bloodwork! As it turned out he had bronchitis. He said, "What if I give this to my wife?" They said, "Well, being pregnant sucks. Having bronchitis sucks. She'll be pretty mad." And that was my medical consultation for the month.
I threw some movies onto the Wikipedia list because you've got to relax and appreciate pregnancy's lighter side. For Keeps is a Molly Ringwald movie from 1988 about high school students who decide to keep their baby. I put it in the "so bad it's good" category.
When I worked in a biligual Kita, the kids picked up loads from simply being read to and pointing out the different things. Sometimes a question came up ("that is a pferd", "it's called horse in English", "ok horse") and it's good to know both languages to understand what the kid is saying, but reading is a good together activity
I would say its very important, because what you learn shapes and molds yours views that make you who you are.
Aum, my partner and I were just discussing this. He was surprised by my taking the hard line that stopping BC or poking holes in condoms or something like that is rape, making the woman a rapist. Which should result in jail time, so she should lose custody, which should go to the father and now he has the choice of keeping the baby or putting them up for adoption.
It's unfortunate that you can't prove such a thing, but hopefully if it was actually taken seriously women would be less likely to do it because it would at least be explicitly called rape.
I understand how the justice system and the family courts would look at it. They see it as the man's sperm made it to the egg so somehow he wasn't protecting himself, he made the choice, yada yada. There's no way to prove that the woman was manipulative, withdrew BC, or "poked holes in the condom" (I think that's unheard of, but anyway).
I topped baby off tonight. He straight up drank 7 ounces of formula after his prunes. If he's an infiltrator, he's eating well for it.
I am still dealing with the fact that your 11 year old is an actual 11 year old.
My father-in-law spends a lot of time with the kid, mostly by choice. I sometimes wish we had more of a schedule, because at the moment, naps and bedtime are the only semi-guaranteed breaks for anyone. My spouse and father-in-law both work from home free-lance, so they don't actually have a schedule for when they need to be left alone, but at least my father-in-law has more warning with jobs scheduled out in advance.
I'm sorry for your loss. Ectopic pregnancies are scary, and I would like to go punch that first doctor in the face for you.
PPD is awful too.
You can continue discussing with him the difference of a boy and a girl. Have him socialize too with the same gender. There's nothing wrong if you have go with opposite sex as long as he understands what/who he is.
So do you feel hanging out with the opposite gender at a young age can confuse a person's gender identity?
If a boy who has a penis asks if he's a boy and you don't just say yes, then that's straight up lunacy.
What he decides to do with that boyhood or how he dresses is up to him. But if you're born with a penis you're a boy.
Making it airy fairy when, statistically, scientifically, less than 1% of 1% of children born have true gender dysphoria, is immoral and wrong. It's also a sign of our troubled times.
This is just my anecdotal experience but...
I have experienced bullying based on simply engaging in normal children's play with girls. Insults were attacks on both me and the girls. But I NEVER questioned my gender as a male. So if a child asks me if he's a boy and was identified biologically as one, I am going to question what influences are on the child before I answer.